One of the groomsmen at a relative’s wedding was also an old college acquaintance of mine. We hadn’t kept in particular contact over the years, but we made sure to set aside a few minutes for as much conversation as was permitted by the dance music blasting over the loudspeakers.…
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7 Attitudes that Hinder Recovery from Sexual Sin
Why is recovery from sexual sin so incredible difficult? I believe millions of Christian men and women have realized that they have become hooked by this powerful sin and feel so defeated because it seems like no matter what they do they keep coming back for more. I know because…
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10 Gospel-Centered Accountability Principles (or, How a Puritan Might Run an Accountability Group)
How do we slay the power of sin in us? What means has God given us to destroy sinful lusts? Too often we look for the answer to that question on a vertical plane only: we expect sin-killing power to flow through prayer, fasting, Scripture meditation, or some other personal spiritual…
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How do I hold someone accountable for their porn use?
Neuroscientist William Struthers talks about how you can be a good friend to someone who is harming themselves with repeated use of pornography. How do you hold someone accountable for their use of pornography? Struthers mentions several good points… 1. Avoid shaming Guilt is that feeling we get when we…
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Lust After Death: Advice to a Widower Who Fantasizes About His Wife
A week or so ago I received an e-mail from a man whose wife passed away recently. They had been married for nearly 40 years. In his loneliness, he says, he fantasizes about times of intimacy with his wife and masturbates. He knows it would be wrong to fantasize about anyone else,…
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Can I Circumvent Covenant Eyes?
There are ways to circumvent Covenant Eyes accountability software, not the least of which is to go down to the local library and use its computers instead of your own. Those who are bent on getting around a fence inevitably find a way. From time to time, we hear from…
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It’s All About Me: The Problem with Masturbation – Book Review
Winston Smith has been counseling for more than 15 years and is the author of a variety of CCEF resources related to marriage and sexuality. His minibook “It’s All About Me” attempts to tackle the questions “What’s the harm of masturbation?” and “What can I do to stop?” Smith’s goal…
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I was a married woman tempted by porn…
I was the quiet girl growing up who desperately tried to blend into the crowd. My dad was a teacher in the same school district I attended, and the first day of school each year was pretty much the same. My name would be called, and the teacher would tell…
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The Lies of Lust: Promises That Never Deliver
The “Lust Trap” can reel you in anytime, anywhere. Its strong pull brings you in like a sci-fi tractor beam. The graphic imagery of Proverbs 7 describes it like an ox going to slaughter, a deer walking into a noose, or a bird darting into a snare, little knowing it…
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Shame’s Massive Role in Porn Use
Many of us tend to think we feel shame in response to using pornography. What might surprise you however is that the reverse is also true. The more we feel shame, the more we will be drawn to use pornography. Why? Shame drives us to behaviors that reinforce the judgment…
