I was 36, married for 15 years, serving in our Church, attending life group and sending our girls to a Christian school to help raise them in the ways of the Lord. I thought pornography was something non-believers looked at. I didn’t really know what it entailed. I never imagined…
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4 Reasons Shame Cripples Spouses of Addicts (and How to Overcome It)
“My husband is the sex addict; why should I feel shame?” For most healthy outsiders, the logical answer is, “You shouldn’t.” But for most spouses of sex addicts, the feeling of shame clings to us like a body suit. Shame can result from an overwhelming assault on our self-worth. It…
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Day 10: When to Seek Counseling
Today, Brandon and Tonia discussed the role counseling played in their marriage. For Tonia, it was a breath of fresh air—a safe place to let out all of her emotions. When Brandon saw how it was helping her, he began to realize that it wasn’t just for people who couldn’t…
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How Long Will It Take My Spouse to Heal from My Betrayal?
In this article I will use the terms wife or she for the betrayed spouse because that is the focus of my work. However, the information applies regardless of whether the betrayer was the husband or wife. Several years ago I had a client come see me about her second…
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How to quit porn as a Christian
In one sense, quitting porn as a Christian is no different from quitting porn for anyone else. There are time-tested strategies you can use and steps you can follow to ensure that you break free for good. And yet, as a Christian, you’re not just looking to modify your behavior.…
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33 Reasons to Abstain from Porn
Knowing that porn is wrong is not the struggle for me. Staying motivated to abstain from it…now there’s the real struggle! To give myself a fresh shot of motivation, every single morning I remind myself of 33 reasons why I must abstain from porn. I call it “My Personal Purity…
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Does Anti-porn = Anti-sex?
As a Christian, and as someone who regularly speaks out about the evils of pornography, I am often accused of being anti-sex. This is an interesting but extremely faulty generalization to make. Historically, there have been segments of the Christian church that have viewed sex as a necessary but nonetheless…
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3 Steps to Stop the Habit of Masturbation
Some time ago, we received a comment about quitting masturbation: “I have eliminated porn from my life. How can I break the habit of masturbation and lust? Every time I get overwhelmed or stressed out, my mind clicks off and I end up giving in to the lust, masturbation, and…
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Why “Covenant Eyes”? A Look at Job’s Covenant
Why is Covenant Eyes called “Covenant Eyes”? We can find the answer in Job 31. As someone who has struggled with pornography addiction and has found a measure of liberty (and someone who is also given to endless navel-gazing), I’ve asked a lot of difficult questions about real freedom and…
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Willing To Be Healed
Ten years old. That’s when it started. I had begun to feel strange urges to look at women without their clothes on, but couldn’t bring myself to talk about these feelings with my parents. Instead, I gave in. Using the Internet Explorer on my Wii U, I exposed myself, completely…
