I often have wives ask me what they can do to help their husband recover from porn or sexual addiction. Every time I hear this question my heart sinks a little because I fear if she is asking this question her priorities might be off base. It isn’t that there…
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For Allies: How to Respond When Your Friend Looks at Porn
Brian hopped on his laptop to see if any grad schools had gotten back to him yet. He knew he had just sent out his transcripts an hour before, and he knew that clicking the refresh button on his browser had no scientific ability to generate new emails that had…
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In Memory of Gary Wilson
Gary Wilson passed away on May 20, 2021. Wilson was one of the world’s foremost anti-porn researchers and advocates. In 2012, Wilson’s TEDx talk called “The Great Porn Experiment” was posted and now has over 14 million views. He also wrote the bestselling book, Your Brain on Porn, and ran a website by the same name. Gary Wilson’s incredible breadth of knowledge about the…
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How Porn Shattered My Life (Scholarship Winner)
I was 36, married for 15 years, serving in our Church, attending life group and sending our girls to a Christian school to help raise them in the ways of the Lord. I thought pornography was something non-believers looked at. I didn’t really know what it entailed. I never imagined…
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4 Reasons Shame Cripples Spouses of Addicts (and How to Overcome It)
“My husband is the sex addict; why should I feel shame?” For most healthy outsiders, the logical answer is, “You shouldn’t.” But for most spouses of sex addicts, the feeling of shame clings to us like a body suit. Shame can result from an overwhelming assault on our self-worth. It…
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The Common Reality of Early Porn Exposure
The sad reality for nearly every adult who struggles with porn is that their compulsive porn use started in childhood. In the more than two decades I that have been working with hundreds of men and women trying to overcome pornography addiction, I have met only one who did not…
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Day 12: Change the Channel
Over the last few weeks, we’ve learned a lot! We looked at the brain chemicals behind porn, and how a person’s brain is literally rewired by porn for porn, using shame as one feeder system. We also looked at the role of allies, and how removing isolation breaks the shame…
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33 Reasons to Abstain from Porn
Knowing that porn is wrong is not the struggle for me. Staying motivated to abstain from it…now there’s the real struggle! To give myself a fresh shot of motivation, every single morning I remind myself of 33 reasons why I must abstain from porn. I call it “My Personal Purity…
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Does Anti-porn = Anti-sex?
As a Christian, and as someone who regularly speaks out about the evils of pornography, I am often accused of being anti-sex. This is an interesting but extremely faulty generalization to make. Historically, there have been segments of the Christian church that have viewed sex as a necessary but nonetheless…
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3 Steps to Stop the Habit of Masturbation
Some time ago, we received a comment about quitting masturbation: “I have eliminated porn from my life. How can I break the habit of masturbation and lust? Every time I get overwhelmed or stressed out, my mind clicks off and I end up giving in to the lust, masturbation, and…
