My Kid Saw Porn on Another Kid’s Device at School I calmly sat across from my friend and explained to her the “Bring Your Own Technology” fiasco that had happened recently at school. As my daughter and her friend worked together on a collaborative project using the internet as a research tool, she clicked on the wrong tab on her friend’s computer. The tab revealed a paused movie depicting lesbian porn. My daughter was in the sixth grade. “How are you going to tell her parents?” my friend asks me. Tell her parents? I thought. I hadn’t planned on telling … Continue reading →
What You Don’t Know Can Hurt You Imagine you go to the doctor and learn that you might have cancer. You are sent home and told to come back next week to find out. You don’t know if you have cancer, what kind, or your prognosis. Suddenly you don’t know what your future looks like or how much of a future you even have. As you look at your kids, you’ll wonder if they will have to grow up without a mom or dad. You don’t know your own reality anymore. What will you focus on during that next week? Will … Continue reading →
Ask any counselor, psychologist, or therapist, and they will all agree that accountability is essential to lasting freedom from pornography. But what, after all, is accountability? And why is it so important to recovery and healing? In the minds of many, accountability should harness the power of fear and shame to motivate change. Put another way, the person being held accountable is driven to change their behavior because they are deeply afraid of their faults being revealed and of being condemned for them. In this way of thinking, fear drives recovery—fear of the searing pain of being ultimately rejected for … Continue reading →
Church Governance Is Failing The recent news of abuses perpetrated by pastors and priests against children and women, and subsequent cover-ups and lack of accountable oversight, are a crushing blow to the church governance. With church attendance in rapid decline and skepticism in religious institutions increasing, recent revelations about the behavior of church leadership at Willow Creek and Catholic Churches in Pennsylvania are a gut-punch to the Bride of Christ. Scripture tells us, “For the word of the cross is folly to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God” (1 … Continue reading →
James 1:14-15 clearly outlines the process of temptation, “But each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed by his own lust. Then when lust has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and when sin is accomplished, it brings forth death.” In this passage, we find six stages of the process of dealing with temptation and sin. They are: Being carried away Being enticed by your own lust Lust conceives Sin is born Sin becomes accomplished Sin brings forth death Temptation occurs in the first two stages of being carried away and enticed by our own lust. If we do … Continue reading →