The short answer is when you are in heaven. The real question should be: why do I need accountability? If I can really understand why I need accountability, then the “when will I no longer need accountability” will answer itself. Everybody needs to have accountability on an ongoing basis because of three very powerful and true realities. Why Accountability? Because of Our Sinful Nature First, we all need accountability because of something that dwells inside of our body. There is this part of us that the Bible calls our flesh or sinful nature. We are born with it. It begins to … Continue reading →
Watching Children Make Bad Choices is Hard What should we do when a child chooses to walk a path not in line with sexual purity? What if we put into practice everything we learn from experts and books and a child still ignores us? Or maybe a child does follow our guidance when they are young, and even through their teen years, but walks away as a young adult. I have no statistics to quote, but watching my friends and parents I work with, this seems to be a very common story. When even one child in a family chooses … Continue reading →
It’s the thing nobody in the church wants to talk about. But it kills more marriages, drains more hearts, and ends more ministries than anything else. It’s the elephant in the church–pornography. The church has only three available responses: ignore it, condemn it, or address it. We have chosen to address it. For the pastor who dares to address from the pulpit what people are talking about in the pew, the veil can be lifted. Where there is shame, we offer hope. It’s time for the church to become the biblical community where healing can take place. To that end, … Continue reading →
How it is on the Screen is Not how it is in Real Life One of the most severe things porn does to someone is shape their brain to start seeing men and women in real life the way they see men and women in porn. I was addicted to pornography from seventh grade through my freshman year of college and I always thought the porn I was looking at was staying self-contained within itself. When I was looking at the porn, I thought I had set up a fence in my brain which categorized the women in porn over … Continue reading →
My Kid Saw Porn on Another Kid’s Device at School I calmly sat across from my friend and explained to her the “Bring Your Own Technology” fiasco that had happened recently at school. As my daughter and her friend worked together on a collaborative project using the internet as a research tool, she clicked on the wrong tab on her friend’s computer. The tab revealed a paused movie depicting lesbian porn. My daughter was in the sixth grade. “How are you going to tell her parents?” my friend asks me. Tell her parents? I thought. I hadn’t planned on telling … Continue reading →