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Until recently, there was an app called “Girls Around Me” that consolidated public data from Facebook and Foursquare and listed the females (or males) nearby. It was legal, if creepy, and it was the perfect tool for so-called pickup artists: “Hey, do you remember me from [listed high school or…
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Fast food. High-speed internet. Instant message. Streaming on demand. Same-day shipping. Our culture doesn’t like to wait. And there’s little reason to bother with waiting these days—if your current provider can’t do it now, someone else probably can. Porn is the fast-food variety of sex. It’s right there, a ready-made,…
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Something happened to me when I started watching porn. I didn’t notice the change right away, but my wife could sense that something odd was going on. There was an unfamiliar look in my eyes, and I was starting to drift away from her emotionally. Allie and I had always…
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I don’t like the word “accountability partner” any more than I like the word “diet,” and I dislike them both for the same reason. They sound like an exception and a punishment rather than a lifestyle and a gift. No one is going to live on a diet or in…
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These days, we’re often told to believe in ourselves, build our self-esteem, and take pride in our abilities and accomplishments. But this pride might be what undermines our ability to deal with deeply ingrained struggles—like porn. In a 2009 article for Psychological Science, behavioral scientists Nordgren, van Harreveld, and van…
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Younger kids access stuff out there that isn’t exactly 100% porn or isn’t so intense that it seems to be really bad. That leads them into thinking porn isn’t so bad and eventually looking at a lot of hardcore porn. – A 21-year-old student As the quote above indicates, we really…
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I speak at a lot of conferences, and many in my audiences are young men in high school or college. When I talk about the negative impact of pornography and masturbation, it’s not uncommon for me to get a lot of questions afterwards from these guys. You see, a lot of these…
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The wall was plastered with images of scantily clad women. With this as the backdrop, he stood up and said, “When you feel comfortable in your own skin, come back and see me.” Extending his hand for a handshake, she reached out while trying to conceal her disgust. This was…
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“I messed up again.” As an ally for many friends, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard that phrase! So what’s the biblical way to encourage someone? More specifically, how do you encourage someone who is battling a sin struggle with pornography? Earlier this year, we looked at…
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Kody and Ben have been friends for almost 10 years. They have what most would call a “normal” friendship—hanging out on the weekends, walking through life’s challenges together, and even working at the same company! But, here’s one other thing about Kody and Ben’s friendship that you might not expect:…
