With tears streaming down my face, I sat alone in my room. As a 22-year-old Christian single woman, I was battling against my flesh and the sexual temptations in my mind…again. I wanted to be pure. I wanted to fight against the lust in my life. I wanted to honor…
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Accountability Lessons from Job’s Friends
The more we study the Bible, the more clearly the principles of biblical accountability are revealed, often in surprising places. While the book of Job primarily concerns the problem of suffering, it also deals with the problem of friends who try to help us with suffering—our imperfect allies. What can…
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Should porn be used to spice up the bedroom?
Ready or not, pornography is a stronghold in the bedrooms of people who have sex. While some people believe that pornography will spice up the bedroom, the reality is that the increasing impact of pornography is anything but sexy.¹ How porn is rewriting the sexual script of digital natives I…
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Porn in the Pew: Can You Love God and Porn at the Same Time?
It’s the thing nobody in the church wants to talk about. But it kills more marriages, drains more hearts, and ends more ministries than anything else. It’s the elephant in the church–pornography. The church has only three available responses: ignore it, condemn it, or address it. We have chosen to…
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How Your Music Listening Habits Can Affect Porn Recovery
I started playing guitar at nine years old and still do to this day (I’m 37 at the time of writing this). Moreover, I took up the guitar and started really getting into it in the mid to late ‘90s, right in the middle of the musical culture that led…
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3 Intentional Ways to Restore Emotional Safety After Betrayal
Everyone needs a home base where he or she feels safe from the outside world. Ideally, our home with our family should be such a place. Unfortunately, when compulsive sexual behavior is present in the home, it ceases to feel like a safe place. The wounded spouse no longer feels…
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How Boundaries Helped Heal Our Marriage: Robin and Dave’s Story, Part 2
My wife Robin and I have been on a 15-year journey of recovery from the damage caused by my addiction to pornography, strip clubs, and masturbation. The shame of my 20-year relationship with pornography during our marriage led me to keep many secrets. As I dodged my wife’s questions and…
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Pastors and Porn: Why We Struggle and the Help We Need
For 31 years, I was a senior pastor of three churches, ranging in membership from 200 to 2,000. For every one of those 31 years, I struggled with sex addiction. I know firsthand that pastors struggle with porn and sex addiction at alarming rates. Despite repeated visits to multiple therapists,…
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Confessing Porn with Father Mike
I had the chance to talk with a Catholic priest friend of mine about the issue of pornography and ask if, by his observations, this problem has worsened in his 13 years of ministry. So, Fr. Mike. How long have you been a priest? I was ordained back in 2003. With…
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Your Church Is Looking at Porn
The world is a blurry place. I feel like the lines between right and wrong, dark and light, good and bad, used to be more obvious. Words like “Christian,” “porn,” and “addiction” would not have been used in the same sentence just a few decades ago. But, in this post,…
