Friedrich Nietzsche’s words represent the heart of every betrayed spouse: “I’m not upset that you lied to me. I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.” As painful as the discovery is, the fact is that this breach of trust is more often the harvest than the seed.…
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Where do you find encouragement on the journey away from porn?
“I messed up again.” As an ally for many friends, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard that phrase! So what’s the biblical way to encourage someone? More specifically, how do you encourage someone who is battling a sin struggle with pornography? Earlier this year, we looked at…
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Ex-Porn Star Tells the Truth About the Porn Industry
Chatsworth, California produces 85% of the world’s adult content. All of the top female talent agencies are located in or within the Chatsworth local radius. Female performers are flown or fly to Chatsworth to work in the adult industry. All of the world’s top male talents live or travel to…
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10 Ways to Build Intimacy Apart From Sex
Therapists often recommend a period of abstinence to couples dealing with issues of compulsive or addictive use of pornography, or with issues of other types of sexual acting out. This can provide time for the wounded spouse to begin processing the impact of betrayal without the pressure to be sexually…
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Father and Son Fight Porn Together: The Forts’ Freedom Story
My own childhood was marred by pornography, being exposed to it by older boys in grade school, and developing a compulsive need for it by age thirteen. Though I found freedom from pornography as an adult through accountability, it had already robbed much of the happiness and self-respect I should…
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Porn Made Me Feel Like a Bad Parent: Barb’s Story
Five years ago, I learned my son was struggling with pornography. I was shocked and devastated. Feeling guilty and hopeless, I struggled to sleep and cried endlessly. I couldn’t understand how this had happened. He grew up in a Christian home with Christian principles. We talked openly about sex and…
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What to Do if Your Husband Lies About Porn Use
You just caught your husband watching porn. And you felt it. The sinking feeling in your stomach. The stab across your chest when you saw what your husband was looking at. Maybe even the screaming void that wordlessly reminds you this wasn’t the first time. But when you try to confront…
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Good Kids Get Hooked on Porn Too: Pastor Noah’s Story (Part 1)
I’m 37. This is relevant because you can tell a lot about someone’s sexual purity story by how old they were in the mid-’90s, also known as when the internet became as common in households as the telephone or television. For me, this was 7th grade. I’m a bit biased…
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Day 10: The Science of Craving
Neuroscience knows that willpower is a function of the prefrontal regions of the brain. But our willpower can be thwarted by other parts of the brain that crave rewards and hold memories of how to get rewarding neurochemistry. Scientific studies confirm that using porn over and over actually reshapes these areas of the brain,…
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Day 31: 8 Steps When There’s a Setback
What can an ally do to effectively help someone caught in the trap of a nasty porn habit? Joel Hesch of Proven Men Ministries had to face that question in a recovery group. He writes: Recently a married man from a support group I lead had two setbacks (or relapses) with porn…
