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How many movies have you seen that portray a couple who’s been married for thirty years having sex? I am sure a few exist, but when you think generally about who’s having sex on the big screen, it’s usually a younger couple that recently started dating or are just having…
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Statistics show that watching porn is extremely common—but does that make it normal? Three-quarters of men regularly consume pornography along with more than a third of women. So it is true that plenty of normal people watch porn. (Check out Covenant Eyes Porn Stats) The Danish thinker Soren Kierkegaard observed,…
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When visiting the public museum recently, my family and I made our way to the upper floor that featured artifacts from what would be considered primitive cultures. People in these parts of the world do not have the benefit of Western technology, and much of their lives are spent simply…
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Sadly, most high school students will encounter porn before they graduate. While passing around sexy pictures in school is nothing new, the ubiquity of today’s porn—and its intensely graphic nature—is unique. If you pay attention to the news, you may have seen stories of teachers coming under scrutiny for their…
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When a woman discovers her husband has been watching porn behind her back, it can feel absolutely devastating. It is a traumatic discovery in the truest sense of the word—the wife undergoes terrible trauma. These women often begin to doubt themselves, caught in the immense insecurity of feeling the need to compete…
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“There’s nothing I can do. As a Christian I’m obligated to simply ‘forgive and forget,’ and just move on.” “I can’t set boundaries with him. I’m not his mom!” “I’m completely alone. And I have to deal with it alone, since telling anyone would dishonor my husband.” “Well, this is…
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Recently I received an anonymous email from a single man about his struggles with lust. He asked for prayer regarding his lust, and he made it clear how difficult it was to have a “normal” sex drive and be a single man. He wrote, “Why have a sex drive if…
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Over the past few years, I’ve been in a fortunate position to be able to minister to many men locally and across the United States who struggle with an addiction to pornography. Pornography is a huge issue inside and outside the church. Based on the things I’ve learned in ministry,…
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Brian hopped on his laptop to see if any grad schools had gotten back to him yet. He knew he had just sent out his transcripts an hour before, and he knew that clicking the refresh button on his browser had no scientific ability to generate new emails that had…
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“Yeah, I would say Kevin is making good progress with his pornography addiction,” Carol told me during a couple’s session when I asked if she thought her husband was on the right path of recovery. “But there’s still something wrong. He doesn’t talk, except to give one-word answers, and I…
