With tears streaming down my face, I sat alone in my room. As a 22-year-old Christian single woman, I was battling against my flesh and the sexual temptations in my mind…again. I wanted to be pure. I wanted to fight against the lust in my life. I wanted to honor…
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Sex Isn’t the Solution to Your Husband’s Porn Problem
In the first few moments after I found my husband Craig’s digital footprints that led me to his favorite porn sites, all I could see, feel, and speak revolved around rage. I was embarrassed (because clearly, I was not satisfying), angry (did we not just speak wedding vows to forsake…
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6 Things to Consider Before Becoming Your Spouse’s Ally
“Ally” comes from the Latin word alligare, meaning “to bind to.” We may be familiar with the term in the context of nations that are allies. They make a commitment to act together and protect each other. The Bible paints a similar picture in marriage when it speaks of a…
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Heath Lambert on the Power of Thanksgiving Over Porn
“Porn is only consumed by thankless people.” Dr. Heath Lambert isn’t coddling readers in his book Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace. While the quote from his book might sound like a tough rebuke, this counselor and professor at Southern Baptist Theological Seminary firmly roots his…
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5 Quick Tips for Staying Sexually Sober During the Holidays
As a Sexual Integrity Mentor™, I see it happen every holiday season to many of the men I mentor. Slips. Relapses. People essentially take a holiday from their recovery, and as a result, fall back into many of their old sexual sin habits. It can make for a very “Bah,…
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How Building “Negative Emotion Tolerance” Helps Us Pursue Sexual Purity
Admittedly, the title of this post is a mouthful, but if you’ll stick with me it won’t be as complicated as it sounds, and it will be worth your time. What Is “Negative Emotion Tolerance”? What is negative emotion tolerance? It is our ability to endure unpleasant emotions. Many of…
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Women Addicted to Porn: What You Need to Know to Break Free
“I’m a girl, I struggle with this daily, I fail daily,” said Pauli. “I was hooked and feared being found out and rejected as the freak I felt I was,” shares Jennifer. Raechel told us, “I see many guys here and just wanted to let the women reading this know…
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Day 3: The Shame Cycle
Today, Brandon reflected on the moment when he realized that viewing porn and masturbating were sinful. He wanted to be free of that guilt. As a Catholic, he went to Confession, which he thought would end his porn usage, but he quickly learned he was wrong. Instead of finding freedom…
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The Catholic Church and Porn: 4 Quick Insights From The Bishops’ Letter
In November 2015 the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops (USCCB) approved a formal statement titled, Create in Me a Clean Heart: A Pastoral Response to Pornography. This is a major statement on behalf of Catholic leaders in the United States about how widespread the problem of pornography has spread and…
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Day 10: The Science of Craving
Neuroscience knows that willpower is a function of the prefrontal regions of the brain. But our willpower can be thwarted by other parts of the brain that crave rewards and hold memories of how to get rewarding neurochemistry. Scientific studies confirm that using porn over and over actually reshapes these areas of the brain,…
