So, you stop watching porn—what happens next? We find both good news and bad news, I’ll start with the bad. Stopping porn, especially if it’s a longtime habit, can be tough. If it were easy, you wouldn’t bother to read this. Some uncomfortable things happen when you make the effort…
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What is lust in the Bible?
You probably don’t hear the word “lust” very often outside of church these days. If, like me, you grew up in the heyday of evangelical Purity Culture, you probably heard it a lot! But even then, the concept often brought as much confusion as clarity. See related: The Unfortunate Intersection…
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Porn Made Me Feel Like a Bad Parent: Barb’s Story
Five years ago, I learned my son was struggling with pornography. I was shocked and devastated. Feeling guilty and hopeless, I struggled to sleep and cried endlessly. I couldn’t understand how this had happened. He grew up in a Christian home with Christian principles. We talked openly about sex and…
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3 Ways Your Porn Use Degrades Your Wife
When you value porn more than your wife, it destroys your marriage! She wants you to stop viewing it, yet you continue. She believes you don’t value her enough to quit. Sometimes she asks herself, “What did I do wrong, and why am I not good enough to satisfy him?”…
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Finding Purity of Heart Through Jesus
I struggled with pornography and masturbation for the larger part of a decade. I was first exposed to porn at the age of eight and was captivated by it after I got my first smartphone in the seventh grade. I watched porn every day, sometimes multiple times a day, and…
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Internet Safety: Teens Are Using Porn at Alarming Rates
When it comes to the subject of Internet safety, teens are notoriously difficult to figure out. They aren’t just kids anymore. They are blossoming adults. As such, parents often waffle between wanting their teens to experience a measure of adult freedoms and wanting to protect them from over-sexualized media. Where’s…
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My Story of Freedom from Pornography
As I’ve slowly and methodically unpacked my addiction over the past 15 months I’ve truly come to learn a lot about myself, much more than I ever really cared about in the past. I’m sure that stems from the fact I really didn’t care so long as I got my…
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5 Quick Tips for Staying Sexually Sober During the Holidays
As a Sexual Integrity Mentor™, I see it happen every holiday season to many of the men I mentor. Slips. Relapses. People essentially take a holiday from their recovery, and as a result, fall back into many of their old sexual sin habits. It can make for a very “Bah,…
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How Building “Negative Emotion Tolerance” Helps Us Pursue Sexual Purity
Admittedly, the title of this post is a mouthful, but if you’ll stick with me it won’t be as complicated as it sounds, and it will be worth your time. What Is “Negative Emotion Tolerance”? What is negative emotion tolerance? It is our ability to endure unpleasant emotions. Many of…
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6 Things to Consider Before Becoming Your Spouse’s Ally
“Ally” comes from the Latin word alligare, meaning “to bind to.” We may be familiar with the term in the context of nations that are allies. They make a commitment to act together and protect each other. The Bible paints a similar picture in marriage when it speaks of a…
