Dead. That’s exactly how John felt that morning as he faced the platform. He was singing along with the music, eyes closed, trying to focus on the lyrics, trying to lift his heart to God as best he knew how. But like many Sundays before, his soul felt shriveled and…
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4 Sneaky Places That Normalize Porn Use for Kids
Younger kids access stuff out there that isn’t exactly 100% porn or isn’t so intense that it seems to be really bad. That leads them into thinking porn isn’t so bad and eventually looking at a lot of hardcore porn. – A 21-year-old student As the quote above indicates, we really…
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Purity Culture and Its Unfortunate Intersection With Porn
It seems like every few weeks, something happens to make purity culture trend on Twitter. As of this writing, it’s trending due to the release of a podcast about the brief lifespan of a major megachurch, but nearly anything could trigger rants about purity culture: an influencer’s “deconstruction”; the revelation…
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Paul vs. Porn: How the Old Apostle Delivers a Death Blow to a Modern Addiction
Why are so many today seemingly hooked on porn—I mean, other than the seductive naked people? More than one in three (39%) Christian men and one in eight (13%) Christian women say they believe their use of porn is “excessive.” Many of these would describe their use as “addictive.” Leaving…
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Understanding the Shame Cycle
Shame plays a very important role in the ongoing use of pornography. In his book Unwanted, Jay Stringer found that for each unit of shame they felt, men were 300x more likely and women were 546x more likely to look at porn. And, Dr. Patrick Carnes, a founding father of…
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The Ultimate Guide to Identifying (and Redirecting) Your Porn Triggers
The great military strategist Sun Tzu once said, “If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles.” In the battle against porn, knowing your triggers and the triggers around you is critical to victory. Therapists often use the acronym “HALT” to…
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Effects of Porn Addiction
Porn Addiction Effects of Porn Addiction Porn addiction is the compulsive use of pornography for arousal, often to the detriment of personal relationships. The effects of porn addiction are widespread, affecting our brains, our sexuality, and our beliefs. Written by Reviewed by Dr. Alexandra Repke, Ph.D., CSAT, C-PD, CAIMHP and…
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What Happens When Lust Trains Your Soul
While teaching at a men’s retreat, a standoffish young single challenged me with a purity question, “There are so many things in the Bible we don’t observe any longer. I mean, we don’t circumcise, or observe the Law, so why should sex be any different? If my girlfriend and I…
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Day 21: The Path to True Intimacy and Better Sex
Every husband who wants to improve his sex life should learn to spell. Typically, guys spell intimacy S-E-X, says Dr. Dan Erickson. It’s not entirely our fault. Our sexualized culture has encouraged the misspelling, and it has distorted the definition too. Intimacy in our culture often describes a “what,” Erickson…
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Porn Made Me a Hollow Shell
I grew up in a middle-class home that, on the surface, appeared ordinary. I went to school, played sports, and earned good grades. But, behind closed doors, I was struggling. I was managing my father’s aggression and protecting my mom. Unknowingly, I began searching for ways to cope—to feel pleasure.…
