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I Was a 12-Year-Old Girl Addicted To Porn

All the assumptions that pornography was a boy’s struggle completely dismissed me, a twelve-year-old girl addicted to porn. I was part of a large percentage of teens using pornography, and while so many of us struggled, I felt alone. What started as seeking questions became a full-on addiction, and because…

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Why We All Need an Ally

If you’re in a partnership where one of you is addicted to pornography, you may have heard that the person struggling with the addiction needs an accountability partner. Guess what. The person who’s not addicted needs one too. But first, let’s talk about what accountability is and isn’t. What Is…

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3 Ways Your Porn Use Degrades Your Wife

When you value porn more than your wife, it destroys your marriage! She wants you to stop viewing it, yet you continue. She believes you don’t value her enough to quit. Sometimes she asks herself, “What did I do wrong, and why am I not good enough to satisfy him?”…

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Understanding the Teenage Brain: Different, Not Broken

When I was a teenager (back when dinosaurs roamed, according to my children), adults seemed to think teenagers were temporarily broken. One famous comedian at the time had a bit about how all teenagers have brain damage. We all probably have stories about things we did as teenagers which we…

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The Benefits of Quitting Porn: What Do You Hope to Gain?

Do you think you’ll actually benefit from quitting porn? It sounds obvious to say it, but the secret to successfully quitting porn is actually wanting to quit porn. The unfortunate reality is that, deep down, many people don’t want to quit. They may think they do, but they’re either too…

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9 Holiday Triggers for Porn Use (and How to Avoid Them)

Quitting porn is no easy thing to do. It requires intentional new habits and rewired thinking. And without some proactive planning, few things have the power to slow down healthy new habits like the holidays. So if you’re trying to quit porn (or any bad habit, really) and maintain your…

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Watching Porn at Work? The Consequences of Risky Browsing

 “I was completely blindsided a month ago. My husband of 23 years lost his job because of viewing porn at work. He was in a high level position. It was his second offense. He had been given three days off work w/out pay 2 years ago because of it. He…

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Porn Is Not Your Biggest Problem

*This post contains mention of sexual assault. I spent many college nights scrolling through porn on my phone. Image after image flickered across my screen, but they always left me longing for more. One image or video was never enough to erase my loneliness or cure my sexual desire. Just…

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Porn and Loneliness: Breaking the Cycle

“I’m 18 years old and I have been watching porn since I was 13. It is painful to watch porn, but it is like a drug it is hard to shake off. I do it because I’m lonely and depressed and that it becomes a struggle for me to stop.”…

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Why is my husband so angry? It all comes down to shame. (Part 2)

Read Part 1 of “Why is my husband so angry? It all comes down to shame.” As a female sex addiction therapist I feel I am at a significant disadvantage. Sex addicts often started out in their addiction with resentment toward women due to childhood occurrences. Then their sexual acting…