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When someone mentions missions, there are usually a few thoughts that come to mind: Perhaps that is a shallow misrepresentation of how some people view missions. For many, though, it is a sad reality. Missions is nothing more than travel—with a little Jesus. But, if we see sexual brokenness as…
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Every husband who wants to improve his sex life should learn to spell. Typically, guys spell intimacy S-E-X, says Dr. Dan Erickson. It’s not entirely our fault. Our sexualized culture has encouraged the misspelling, and it has distorted the definition too. Intimacy in our culture often describes a “what,” Erickson…
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With tears streaming down my face, I sat alone in my room. As a 22-year-old Christian single woman, I was battling against my flesh and the sexual temptations in my mind…again. I wanted to be pure. I wanted to fight against the lust in my life. I wanted to honor…
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“Porn is only consumed by thankless people.” Dr. Heath Lambert isn’t coddling readers in his book Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace. While the quote from his book might sound like a tough rebuke, this counselor and professor at Southern Baptist Theological Seminary firmly roots his advice…
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I answer a lot of letters from women dealing with the discovery of porn in their marriages. Mostly, they are shocked and hurt and alone, wondering where to go from here. While I answer every one of those letters individually, over time I’ve realized there are some things I almost…
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There are two critical ingredients to a good accountability relationship. They can be summarized in the following proverbs: All quality accountability partnerships need these two elements. Genuine friendship ensures the relationship will feel natural and enjoyable, giving each person the internal motivation to stick it out when things get rocky.…
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Many Christians wonder whether masturbation is a sin. Can a habit so deeply ingrained in human nature be sinful? More than that, Christians have taught and believed differently on this issue at different times. However, I believe masturbation is a sin in most, if not all, cases. In this article,…
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Everyone knows accountability is important, right? Whether it’s politics, sports, or personal habits, it seems like everyone talks about the need for accountability. Research shows that accountability is ESSENTIAL for any social system: “Social systems in general can be defined in terms of common sets of shared expectations for behavior.…
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I recently read a brief article by Dr. Phil called “Is Internet Porn Cheating?” I’ve reprinted the article in full below: It is not OK behavior. It is a perverse and ridiculous intrusion into your relationship. It is an insult, it is disloyal and it is cheating. Consider how it…
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In situations where a marriage has been affected by pornography use, it’s common for one person to feel responsible for the healing process, while the other doesn’t take enough responsibility. This dynamic can lead to resentment, self-centeredness, and controlling behaviors. For example, a husband might blame his porn use on…
