“How did I get here?” It’s a common refrain for most people, but it slices to the heart of the man or woman struggling with porn and unwanted sexual behaviors. Too often the question is rhetorical or focused on the trigger that led to acting out. In Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness…
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Father and Son Fight Porn Together: The Forts’ Freedom Story
My own childhood was marred by pornography, being exposed to it by older boys in grade school, and developing a compulsive need for it by age thirteen. Though I found freedom from pornography as an adult through accountability, it had already robbed much of the happiness and self-respect I should…
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When Your Child Chooses Sexual Impurity
What should we do when a child chooses to walk a path not in line with sexual purity? What if we put into practice everything we learn from experts and books and a child still ignores us? Or maybe a child does follow our guidance when they are young, and…
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For Singles: How to Handle a Strong Sex Drive in a God-Honoring Way
With tears streaming down my face, I sat alone in my room. As a 22-year-old Christian single woman, I was battling against my flesh and the sexual temptations in my mind…again. I wanted to be pure. I wanted to fight against the lust in my life. I wanted to honor…
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Day 21: The Path to True Intimacy and Better Sex
Every husband who wants to improve his sex life should learn to spell. Typically, guys spell intimacy S-E-X, says Dr. Dan Erickson. It’s not entirely our fault. Our sexualized culture has encouraged the misspelling, and it has distorted the definition too. Intimacy in our culture often describes a “what,” Erickson…
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5 Things I Always Say to Porn-Shocked Wives
I answer a lot of letters from women dealing with the discovery of porn in their marriages. Mostly, they are shocked and hurt and alone, wondering where to go from here. While I answer every one of those letters individually, over time I’ve realized there are some things I almost…
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Day 19: Why Thanksgiving and Porn Do Not Mix
“Porn is only consumed by thankless people.” Dr. Heath Lambert isn’t coddling readers in his book Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace. While the quote from his book might sound like a tough rebuke, this counselor and professor at Southern Baptist Theological Seminary firmly roots his advice…
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Biblical Accountability: What It Is and How to Live It
Everyone knows accountability is important, right? Whether it’s politics, sports, or personal habits, it seems like everyone talks about the need for accountability. Research shows that accountability is ESSENTIAL for any social system: “Social systems in general can be defined in terms of common sets of shared expectations for behavior.…
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Day 29: 3 Places to Look for an Ally
There are two critical ingredients to a good accountability relationship. They can be summarized in the following proverbs: All quality accountability partnerships need these two elements. Genuine friendship ensures the relationship will feel natural and enjoyable, giving each person the internal motivation to stick it out when things get rocky.…
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Is Masturbation a Sin?
Many Christians wonder whether masturbation is a sin. Can a habit so deeply ingrained in human nature be sinful? More than that, Christians have taught and believed differently on this issue at different times. However, I believe masturbation is a sin in most, if not all, cases. In this article,…
