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Brains are complicated. But some neuroscientists use “Triune Brain Theory” as a simple way of understanding the brain’s complexities. I call the three parts, the Gut Brain, the Heart Brain, and the Head Brain. The three parts of our brain show us that pornography poses a triple threat. It damages…
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Go ahead and imagine yourself at the age of 10. Can you see yourself? Imagine for a moment that you are back in time as your 10-year-old self. What do you remember as your favorite thing to do? Playing outside? Having sleepovers with friends? For this 10-year-old, one of her…
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Not everyone who professes to be a Christian is really a Christian. That described me. I was raised by Christian parents who took me to church. I was taught right from wrong and knew many things from the Bible. At age eight I asked Jesus into my heart, walked an aisle, joined…
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It might have been the most traumatizing day of my dramatic 13-year-old existence. My mom took me to the mall, and, only after walking into the department store, announced that she planned on buying me a purity ring. To me, she might as well have hijacked the PA system and…
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New Year’s is only days away and I am willing to bet you are making plans to try and stop looking at porn in the new year. I used to do this and failed every time. After January 1st, I would recommit on Valentine’s Day, my birthday in April, and…
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“Great effort is required to arrest decay and restore vigor.” –Horace “Relapse” means “deterioration after a period of improvement.” It’s an enemy to avoid in addiction recovery, and a porn relapse can make life hard if it happens. But in the long run, people who successfully stay off porn aren’t…
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Addiction is an ugly thing. When that familiar craving comes, it seems to wash over us like a wave of compulsion. The heart begins to race, the blood pressure rises, and the mind is consumed with one nagging thought: “Just one more time.” And the million-dollar question every addict has…
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Living with integrity in this world is quite difficult because our culture is so against it, but as a Christian God has called me to be different, and striving for integrity plays a key role in that. It is so easy to fall into the temptation of pornography. Unfortunately, I…
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To the pastors and ministry leaders reading this blog post, a percentage of your staff and people are regularly looking at pornography. And, all of your people are stuck in a world that has a lot of loud opinions about pornography and distorted messages about sex. How are you addressing…
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Many of us as church leaders have growing sexual struggles. Our private life underneath does not match what we portray on the outside. Then the question arises, “Should I share my sexual struggles with my church leaders?” The short answer is: “yes.” The better answer is: “yes, but wisely.” Let’s…
