What is pornography like for today’s teenagers? This is the first generation to grow up in a world where smartphones and high-speed internet have always existed. According to recent studies, 95% of teens now have access to a portable X-rated theater—i.e. a smartphone.1 The rise of smartphones has correlated closely…
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Simple Steps to Defeat a Real-Life Monster
Are monsters real? When you think of a monster, what thoughts are conjured up in your mind? Is it an ugly beast with bad breath? Is it part human, part animal? Is it non-human and non-animal? Maybe it is its own species. Are they real or are they make-believe? Monsters…
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8 Common Reasons for a Sexless Marriage
Like most Mondays, several couples fly in to do a 3 or 5-Day Intensive with me and my team. Many couples I see will inevitably tell me the tale of being in a sexless marriage for months, years, or decades. I smile and tell them not to worry. I have…
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Accountability and the Habit of Lying
“There are those, too, who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders, but many of them do recover if they have the capacity to be honest.” – The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous “We are a company of Christian men. We are also… natural liars who are now finding freedom in…
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Day 10: The Science of Craving
Neuroscience knows that willpower is a function of the prefrontal regions of the brain. But our willpower can be thwarted by other parts of the brain that crave rewards and hold memories of how to get rewarding neurochemistry. Scientific studies confirm that using porn over and over actually reshapes these areas of the brain,…
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Your First Seven Days of Porn Recovery
While traveling recently, I attended a 12-step group. I enjoyed the meeting greatly, but was saddened by the lack of long-term sobriety in the room. Over half the guys admitted to acting out that week. What’s the take-away? The first seven days of recovery are the most important. For most…
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Striving, Falling, and Getting Back Up: Persevering Against Porn
I have been struggling with a masturbation addiction since I was about 12 years old. I am 29 now. Even when I am not watching (or listening also in my case) any form of pornography, the tendency to return to compulsive masturbation is there. In the past, I couldn’t make…
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What the Devil Meant for Evil, God Turned to Good
In this short testimony, I will offer my testimony of failure, forgiveness, freedom, and a new family that began in a nearly decade-long addiction to pornography. God’s grace and sovereignty are written all over my life, and what the devil once meant for evil, the Lord has now turned into…
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For Allies: How to Respond When Your Friend Looks at Porn
Brian hopped on his laptop to see if any grad schools had gotten back to him yet. He knew he had just sent out his transcripts an hour before, and he knew that clicking the refresh button on his browser had no scientific ability to generate new emails that had…
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Porn in the Pew: Can You Love God and Porn at the Same Time?
It’s the thing nobody in the church wants to talk about. But it kills more marriages, drains more hearts, and ends more ministries than anything else. It’s the elephant in the church–pornography. The church has only three available responses: ignore it, condemn it, or address it. We have chosen to…
