During this interview, we had the privilege of hearing from Jay and Lori Pyatt as they shared their story of Jay’s porn use, the pain Lori experienced as a result, and the amazing transformation that has now happened in their marriage and ministry. Watch their Facebook Live interview below or…
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I Created Porn in My Head: David Heughin’s Story
When David Heughins became a born-again Christian at five years old, porn was the last thing on his mind. Raised in a parsonage, he wasn’t supposed to “struggle” with anything. Unfortunately, David’s Christianity was mostly rules and fear. As a child, he was at the bottom of the metaphoric schoolyard…
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The Ultimate Guide to Identifying (and Redirecting) Your Porn Triggers
The great military strategist Sun Tzu once said, “If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles.” In the battle against porn, knowing your triggers and the triggers around you is critical to victory. Therapists often use the acronym “HALT” to…
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10 Ways to Build Intimacy Apart From Sex
Therapists often recommend a period of abstinence to couples dealing with issues of compulsive or addictive use of pornography, or with issues of other types of sexual acting out. This can provide time for the wounded spouse to begin processing the impact of betrayal without the pressure to be sexually…
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The Essential Reason Porn Is Wrong
Your web browser does not support iframes, which means that the video The Essential Reason Porn Is Wrong cannot play. Porn Is Wrong for Many Reasons There are many reasons why people say we should avoid pornography. Some, for instance, will point out that pornography is very addictive, that it warps…
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Pastors and Porn: Why We Struggle and the Help We Need
For 31 years, I was a senior pastor of three churches, ranging in membership from 200 to 2,000. For every one of those 31 years, I struggled with sex addiction. I know firsthand that pastors struggle with porn and sex addiction at alarming rates. Despite repeated visits to multiple therapists,…
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Talking Body Image: From Down Under
I was given an opportunity to talk to a group of counselors and pastors in Auckland, New Zealand. The title of my talk (and the video I presented) was Compassion. The theme was the effects of porn and other forms of sexual addiction on the wife of the user or…
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If You Love Her, Tell Her the Truth
Consistently, wives of sex addicts share with me how the lies and secrets their husbands keep from them hurt more than the sexual acting out itself. I asked a few of these wives the question, “Why do the lying and secrets hurt so much more than the acting out?” Here…
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Start the Path to Victory With a Free Account
What were you doing in the year 2000? Maybe you weren’t even born. Many people fretted about the Y2K bug—a perceived computer coding problem that was supposed to wreak havoc on personal computers and online networks across the globe. Thankfully, that didn’t happen. Google was nearly two years old.…
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The Two Most Important Questions to Ask If You Have a Setback
Recently, a married man from a support group I lead had two setbacks (or relapses) with porn on the same day. But rather than quitting, he sheepishly retorted, “It was just what the doctor ordered!” One of the hardest things to understand or accept is that setbacks may be a part…
