Over the past few years, I’ve been in a fortunate position to be able to minister to many men locally and across the United States who struggle with an addiction to pornography. Pornography is a huge issue inside and outside the church. Based on the things I’ve learned in ministry,…
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Fight Porn in Your Church: What Works and Why It Matters
Dead. That’s exactly how John felt that morning as he faced the platform. He was singing along with the music, eyes closed, trying to focus on the lyrics, trying to lift his heart to God as best he knew how. But like many Sundays before, his soul felt shriveled and…
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Where to Find the Boldness to Share Your Porn Secret
Four years into my marriage I was buried in guilt and shame due to a porn addiction that no one (including my husband) knew about. The secrecy was killing me inside. Every single day I wished I could stop, but I didn’t know how. Day after day I promised myself…
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Identifying What Someone Needs To Overcome Porn
As an ally and accountability partner for many people trying to quit porn, I’ve often struggled to identify what they need from me. Do I need to call out their sin? Do I just listen? Should I offer encouragement? Should I offer some practical advice for how to avoid another…
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Porn and Gen-Z: A Conversation With Jonathan Pokluda
Pastor JP’s Story Jonathan Pokluda (JP) has a passion for addressing tough issues like pornography in the church. That passion was born out of his own struggles. Like many people, Jonathan became hooked on pornography as a young person, and it kept its grip on him for many years: “I…
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5 Important Steps to Help Someone Overcome Porn
As a counselor and pastor for 40 years, I’ve had scores of accountability relationships, many with porn strugglers and their families. Though the main priority is understood to be a relationship where we hold each other accountable, I think it is helpful to go further than that in describing what…
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5 Steps to Continue Healing from Betrayal Trauma
Healing from betrayal trauma can be a long journey. If you and your husband have made it through the first long and difficult stage of recovery from sexual betrayal trauma–establishing emotional, physical, and sexual safety–you may be ready for the second and third stages of the recovery journey, processing and…
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Women Addicted to Porn: What You Need to Know to Break Free
“I’m a girl, I struggle with this daily, I fail daily,” said Pauli. “I was hooked and feared being found out and rejected as the freak I felt I was,” shares Jennifer. Raechel told us, “I see many guys here and just wanted to let the women reading this know…
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Help! I’m 13 and addicted to porn!
Are you 13-18 and can’t stop looking at porn? Maybe you feel like you’re addicted, and you’re wondering if that’s even possible! It can be scary, but don’t worry. You’re not alone. These are some comments we’ve received from teenagers just like you: “I am 13 years old and have…
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Sexual Sanity for Women (Book Review)
When I was asked to review Sexual Sanity for Women, I was far less than excited. As a woman who battled pornography addiction, I know the frustration of trying to find resources to help me. At first there were none, and then the men’s resources were just reprinted more gender…
