Neuroscience now knows that willpower is a function of the prefrontal lobes of the brain. Scientific studies have also confirmed that using porn over and over actually reshapes these areas of the brain, literally eroding our willpower and our moral compass. Neuroscientists call it hypofrontality. Hypofrontality is a state in which there is decreased blood flow to the prefrontal lobes of the brain. Hypofrontality is observed in schizophrenia patients, and is also observed in all manner of addictions. What is Hypofrontality? In his book, The Porn Circuit, Sam Black explains what hypofrontality is for the porn viewer. “Compulsiveness is a good descriptor of hypofrontality. Many porn … Continue reading →
When it comes to pornography, what biblical principles best prepare our kids to understand why it is wrong? I recently spoke to Dr. David Currie about this very question. He referred me to four primary Scriptures: Matthew 5:27-28, 1 Corinthians 6:12, Hebrews 13:4, and Ephesians 5:3.
90 days of no sex. This is what several porn addiction counselors prescribe for addicts and their spouses during the initial months of recovery. Why is this? Is this really necessary? Dr. Mark Laaser, a nationally recognized author in the field of sex addiction, requires his patients to sign a 90-day abstinence contract: no masturbation, no porn, not even sex with your spouse. Sam Black, in his book The Porn Circuit, explains Dr. Laaser’s rationale: First of all, he says, a person needs to learn that they won’t die without sex, especially for 90 days. But more importantly, the person … Continue reading →
Dark deeds thrive in secrecy. The National Security Agency knows it, but do parents? The Online Disinhibition Effect is the concept that secrecy removes your inhibitions, making a person more likely to engage anonymously in questionable activities online. It’s the belief that it’s okay to say or do harmful things online if nobody knows it’s you. It’s a big factor in all sorts of questionable behaviors online. Such activities include illegal file sharing, cyberbullying, viewing pornography, and the NSA’s main concern: conspiracy and terrorist activities. And it explains why the NSA has been spying on people online: they are more … Continue reading →
I was at church one Sunday, about three years ago, and my dad told me something that I never expected. He told me that he was going to start speaking publicly about his struggle with porn addiction, trying to help others who have the same struggles. I was in complete shock. I had never really known porn to be something that could be addictive. In spite of my shock, I reassured my dad that I would be there to back him up and support him through his journey. It was very courageous to speak publicly about this topic. Sex is … Continue reading →