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According to a new German study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association Psychiatry, there is a significant correlation between higher consumption of porn and a lower amount of grey matter in your brain. It isn’t clear from the study if one phenomenon causes the other. Are those born…
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Four years into my marriage I was buried in guilt and shame due to a porn addiction that no one (including my husband) knew about. The secrecy was killing me inside. Every single day I wished I could stop, but I didn’t know how. Day after day I promised myself…
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Healing from betrayal trauma can be a long journey. If you and your husband have made it through the first long and difficult stage of recovery from sexual betrayal trauma–establishing emotional, physical, and sexual safety–you may be ready for the second and third stages of the recovery journey, processing and…
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So you’re ready to let the cat out of the bag and confess your struggle with pornography? Here are a few approaches: Political Strategy: “Ahhhh… I might have a problem with some things I’ve sort of seen accidentally on the computer and thought you would possibly want to be made…
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When I was asked to review Sexual Sanity for Women, I was far less than excited. As a woman who battled pornography addiction, I know the frustration of trying to find resources to help me. At first there were none, and then the men’s resources were just reprinted more gender…
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Hypofrontality isn’t a word you see every day—but it might hold the secret to why you keep looking at porn. Neuroscience now knows that willpower is a function of the prefrontal lobes of the brain. Scientific studies have also confirmed that using porn over and over actually reshapes these areas of the…
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If you are a husband who just discovered your wife is addicted to porn, you are likely dealing with feelings of grief, betrayal, and confusion. Betrayal is one of the most devastating experiences in a marriage. When a person finds out their spouse has been unfaithful, they may spiral into…
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Recovery materials are replete with books on how to find sexual sobriety. The “how-to” resources are almost limitless. Google “kicking the porn habit” and you will find dozens of articles on ways to find sobriety in seven, 30, 40, or 90 days. Sadly, what you rarely find is something on…
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Your Church Probably Needs to Talk More About Pornography “Now, I know I’m going to get a lot of emails about this…” It was a joke Noel made often. Noel is the lead teaching pastor at a megachurch in Michigan. As such, he’s the church’s most public face for several…
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Talking to kids about porn sounds, at the very least, like an awkward conversation. Even parents aware of the dangers of pornography are often unsure how to approach the topic in an age-appropriate way. Finding and reading books about how to do so can be equally challenging. But, in this…
