My name is Patricia Weerakoon, and I am a Christian sexologist. After 23 years in the University of Sydney, I retired from my academic position as director of a graduate program in sexual health to bring my twin passions together: God and Sex.
What better place to start than with sexual desire. Let’s look at a real life problem.
A letter from Harry, a 20-year-old single male: “I find it so hard to control my desires. I wish God would just take it away—at least till he sends me the girl I am to marry.”
What is sexual desire?
Sexual desire (sex drive, libido) is a testosterone fuelled drive deep in the emotional system of our brain. It is powered by a cocktail of neurochemicals (dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin). Sexual desire is a drive—an urge for sex. It is a fairly non-specific appetite, and we can appease it with a variety of sexual activities, from fantasy to intercourse and masturbation.
It kicks in at puberty. There’s no getting away from it. And, since the testosterone levels in boys are about ten times higher than girls, boys do have a higher sex drive.
This is the main reason Harry is all turned on: it’s biological.
In our teens and early twenties, we have a unique brain situation: bubbling sexuality with low control. This is because the cognitive decision making frontal and parietal cerebral cortex matures at a much slower rate than the emotional sexual parts of the brain. The control systems don’t complete till the mid-twenties. The teen brain is very much still under construction for adult life.
So 20-year-old Harry, like most other guys his age, struggles with this disjunction.
What turns our desire on?
Once testosterone sets the scene, the stimulus that turns on sexual desire varies from one individual to another. In the rapidly developing teen brain, stuff that is fed into it will determine what turns a person on sexually. The nerve cells at this age are in an active state of establishing connections, wiring and rewiring.
Pornography will set up Pornified circuits. In a young man it will lead to his seeing women as sexual commodities. Turned on by the super-sexualized images, his spiking desire will crave for the rapid and instant orgasmic high of masturbation. He has pushed down his still developing control mechanisms. A voluptuous body and the hint of lace lingerie send his desire chemicals raging. Maybe this is Harry?
Is it any wonder that the apostle Paul advises the Philippians (4:8): “…whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.” Harry would do well to follow this.
Why doesn’t God just ‘take it away’?
Sex and the sex drive (or desire) is part of our created body. In Genesis 1 and 2 we read that we humans are created male and female and together given the command to procreate and fill the earth. Procreation needs sexual intercourse. And sexual desire kicks off the sexual response of arousal and consummation.
We need sexual desire. God made it powerful for a purpose. Sexual desire will make Harry look for a woman whom he could marry in that wonderful one-flesh-naked-and-no-shame relationship (Genesis 2:24-25).
But sex comes with a handle-with-care warning. We are warned repeatedly by the lover in the Song of Songs (2:7; 3:5; 8:4), “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.” Watch out, she says, there is an appropriate time, place, and person. Harry needs to learn to control his sexual impulses till the appropriate time and place—marriage.
Marriage is the place for sexual intimacy. But we need to realize that marriage is more than sex. Marriage will bring a male and female into a relationship of one-flesh sexual intimacy; but sex as every other part of marriage will have thrilling highs and deep frustrating lows. Every couple needs to watch out for the temptation to idolize sex and marriage.
Waiting for a ‘soul mate’
Finally, Harry seems to be waiting for God to send him that special person to marry. The Bible gives us a couple of conditions for finding a marriage partner. Make sure your spouse is a Christian (2 Corinthians 6:14), of the opposite sex, and not a close relative.
Finding someone sexually attractive is one motivation to marry them. It shouldn’t be the only motivation—it should be coordinated with other desires, like wanting to care for them and bring up a family with them. But sexual desire is part of the “package” that motivates us to seek marriage in general, and marriage to one person in particular.
Today’s society is highly sexual, but postpones marriage. Puberty’s happening earlier and earlier, marriage later and later. So there’s this long time gap of feeling desire and not being able to consummate it in marriage.
God calls us to surrender our desires. It’s part of building Christian character and walking by the Spirit. We should view the challenge of managing our sexual desires as an opportunity to develop godly, healthy character and habits that please God and our good for us and the people around us: love God and neighbor.
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Patricia Weerakoon is a medical doctor turned Sexologist and Writer. She is an evangelical Christian. She is married to Vasantha. Her son Kamal is a Presbyterian minister. As a Sexologist she has translated her passion to bring good holistic sexual health to all people into practical sex education, sex research and sex therapy.
Matthew 24:12 talks about he that endures to the end so prepare to endure sexual drive fueled by demons.;->
ask for God’s grace &mercy.i pray for God’s grace to publish this book am writing titled”POWER TO OVERCOME PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION”
I really wanna stop having sex badly, want to serve God but am finding it difficult. I have tired to resist the guys around me to prevent it Duno wat to do. Need advice bcos I know on my own I can’t do ir
Hey Alexis. I’m glad you’re reaching out for help. I hope I can give you some ideas.
Here’s how we work on problems like this.
Step One: block the behavior. So that would mean, don’t go to the places where you meet these guys. Instead, go to other places that are healthy for you. SAA might be a good, healthy place for you to put yourself. If you’re using apps that get you into places you don’t want to be, I’d suggest giving your smart phone to a friend to keep for you, and going back to an old “dumb phone” for a while.
Step Two: work on the underlying pain. SAA will probably help you face up to some of that, but you might also do well to find a personal counselor in your area who can help you process why this behavior, that you dislike, is so important to you. If you have ever been a victim of domestic violence or other crimes, you may find good resourcing for yourself through a local women’s shelter or family advocacy center.
It sounds to me like you might be using sex to self-medicate in some way, to block pain out for a while. When you work on healing that pain, and getting healthy, supportive people around you in groups and counseling, you might not need the troubling behavior quite so much.
Blessings Kay
Have you found a community of women to talk to this to? That would really beneficial to bring it to the light and have others encourage you to walk forward in holiness.
I have been getting very much close to God recently, therefore satan has been using my biggest weakness to attempt to draw me to the left and to the right with strong sexual desires, I get aroused so much more easily, what iveIt learned is that you resist until God comes and snatches it from your heart….then you become stronger than before ” For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God” eph 2:8 we live under grace not law! fighting temptation is a struggle, but God will honor you, we all have fallen. Blessed is the man who endures all temptation; for when he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love him. James 1:12
AL WE ND2 DO IN DS SINFUL WORLD IS TO HOLD GOD STRONG.IF POSSIBLE,GO IN2 A CONVENANT OF PURITY WT HM.I TEL U,U WON’T REGRET
Sum of the article is essentially is – Harry needs to control himself. What kind of advise is it?
Well, it’s a start, for sure. Self-control is a virtue Christians need to grow in. I think the article gives a nice introduction to the subject. If you want a good “next step” to this, I recommend reading something on our blog that talks about how to do this (not just a “why” article as this one is).
This one might be of help: “The Apostle Paul’s Secret to Fighting Sexual Sin.”
I have also asked myself this question “why doesn’t God simply take away my sexual desires until I find the person that is right for me?”
I am a 21-year-old Christian girl who truly wants to remain pure until marriage. I have not had any relationships til now either. I also do not watch porn nor because i know it will defile my character and drive me far from God. But goodness it is hard to not fall into temptation or at least to refrain my thoughts and fanatasies! The more i try to turn the ‘fire’ off, the more i want it!
I am convinced however that the only way to not give in is keeping myself close to God and reinforcing my relationship with Him
Well, our sexuality is a vital part of who we are. Turning it off would be like turning off our sight!
I think you’re right, that a life of “yes” to God, “yes” to healthy relationships, “yes” to all sorts of life-affirming and fulfilling work and hobbies–that’s the way to channel that energy and drive, rather than a life of “no.” When you spend all your time saying “no” to a part of yourself, that’s when you get in a mess. Which is, I think, why porn is such a problem in the church. We have no idea how to deal with our sexuality in healthy ways! Good luck, trailblazer!!
both physical as well as mental maturity is needed to step forward for marriage. i do the same thing to eliminate and overpower temptation which usually comes. indeed this urge is a great blessing from our lord if used in a right way.
Hi. I am a 45 year old mom of four girls ages 23 16 15 and 13. As a little girl I had one true passion. Get married have babies. I fantasized that it would be perfect and even little problems would be handled in a God like manner. And that the enemy could be easily brushed off w a quick I rebuke you satan My oldest daughter is from my first marriage. And my other three from my second marriage. So many things take place in our lives. And we need to take those things into consideration. For example. My father sexual molested my older sister and upon learning this I feel my attraction started to shift to women. I still thought boys were handsome and wanted to marry one But sexually I felt more attracted to females. I adored my older sister. Wen our family became born again Christians my sister said that our father had changed and was no longer a sexual threat. But he was still very inappropriate around me. As I got older I experimented with all these feelings. After my first divorce I became sexually promiscuous. My second husband and I had our three children My oldest lived w us. I’m trying to keep this short. Or we’d be here for 45 years We found out that after church on Sunday’s my father was sexually molesting our daughters. And he eventually commuted suicide. I never dreamt I’d ever be able to even think about sex again. This tragedy was the most and still remains the most difficult challenge I face. Still after a few years my husband and I were not doing well financially and I fell away from God and started to do anything I could for money. I did not trust God. Because I did not trust fathers. Eventually my husband and I stopped going to church because everything reminded us of what happened to the girls. And my family was just torn apart. Mom sister all of us. My husband n I opened our marriage. Went to sex parties. It got ugly. We split up and I fell in love w and dated a man for three years. My kids were miserable. My husband was miserable We never got divorced. And he moved away Still able to see the girls. But not in our home. After that relationship failed I started taking the girls to the church I attend now. But I met a guy. We didn’t love eachother. And the sex wasn’t good. We just needed eachother. And so he moved in and we started doing things we aught not to make money. All the while. My sexual desires became twisted more n more. I started to feel hopeless. I was masturbating out of frustration. I cheated on my boyfriend and had unfulfilling sex w other men. I became addicted to sex. Even though I only physically enjoyed it maybe one or two times. I knew full well I was sinning but justified it through my pain. Oh I said. God understands. Or. I’ll find the right guy and he will change my life and things will get better. We will go to church my sexual addiction and all of these thoughts and desires will just go away. But that’s not what happened. Mind you. The many details I’m leaving out are important and my situation worsened with every bad decision. But I did cry out for help through it all. And there were times I felt the relief only the Holy Spirit could produce. Other times it just felt like I was living from failure to failure. Now for the good stuff. At the end of my 44 th year. And so many Way too numerous horrifying and treturous events that took place almost constantly through my life. God put His divine arm down between me and sin. And said stop. I made my choice. Was filled to the top n overflowing w the Holy Spirit and it has been a roller coaster of learning about God. His love my faithfulness and obedience. Deliverance. Fasting Hearing His voice. Which by the way is only good. So nothing bad is from Him. And learning to get alone with God everyday. Relating with Eachother. Ok. I still struggle. With many things. Forgiveness. Anger. Attitude. Feeling like I’m always right. And yes sexual desires. But I will say this. God is amazing. He hears our cries. And wen we get washed by the blood of the lamb after failing here and there always meaning to change with our whole heart. Putting Him first in your day. Staying busy. Active. Submitting ur mind and body to His will. You will start to notice that your cravings for all things unrighteous will start to fade away. Your desires for Christ line behavior will start to outshine the darkness. You are young and have many years ahead. Give all your worries to God. And be still. Listen He will direct you out of harms way. If you miss the mark. Go get washed in Jesus precious cleansing blood. Then go boldly before your perfect father and say. Here I am. Ready to keep running the good race. Keep praying for deliverance And just spend as much time as you can in prayer and worship. In the bible it says. Pray without ceasing. Trust this 45 newly delivered born again still struggling women with 4 daughters. You will overcome through Christ. If you want more details. Email me. Chermosko@gmail.com. I’d be more than happy to give you some of the details that truely make up my story Hope this helps. I know all of our stories vary. But mine felt. And even now sometimes feels hopeless. But. It feels that way less and less and less To God alone be the glory
I tell you what we do in Islam; it might work for you if you can try;
1- Lower your gaze. Don’t look at things that arouse you. Like men etc. keep your eyes to the ground when you walk in the city.
2- Fast. Do Islamic to fasting that will kill all you sexual desires. This is the kill button.
Those are Islamic remedy for sexual desires. But if you really want permenant solusion; I suggest you merry.
Hey Caro I also had the same struggle about asking God to take the sexual drive away that comes with the fire. There is nothing wrong with having sexual desires because after all God created us as sexual beings, 100% flesh and 100% spirit. But the problem comes when we act on the desires in a wrong way, the fire is meant to purify but the same fire that can warm up your house in winter can burn the whole forest in summer and now the problem becomes where the placement of the fire, as long as you are single let Jesus contain those desires, dont Ignore them like they dont exist, tell Jesus about them, lay them down and ask his wisdom on how to act upon such and what to do, the best way is to read his word but before that Identify factors that might be stimulating the sexual drive and work on eliminating those, for me I know its Movies-not too wordly but with few kissing and sexual scenes, Conversations with Non-believers and now I made convenant with my eyes and mouth on what I allow in. Just think about this even when you are married the drive will be there and maybe your hudband is not around, will you ask God to take the desire away until He arrives, we aint robots and that is why the fruit of Self control is essencial now so that even in marriage you know how to control your Sexual desires. Love you sis xxx
I’m a happily married man, with strong sexual desire, but my wife (past menopause) doesn’t want it. And her emotional condition won’t ever change about it. I have never been physically unfaithful. She is the only woman I have ever had sex with, but I am addicted to porn. It seems to be my only outlet. What should I do?
Hunter….. i too am in that boat.my wife is post menapausal as well. What i found that works for me is i tend to make my pleas for sex a joking laughing sensless come on to kinda test the waters . I too am/was addicted to.porn but have found it is like a weak drug. The more you view the more you want and the release you get seems weak so it tends to lead to other things —- an afair (s)—. I will.pray that God guide and helpe. For i have googled this matter in so many ways and is how i found this site and your post. I believe God wanted me (us ) to know we are not alone. Here is my email account nascar88rox@yahoo.com please feel free to email me if you need a prayer partner. As i said i too feel what you are saying and hope you recieve this…
Heavenly Father i come before you in the name.of Jesus and ask forgivness of my sins so that this prayer may be lifted up to your ears. I lift up Hunyer to you Father for you know what his heart desires and what he struggles with. I pray that you intervene on Hunters behalf and aet him free of this bondage with pornaugraphy Father. I ptay you ease his mind, soothe his soul and comfort his heart for You Father ate a God of love alow to anger full.of mercy and grace and it is these things i call upon that you help Hunter to over. In Jesus name i pray.Amen.
Hunter please email me if ever you need someone to talk with. I find having someone to speak with always helps.
May God bless you.
PLEASE READ JOB 31:1 .ARE U AWARE U CAN TALK TO THE EYE AND HEAR U?.SO MAKE A COVENANT WITH YOUR EYE NOT TO LOOK AT PONOGRAFIC MATERIALS AND U WILL SEE A CHANGE BY THE GRACE OF GOD. ALWAYS LET THE WORD OF GOD BE A LAMP TO YOIR FEET AND ALIGHT TO YOUR PATH THAT WOULD GUIDE YOUR DAY TO DAY ACTIVITIES. STAY BLESSED
l want to stop my strong sexual desire which is leading ne in commiting adultery
That is a Test of this life from God. If you are able to control it, your life will be blissful. If you can’t control it, your life will be ruined. All kind of desires we have now are for test. Too bad, too many had failed miserably. Thanks to Jesus Christ, He is the assurance for us to go to heaven even we are sinners. Amen
What if the sexual desires is a male for other males? Why doesn’t God take that desire away? I know of a person and he hates it. And asks God to take it away. But God Doesn’t. Why? This person does not want to be this way. But it is so hard for him. He falls into temptation at times with masturbating with thoughts of other males. And after he is done he feels so disgusted with himself and like he is an evil sinner. He has told me he has never ever done sodomy. But he has done grinding with other men until climaxing with them. But he has not done that in a long time. He does not know what to do? He has cried out to God to be delivered from this. But so far he has not been. He is not into porn or anything like that either. I do not know what to tell him? Please help.
I won’t attempt to advise you about something for which I know very little, so I’ll focus on what I do know.
I am attracted to women. When I got married, God didn’t take away my attraction to other women. If left unguarded, that attraction turns to lust, and therefore sin.
If a man is attracted to men and is thus prone to lust after them, he would have to fight that temptation to lust just like any man fights a temptation to lust. To lust after a man or a woman is sin.
Keeping both the heterosexual and homosexual lust in view, the larger theological question might be rephrased this way: Why doesn’t God take away our lust? We aren’t told the reason for that in Scripture, but God in his wisdom has ordained that we walk in this life as new creation in old, fallen flesh. We all long for the day when our redemption will be complete (Romans 8). Then we will totally be free from the presence of sin.
More to the point of male-to-male attraction, there are a lot of questions that come with this. Who has your friend spoken to about this? Has he sought out counseling? Is he also attracted to women? Does he want to get married to a woman some day? I know several men have been sexually attracted to men and got married to a woman, even experiencing the temptation to lust after men from time to time as a married man, but are very happily married. What resources have you found on this issue?
Usually it’s a punishment. Use a concordance. It’s in the bible. Don’t walk after God run. Cling to what is right. God seeks perfection. Ever see a parent slap their kid to get them to behave. Well God punishes those he cares about. Up root every other sin and the gay will go away. It’s not easy your mind can easily be warped to where you think you were born that way. Or start that way then bounce you around back in forth without you even being able to perceive it. I’m not going to throw you ever bible verse on it because believing doesn’t come hand in hand that well with disobediance.
This is what i would say to your friend:
Dont listen to the people that say it is a punishment. Suffering in this world is not directly a consequence of God being angry or not caring. The only times I know God punish people, is by death sentence, some places in the bible. Are you alive? Well, then you still have many breaths to cry out to God for redemption, which He promise. “Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.” Romans 10:13. But this must be of a pure heart. So if the pain full thing in your life (gay sexual desire) do not learn you to be drawn closer to Gods heart and love, then the pain is certainly not from the Fathers discipline.
As for your question, why does not God take it away? The best answer is indeed and truly this: I dont know! Dont let any other person tell you other wise, unnless it is The Lord himself. This issue is actually one in a huge category of questions as related to suffering. Why does not God heal me, while other times he does? Why is there evil? Why does God allow death? The bible actually calls the “death” an enemy of God, but still God allows it, and even uses it to some extent. Thats something to think about! However, my point is this: desire that is not from God, is a result of the fallen world we live in. God has promised to restore everything when He comes back, but while we wait for that, we will still struggle. The bible actually says “Put to death the desire of the body, and live by the spirit”. I am not saying it is hopeless, but what I am saying is that if we live by the spirit, we can be champions. Not neccesearly healed. So each day will be a struggle, and each day must become another daily victory. I strongly advice to not feel self-comdemned if you fail. Run to God, confess, and He will welcome you as you never sinned in the first place! “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” 1 john 1:9
God is good. And he dealt with our struggling on the cross. That is; if you are born again christian, God looks at you as righthouss, even if you fall short. This is a spiritual truth. Perhaps your body is not alined itself with God, yet. But some day it will! Thank our God for the love he gives in Jesus, his son, instead of you going hiding in shame. Shame produce no fruit. Living inside Gods love produce fruit. Perhaps He will heal you! I will pray for it, but if not, stay faithfull to the cross!
I can actually relate to the question myself. I am not gay, but struggle with thoughts and sexual desire that is similar in nature, sometimes gay thoughts also come in. I know it is wrong, yet I fall weekly. What I do is: I thank God that this is not “The true me”, that I am a new person in Christ, and that God is faithfull, and that in the future He will help me to not go there again! Perhaps you fall next day again, or perhaps you fall next minute, but Gods love is still efficient. Repent! And thank Him for forgiveness. Jesus said to his diciples: “forgive 7 times each day for the same sin comitted towards you”. He did not say: “something is wrong with you if it happens seven times, i am so dissappointed. ”
Also remember, having sinful desires is not the same as not being born again. The bible actually says that if we are true Christians, we will still struggle. But the Key is that, the sinful desire is no longer who you are, Its not your true self. Your identity is now in Jesus, you are a Son of God! This is the truth! So start living by this truth, and the journey will be alot easier on you!
LUKE 1:37 NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE WITH GOD. 1THESALONIANS 5:17 .PLEASE READ JOB 31:1 .KEEP ON TELLING GOD ABOUT IT ABD WAIT PATIENTLY ON TO HIM.HE HAS DONE IT BEFORE AND HE WILL DO IT FOR U TOO.
Is it Gods plan for me to keep struggling with sexual sin. I really need a answer. I been praying for God to remove this .I read the bible like every other day to get more rooted I bought books talked to some people. But why won’t God remove this if it’s a bad thing and Im literally crying out to Him.please help
John – maybe consider this. What if sexual sin isn’t the core problem? Maybe it’s lust. I might recommend a book like this: https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Not-Problem-Lust-Lust-Saturated/dp/1590525191
Hey, I know this can be really hard fo your friend, but this is probably a way on God testing him, to see if he will do it, because that’s what the devil wants you to do, and God definitely doesn’t want that life for him. Just pray to God and ask him to help you and he will. If you feel guilty about something, if you haven’t yet, ask him to give you a new life, and to forgive you for all that you have done. Hope this was helpful.
If you dont know the Son, you dont know the Father. In other words, if you dont know Jesus you dont know God. Like Jesus said “I am the Way, the Truth, the Life, no one gets to the Father except through Me.” If you have not accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, you have not accepted God. People must understand that JESUS is the “bread of life” to us from God. You will know God better if you know Jesus for He is one with the Father and is God.
In His wisdom, the Eternal Almighty forgives our sin in justification which has an immediate effect but removes our sinful desires in sanctification over a period of time.
This is to deal with our arrogance, which is deep-rooted, and our pride that knows no bounds.
If you have been regenerated, granted repentance and are in possession of trust then He will complete the work He has begun in you. If you are just playing the religious card then your hypocrisy will be made manifest.
Evil spirit has a hold on him , It’s plain and simple man is made to be with a woman,no excuse for he knows what’s right and wrong ,
The bible says mortify the deeds of your body through the Holy SPIRIT. We must spend hours and hours of praying in the Holy Ghost paying the price to get so close to God JESUS CHRIST that we are drunk in GODS SPIRIT, SATURATED in GODS presence.How bad do we want to be delivered? Mattew 11:12 The kingdom of heaven suffereth violence and the violent take it by force. The spiritual force is increased by prayer and fasting.You can take a break from fasting but we must non stop praying until deliverance come.The devil wants us to give up. Most churches don’t practice non stop prayer until deliverance comes to you or me.This is the deadliest weapon in the world.PRAY WITHOUT CEASING. LUKE 18:1 MEN MUST ALWAYS PRAY,AND NOT TO FAINT; BUT MOST CHURCHES DO ONE HOUR PRAYER MEETINGS AND TAKE OUR TITHES AND OFFERINGS AND SEND US HOME WOUNDED,HURTING AND NO POWER DELIVERANCE IN OUR LIVES. SO WE MUST GO TO GOD OUR SELF AND GET OUR OWN BLESSINGS AND DELIVERANCE IN OUR LIVES. DON’T DEPEND ON YOUR BROTHERS AND SISTERS.FIGHT A GOOD FIGHT OF FAITH AND LAY HOLD ON ETERNAL LIFE. I WONT LET GO UNTIL I AM IN HEAVEN.FIGHT TO THE DEATH.GIVE GOD GLORY PRAISES AND HONOR.NEVER GIVE UP. WE CAN MAKE IT I BELIEVE GOD NO MATTER WHAT.
I’m a female who struggles with same sex attraction and sometimes what I can only describe as gender dysphoria.
I feel attraction to both sexes, but had times where it was totally lesbian.Ive grinded with males and females since childhood. As a Christian I hate this.
I’ve prayed to God more than.
What helps me, is to keep praying…not an anxious and panicking prayer.
The key is to understand God loves u no matter what, and will help u treat it like any other struggle.
Don’t put homosexuality, transgenderism or any other thing as an idol….thinking it is all that matters or worst than anything else one might call sin.
Focus on other things and began to re-read your brain.Accept the issues without fear and just ask God to help u see the roots and reasons for it being there.
Neuroplasticity is a thing, what u focus on you become.
Just learn to do it right, by getting to truly know God and yourself.
Because of free will. If God took away the temptation of sin, then how would we prove to be faithful leaders? For example, years ago I read a story where an infant fell of a changing table and died. In the comment section of the article, a person wrote something along the lines of, “This is all part of Gods plan.” That is so far from thr truth. It is not Gods plan for that infant to die, nor is it Gods plan for us to struggle with lust. However, because of free will, we have to live with the consequences of earthly life until our time on this planet ends. May God bless you all.