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The Power of Prayer Over Pornography

Last Updated: February 20, 2014

I found out about my husband’s battle with sexual temptation in June 2005, when I found images he had been looking at on our Internet history. It broke my heart and shattered my world. I will never forget the physical pain in my heart, and the emotional torture of those first few days, weeks, months, and even years. But it was in those times that I learned just how true Romans 8:28 is: “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

Before we were married (in November 2002), I knew that my husband had had some trouble with pornography, but understood it to be a thing of the past. Little did I know then about the intensely addictive nature of porn, and how hard it is for a man to give up.

In the weeks leading up to the discovery of my husband’s sin, I had been working my way through the book The Power of a Praying Wife (by Stormie Omartian). This is a wonderful book, and it had me praying specifically for my husband in a number of ways, much more than I had before. In particular, I had been praying that my husband would be delivered from any temptations which Satan may be throwing at him. At this time I had no idea just what that prayer would do.

When his sin was brought into the light, I had a choice: to forgive my husband and work forward together, or to end the relationship. Praise be to God that I chose the former! Through the forgiveness and second chances offered him, my husband surrendered himself totally to God, broke his addiction with almost immediate effect, and took hold of a wonderful new life. And I saw that out of the terribly bad, God brought wonderful goodness.

My husband and I are now passionate about helping others to be delivered from this sin and pain, and take hold of the new lives God wants to give them. My husband runs a weekly accountability group for men in our Church, and is writing a book on how to resist temptation and achieve sexual purity through the power of God.

Mouse PadKnowing how great a role the Internet plays in providing temptation to sexual sin, I decided to create a range of ‘Sexual Purity’ mouse pads in my online Christian store. Each mouse pad is designed specifically to help men (or women) stay pure when faced with sexual temptation online, and because a mouse pad stays next to a computer, it is right there where you need it most. I pray that these will be effective in helping people stay away from sin on the Internet, and to stay sexually pure.

God truly is good. My husband and I are living proof that with HIS strength, temptation can be overcome; with HIM terrible situations can be worked out for good.

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Dene MorganThis article is by Dene Morgan, a stay-at-home-mom, who creates apparel designs between playing with her kids, home-schooling, laundry, cooking, cleaning, and hanging out with her husband.

  1. Caren

    Please agree in prayer with me that my husband is delivered from an addiction to pornography. It’s ruining my marriage and devastated my self esteem. Thought we were finished with this years ago…

    • Kay Bruner

      Hey Caren,

      I would also suggest that you find a counselor who can help you process your emotions and build healthy boundaries. A group might also be helpful to you, and the online resource Bloom is a great place to find support as well. Whatever your husband chooses, you choose to be healthy for you!

      Peace to you,
      Kay

  2. Jacob K

    Dear all, I request you to pray for me. As i am addicted to porn and no able to come out of it

  3. james

    Dear all, i request you to pray for me. As i am addicted to ponography since many years and no able to come out of it, though i wanted to do. Please pray for me or do guide me to get out of it. ill be grateful to you always

  4. james

    thanks all

  5. gel

    Thank you for your encouragement.
    ive been searching the net for something that i can be of use to resist temptation of being hooked with pornography. thank you for making a mouse pad like this!…
    since i almost carry my notebook with me i seldom use a mouse pad… id rather use this as a background…

    God bless us all

  6. Hello Brothers and Sisters in Christ,

    Please pray for me and my friends, tomorrow we will be holding a prayer rally in front of the eXXXotica Expo in Miami Beach. We will do our best to transmit God’s love to all of HIS children entangled in the snares of pornography. Glory be to God in the Highest!

  7. Sioned,

    What wonderful news! I’m so glad you found the strength you needed, and that progress has been made on the road to your husband’s recovery. Well done for being able to keep as calm as possible.

    God bless you both richly as you move towards the wonderful new life God is desperate to give you!

    Dene :)

  8. Sioned

    I just wanted to thank you all for the overwhelming help and support you have provided. I received no less than 5 personal emails thru my posts on this website and it helped me to feel loved in the body of Christ, and yes to know that people are willing to reach out.

    I was being emotionally strangled by this issue and the fact that I had not addressed it with my husband. With as much love as possible and no loud voices, though I confess, there were some tears – I finally gained strength enough to approach my husband.

    It was so helpful to have used this site first. Having read articles already, I had ideas and terminology already in my head that came out easily in the discussion.

    My husband’s first responses were all of the reasons that I have contributed to the problem. I quietly but matter of factly asked him if he saw this is a sin, he said absolutely. In my head “Score! 1 in the right direction. :)” Next question, do you feel I should be held accountable for your sin? I don’t think he was expecting something so rational and direct and as such there was no time for him to say anything but the truth. His answer was “No, not at all.” Once again, Score!!!

    I know this isn’t fixed – boy do I know. But I wanted to show you all of specific examples of how your writings helped me start towards a better future. I would never have thought of these words because I don’t think well in the spur of the moment.

    I look forward to praying with my husband on this issue and discussing it further with him. I will keep sharing our progress.

    God bless you all for reaching out from a very difficult place.

    In Christ,
    Sioned

  9. Sioned,

    I wholeheartedly concur with Dene. Very wise advice.

    I would like to comment this portion of your comments:

    “I am still considering changing all passwords and setting up his own account with many restrictions. I just don’t want to take his authority away, or show him disrespect. I don’t really know what steps it is ok for me to take at this point? What can I do that will actually impact him favorably, not turn him off of my good ideas?”

    Unfortunately, nothing external will change your husband internally. External restrictions only help a men (and women) who hate their sin. Right now, he loves his sin and continues to seek gratification outside the Lord’s provision. Until he WANTS to reject porn, he will always find a way to keep it in his life.

    You cannot choose repentance–genuine repentance, not just “I’m sorry, I’ll change”–for him. You cannot maneuver or compel his repentance. There is no magic phrase or sure-fire strategy or miracle action that will suddenly get through to your husband. If you’re probing his mind for a switch that will suddenly turn the the lights on for him, you will not find it.

    Your best and only responsibility in this–as his partner and help-meet–is prayer and tough love. Mixed well and applied in large doses.

    In following your posts, it appears you’re on the right track. You’re putting all the pieces of the puzzle together. Soon you will be convinced–really convinced–that this is your husband’s problem to solve, not yours.

    May the Holy Spirit give you supernatural wisdom and superhuman strength as you stand up for what is right.

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