Most Recent Posts in Defeat Lust & Pornography
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Can you really be free from porn?
Each year, I find myself reflecting on a question I get asked…
Each year, I find myself reflecting on a question I get asked often as a former sex addict and now sex addiction recovery mentor: “Can you really be free from porn?” It’s a valid question.…
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Behind Every Woman’s Body Is a Woman
When you look at pornography, what you end up seeing is a…
When you look at pornography, what you end up seeing is a long line of naked bodies. When you look at pornography for years, you end up seeing years and years’ worth of long lines…
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How to Deal with Secret Sexual Struggles
My heart was pounding. My hands were sweaty. I knew I needed…
My heart was pounding. My hands were sweaty. I knew I needed to be honest about my struggle but it was the last thing in the world I wanted to talk about. Especially to my…
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Your First Seven Days of Porn Recovery
While traveling recently, I attended a 12-step group. I enjoyed the meeting…
While traveling recently, I attended a 12-step group. I enjoyed the meeting greatly, but was saddened by the lack of long-term sobriety in the room. Over half the guys admitted to acting out that week.…
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Shame’s Massive Role in Porn Use
Many of us tend to think we feel shame in response to…
Many of us tend to think we feel shame in response to using pornography. What might surprise you however is that the reverse is also true. The more we feel shame, the more we will…
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Setting Up Your Covenant Eyes Account (30 Minutes That Can Change Your Life)
Confession: I can be a procrastinator. Over a year ago, my husband…
Confession: I can be a procrastinator. Over a year ago, my husband asked me to find a home for a huge pile of extra pillows stacked at the foot of our basement stairs. Guess where…
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Getting Sober in Just 30 Years
Recovery materials are replete with books on how to find sexual sobriety.…
Recovery materials are replete with books on how to find sexual sobriety. The “how-to” resources are almost limitless. Google “kicking the porn habit” and you will find dozens of articles on ways to find sobriety…
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Accountability and the Habit of Lying
“There are those, too, who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders,…
“There are those, too, who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders, but many of them do recover if they have the capacity to be honest.” – The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous “We are a…
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How to Lose Your Desire for Porn and Lust
For many struggling with porn, their #1 goal is to stop looking…
For many struggling with porn, their #1 goal is to stop looking at it. This is why we install Covenant Eyes on our computers and have accountability partners ask us if we’ve stumbled this week…
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3 Ways Porn Hijacks Your Brain
Scrolling through the images at the bottom of the news site, Jack…
Scrolling through the images at the bottom of the news site, Jack lingers on one of them. He lingers a little too long. Jack doesn’t know it yet, but a hijacking is in progress. You’ve seen…
