Resources for Wives of Porn Addicts

Ever since our blog was launched in 2008, we’ve written hundreds of articles and conducted many interviews for women who are married to porn addicts. Below are some of our best, most-popular resources and our recommendations for women who are in this situation.

Resources for Wives of Porn Addicts

Is Your Husband Addicted to Porn?

10 Signs of Porn Addiction: Do these describe your husband? – “If you suspect something about your husband, here are some telltale signs of porn addiction.”

Understanding How Porn Is Harming Your Husband

Brain Chemicals and Porn Addiction: Science Shows How Porn Harms Us – “This imbalance in the brain leads to many problems: impotence with your spouse, frequent masturbation with very little satisfaction, anxiety, fatigue, lack of motivation, inability to concentrate, and escalating tastes for more bizarre or novel porn.”

7 Facts About Porn and the Male Brain – “How is a man wired sexually? How does porn hijack a man’s sexuality?”

Combatting the Lies Porn Feeds to Women

Husbands Who Watch Porn: Wives Are Asking, “What’s wrong with me?” – “If you are a woman married to a man who compulsively uses pornography, one of the best things you can do for yourself is acknowledge that you are not the root of the problem.”

7 Questions Wives of Porn Addicts Often Ask

  1. How can my husband love me and look at porn when he knows it hurts me?
  2. Why does my husband prefer porn and masturbation to sex with me?
  3. Why am I not enough if I am sexually available to him?
  4. He says he looks at porn because I don’t have sex with him enough, am not pretty enough, am too fat, etc. What can I do?
  5. My husband says all men do it. Am I making too big a deal out of this?
  6. My husband refuses to get help or admit this is a problem. How can I make him stop? What are the risks if he doesn’t stop?
  7. Is there hope? Can a man like this change?

5 Lies I Believed When My Husband Was Watching Porn – “The women in pornography don’t require anything of the participant. It is a very one sided act. Therefore, if I try making our life all about my husband and leave my needs at the door, he won’t need pornography anymore.”

Practical Steps for Marriage Recovery

Porn and Your Husband: A Recovery Guide for Wives – This free e-book will help you begin to answer some of the big questions: Why does he look at porn? Is this my fault? Is our marriage over? You’ll also learn some practical tips for bringing healing and reconciliation to your relationship: communicating productively, setting boundaries for tough love, and finding intensive counseling to help him stop.

Porn and Your Husband: Free E-Book

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Setting Boundaries with Your Porn Addict Husband – “Boundaries are limits and precedents that you establish to let your husband know what is a reasonable way for him to behave so he can regain your trust over time.”

Porn and Your Husband: Your Questions Answered

  • How can a woman build her self-esteem when she compares herself to porn?
  • How should a wife handle her husband’s relapses?
  • How do I talk to my husband about how I feel without it becoming a cause of conflict or a catalyst (excuse) for him retreating into porn again?
  • Should I be physically intimate with with my husband when he is recovering from porn addiction?
  • What are some of the warning signs a husband isn’t taking recovery seriously?
  • What should a woman do when her husband is taking no steps to turn away from porn?
  • When and how should a woman inform to her children about her husband’s porn use?
  • How can a woman protect her children from her husband’s porn habit?

Porn and Your Sex Life

4 Ways Porn Kills Great Sex in Marriage – “What will make sex better can be summed up in one word: intimacy. And no, sex does not equal intimacy.”

Couples Using Porn: Does it increase sexual satisfaction? – “The question is not whether shared porn use bodes well for relationships compared to solitary use for masturbation…A better question is whether couples watching porn together is optimal for real intimacy.”

Should Married Couples Fast from Sex During Porn-Detox? – “For many Christian counselors, this abstinence period is recommended as a time to intentionally de-throne the idol of sexual gratification.”

Husband Struggle with Porn? 3 Ways to Rebuild Your Sex Life – “As you heal from the destructive path of pornography, don’t lose sight of sexual connection in your marriage bed.”

For Husbands: Practical Steps to Earn Your Wife’s Trust

Straight Talk to Husbands Who Watch Porn – “Pornography doesn’t teach men to serve, honor, and cherish their wives in a way that fosters romance. Pornography trains men to be consumers, to treat sex as a commodity, to think about sex as something on-tap and made-to-order.”

So, Does That Make Me an Adulterer? – “This is no minor infraction, like coming home late for dinner or forgetting to pay the gas bill. It’s a deliberate, heinous violation, and no wife should be expected to tolerate it.”

For Men Addicted to Porn: 8 Ways to Rebuild Trust with Your Wife – “Some men go so far as to blame their wives for their porn problems. If this is you, grow up and take responsibility for yourself. You are not merely a helpless victim of your sexual passions.”

What Every Wife of a Sex Addict Has a Right to Know About Her Husband’s Recovery – “One way you can make your relationship with your wife go a little more smoothly is to keep her informed of what your recovery looks like and even allow her to be involved.”

Hope After Porn - spreadStories of Hope

Hope After Porn – This free e-book In this free e-book, features stories from four women who have personally known the devastation pornography can cause in a marriage. They give readers a glimpse of the betrayal, the hurt, and the choices they made to try and make a difference.

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