“My husband is the sex addict; why should I feel shame?” For most healthy outsiders, the logical answer is, “You shouldn’t.” But for most spouses of sex addicts, the feeling of shame clings to us like a body suit. Shame can result from an overwhelming assault on our self-worth. It…
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From Addiction to Accountability
I started watching porn when I was in high school, but this was before the age of the smartphone. So, while the seed had been planted, my exposure to porn was very limited. I did not start watching daily until I purchased my first smartphone in 2012, and that opened…
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To the Teen Alone and Ashamed of Your Porn Use
Shame Has No Age Limit Shame affects kids, teens, and adults. I’ll never forget receiving a phone call from a distraught mother who found my website, and called to share the story of her 9-year-old son who had been sexually abused at a sleepover. He was now 11 and a…
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4 Ways Porn Kills Great Sex in Marriage
Porn makes promises it can’t keep, especially when it comes to hot sex in marriage. Porn won’t spice up your sex life, and it won’t make you a better lover. Science and psychology show that sharing porn with your spouse or having a secret affair with porn will mess up…
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FAQ: What should I tell my kids about my husband’s porn problem?
Josh had been losing a battle against pornography and adultery for years when he decided he wanted to end his marriage. He had met someone new and wanted to move out, leaving his wife, Serena, devastated and alone. But Serena wasn’t the only one who suffered. He also left his children without…
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Porn: A Gateway Drug
I work with men every day who struggle with some type of sexual addiction, and they all have one thing in common: porn. For a lot of guys, this is their main vice. The men who also have affairs, go to massage parlors, use escorts, or prostitutes all report the…
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10 Shocking Stats About Teens and Pornography
What is pornography like for today’s teenagers? This is the first generation to grow up in a world where smartphones and high-speed internet have always existed. According to recent studies, 95% of teens now have access to a portable X-rated theater—i.e. a smartphone.1 The rise of smartphones has correlated closely…
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How Many Women Watch Porn?
Despite the rising number of women who use pornography, women who struggle often feel alone. One woman, Kimberly, shares this story of how difficult it is to reach out for help: “Um, just so you know. I’m the one with the problem. I’m not calling because my husband or boyfriend…
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8 Common Reasons for a Sexless Marriage
Like most Mondays, several couples fly in to do a 3 or 5-Day Intensive with me and my team. Many couples I see will inevitably tell me the tale of being in a sexless marriage for months, years, or decades. I smile and tell them not to worry. I have…
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Pornography’s Prison of Shame and God’s Keys to Freedom: Matthew’s Story
Pornography remains one of the vilest substances on the planet, an abomination that twists our God-given sexual desires and mutates them into selfish desires leading to emotional and spiritual destruction. My Mental Prison Cell I was nine years old when I discovered pornography, and for eleven years, I would spend…
