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I was a 14-year-old Catholic. I sang with the church choir, attended Mass every weekend, and participated in youth group as often as I could. My friends and family had always warned me about the dangers of pornography. They told me how addictive it could be and how demeaning it…
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“Grace is presently at work in our lives.” —Robert Millet It was Saturday, December 10, 2016. I woke up, lying on my side, in a cheap motel room on Fremont Street in Las Vegas. I could see the daylight squeezing in around the edges of the blackout drapes on the…
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Integrity could rightly be labeled the “litmus test” of true recovery from pornography. Addicts are prone to define sobriety and recovery on their own terms, and when they do so, that is all that they will ever attain. Perhaps what James said about the tongue could be applied to the…
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Back in 1985, when I was an ambitious young church planter in South Florida trying desperately to make a name for myself, I met another young church planter who had just arrived from Las Vegas. I liked the guy right away, and we quickly became friends. His name was Bob…
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I crouched nervously behind the glow of our home office computer. Just hours before, my sister and her friends had called me into that very room to see “something funny.” I was trying to remember the words they searched — to replicate the series of clicks that would bring me…
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What can an ally do to effectively help someone caught in the trap of a nasty porn habit? Joel Hesch of Proven Men Ministries had to face that question in a recovery group. He writes: Recently a married man from a support group I lead had two setbacks (or relapses) with porn…
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I was 36, married for 15 years, serving in our Church, attending life group and sending our girls to a Christian school to help raise them in the ways of the Lord. I thought pornography was something non-believers looked at. I didn’t really know what it entailed. I never imagined…
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Every porn or sex addict who has found years of recovery has the same thing in common–the first 30 days. Before you can be sober for 30 years, you have to get sober for 30 days. If you are serious about finding lasting sobriety and real recovery, I invite you…
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The more we study the Bible, the more clearly the principles of biblical accountability are revealed, often in surprising places. While the book of Job primarily concerns the problem of suffering, it also deals with the problem of friends who try to help us with suffering—our imperfect allies. What can…
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You just caught your husband watching porn. And you felt it. The sinking feeling in your stomach. The stab across your chest when you saw what your husband was looking at. Maybe even the screaming void that wordlessly reminds you this wasn’t the first time. But when you try to confront…
