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3 Biblical Strategies for Fighting Lust

Last Updated: August 23, 2023

“Don’t touch. Don’t taste. Don’t handle”. We hear these three “rules” often when learning how to fight—and overcome—lust.

The problem is, mere rule-keeping does not itself get to the heart of lust. This is one of the great lessons Paul teaches in Scripture. Merely knowing the law only aggravates our lusts (Romans 7:7-12), and following rigid ascetic regulations—don’t touch, don’t taste, don’t handle—is “of no value in stopping the indulgence of the flesh” (Colossians 2:20-23).

If the “law” itself is not able to turn our hearts away from temptation, then how exactly do we fight against a spirit of lust? And how can we finally overcome it?

Editor’s Note: Are you a teenager struggling with lust? Before reading this post, I encourage you to check out this article we wrote especially for teens, How to Overcome Lust: 4 Tips for Teens.

How the Bible Teaches Us to Fight Lust

In 2 Timothy 2:22, Paul offers some of the best, most concise bits of Biblical advice on how to overcome lust: “So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.”

Commit it to memory. Chew on it daily. Let your mind marinate in it, for in it lies three biblical strategies for fighting lust.

See related: What is Lust in the Bible?

1. Run From Lust

“So flee youthful passions”

“Passions” refer to our cravings, our longings, and our desires. More specifically, the passage speaks of “youthful passions.” These fleshly lusts are said to “wage war against the soul” (1 Peter 2:11). On the surface, these cravings are anchored in the members of our body (Romans 6:12), but as we look deeper, we find they stem from our sinful hearts (Romans 7:7). Ultimately, these passions are forms of idolatry (Colossians 3:5), revolving our lives and desires around created things rather than the Creator.

See related: For singles: How to Handle Strong Sex Drive in a God-Honoring Way

We must run from these things. Every Christian, even though he or she is indwelt by the Spirit of Christ, still lives in a mortal body surrounded by worldly amusements. These youthful lusts stubbornly cling to our heels. As we see these passions stirred in us, we must habitually flee from them.

  • This might mean mentally fleeing: bouncing our thoughts away from lustful imaginations.
  • This might mean visually fleeing: bouncing our eyes away from lustful images.
  • This might mean physically fleeing: walking (or running) away from tempting situations.

See related: Overcoming Temptation: Bible Verses and Principles to Help You Resist Sin

2. Run to Christ

“. . . pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace”

It is not enough to flee from youthful lusts. We must run toward a new passion. We are to “pursue,” that is, eagerly and swiftly run toward Christlikeness.

Christ promises His people a heart of:

  • Righteousness (real integrity, a passion for justice, and a life pleasing to God)
  • Faith (strong and welcome conviction and trust in God)
  • Love (benevolent affection toward God and others)
  • Peace (tranquility in the heart and harmony with God and others)

We are to run hard after these things each day knowing these character qualities are how we were created to live. We pursue these things knowing it is our destiny to live this way. A billion years from now, when sin is a distant memory, we will be living lives of love, peace, and righteousness in the kingdom of God. Having this hope we purify ourselves, just as He is pure (1 John 3:3).

3. Run With Godly Friends

“. . . along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.”

We must not only run from lust and toward God’s vision for our lives, but we must also run with our brothers and sisters with the same vision. We must all find companions for this stretch of the road, those who share our faith and convictions, those in the common struggle for holiness.

These friends should be those who “call on the Lord,” an expression for those who are saved (Acts 22:16; Romans 10:13). These are other men and women who have also cried out to God for the forgiveness of their sins from a “pure” (genuine) heart.

Running with others involves a certain level of intentionality. It is not enough to simply know others around us are on the same journey because they profess the Christian faith. We must have real running companions, those who actually help us flee youthful passions and pursue a Christlike heart.

James 5:16 and Hebrews 10:24-25 offer four key building blocks that give structure to how Christian accountability should look. These building blocks are: meeting together, confession of sin, prayer, and encouragement.

PIllars of Accountability

Meeting together is the foundation. This includes all the basic methods of communication and conversation: meeting for coffee, talking on the phone, texting, writing emails, or anything that involves a meeting of minds. The central pillar in the room is confession of sin: getting honest with God and one another about what we are doing that we shouldn’t do or not doing what we should. The outer walls that support and protect this relationship are prayer and encouragement.

Why Can’t I Just Stop Lusting?

People ask me all the time, “Why can’t I just stop lusting?” I share my response to these people in this video below, which happens to include references to 2 Timothy 2:22. We believe so strongly that this verse contains the best strategy for how to overcome lust and quit porn that we actually used it as the foundation for a 40-day challenge called Overcome Porn. This challenge walks you through these three strategies and equips you with some of our best resources to put porn in your past for good. So watch this video, and give Overcome Porn: The 40-Day Challenge a try today.

Fighting against lust isn’t easy, but it’s also not something that you need to do alone. Through prayer, Scripture, accountability, and a heartfelt desire to flee from lustful passions, you can resist temptation and overcome lust.

We’d love to hear from you. What has God taught you about breaking free from lust? Comment below!

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  1. First on all, I want to commend the author for this life changing message.
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    I have messages which I have written by God’s grace concerning how to overcome different Lust and I see your message as an alignment, inline with what the Lord has been teaching me.

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    • Samantha Groll

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    Hope this help, Thank you!

  4. Al Reynosa

    Will the app ever be available for Android

    • Moriah Dufrin

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  5. Victor

    I have problem with sleeping and having sex… But awake, I don’t have that problem. It weakens me that am defeated by lust and passion while asleep.
    I have been auditing my self…I have not been able to come to terms the habit am into while awake that could put me in such spot whilr asleep.
    I need help!

    • Moriah Dufrin

      Hi Victor,

      Thank you for being honest and sharing your struggles. Perhaps you may find it beneficial to speak to a Christian counselor or therapist? Often times, they will be able to help people find the root of the issue and work to solve it. I pray that you find peace during this time of trial!
      Blessings,
      Moriah

  6. Martin

    But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. (Mt.5:28) I hope my testimony can help someone. Sadly I used to have lustful thoughts causing me to sin and always wanted to be free from it but couldn’t. I used to cry out to God to deliver me. I am happy to say that by the grace of God that I have been free from lust for some years now. So what is the secret? Whenever I see any beautiful girl, or photo or in company with opposite sex I immediately start praising and thanking the Lord for his beautiful creation of this person and I remember how wonderful is the Lord our God who made heaven and earth and then instantly lust doesn’t get a chance to get hold of me. I am too busy praising the Lord to have lustful thoughts. I believe that there is a spirit of lust which causes men and women to lust but by praising and giving glory to God for his creation, the evil spirit has to flee. I can boldly say that once there is no lust, you will never have unholy desires for porn and masturbation. Secondly, if you see something on TV, computer or book which is likely to cause lust immediately change the channel or close that web page. Thank you Jesus for setting me free. I pray that everyone who reads this wins the victory.

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