One of the most helpful explanations I’ve heard about pornography addiction is Dr. Kevin Skinner’s “activation sequence.” In this video I explain what the sequence is and why it is important for those who struggle with porn to create their own “deactivation sequence.” Pick up a copy of Dr. Skinner’s Treating Pornography Addiction.
For many Christian men who struggle with an addiction to sex and pornography, shame has been a powerful force that has kept the struggle hidden. Men attempt in vain to change or control their behavior through their own effort. They suffer from a faulty belief system that tells them that if their struggle were exposed, they would be rejected and alone. For years, they’ve been trying to fix themselves in isolation. Finally, something has changed. Either through confession or exposure, the secret is out. The man now has the opportunity to run from a journey of recovery or to embrace … Continue reading →
One of the groomsmen at a relative’s wedding was also an old college acquaintance of mine. We hadn’t kept in particular contact over the years, but we made sure to set aside a few minutes for as much conversation as was permitted by the dance music blasting over the loudspeakers. We had the usual conversations—oh, what are you up to these days, that sort of thing. Both of us, it turned out, were still single, lived alone, and lived fairly far from our respective jobs. At one point, I mentioned to him I loved my long commute. “I hate being … Continue reading →
Many people ask me—usually at the end of one of my presentations about the effects of pornography—if it’s truly possible to be free from porn. They feel they’ve tried everything and are beginning to despair. They’re beginning to think that, while it might be possible for some people to break free from porn, it’s not possible for them. I know that freedom from porn is possible, and I know this for two reasons: I, and many people I know who have begun to find freedom from porn, have been exactly where you’re at and have felt the same way you … Continue reading →
Episode 145 Most Christians have heard that reading your Bible is essential for spiritual growth, but what does that really mean? What does engaging with the Bible really look like? Does it really impact change in someone’s life? What evidence do we have for this? Today we are talking to Dr. Pam Ovwigho of the Center for Bible Engagement. Using data from more than 170,000 surveys, Pam reveals some fresh statistics about pornography use in the church and how engaging with the Bible makes a difference in overcoming temptation. She talks specifically about what she sees as the crucial “tipping point” for … Continue reading →