About the author, Carl Stewart

Carl Stewart is the author of the Amazon Kindle bestseller, The Porn Antidote: God’s Secret Weapon for Crushing Porn’s Grip, and Creating the Life and Marriage You Dream Of. Carl is a counselor and coach in an overflowing private practice where he works with men and marriages devastated by pornography and sexual addiction. He has advanced training and supervision in Emotionally Focused Therapy–the most empirically validated marital therapy which is uniquely suited to restoring marriages affected by sexual betrayal. Carl is a speaker at men’s events, marriage retreats, and parenting seminars. Check out Carl Stewart’s website and blog at www.thepornantidote.com.

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4 thoughts on “3 Powerful Porn Triggers (And How to Overcome Them)

  1. As a recovering porn addict, Carl’s words are absolute truth! When I reach out to other guys and/or my wife, the desire to numb out/medicate/comfort myself vanishes. The result is something bordering supernatural, it’s really weird. First the desire and pull to porn is powerful and you think there’s no other way. Then God sends a suggestion, “Maybe you can call so an so.” And that’s the escape route. Once I know how this all works, I know what the escape route looks like and where it’ll take me.
    I still struggle with this stuff and I wish it were different. I wish I would never struggle again, but that’s not happening right now. So if I have to struggle, I know I don’t have to do it alone. I include my accountability partner or my wife.

  2. As a wife who has suffered the affects caused by my husband’s choices, I will state a good thing for a spouse to get in place is a healthy boundaries contract for themselves.
    This way they remain safe in the areas specific to thier situation.
    If the spouse breaks the contract, the consequences have been predetermined. No surprises, they will respond accordingly.
    I will say as a wife, I don’t want to hear details when my husband is struggling. It is not good to put a spouse in the position to be the confidant to thier partner’s adultery.

  3. I found that when these situations enter, to simply get out of them ASAP. There are two types of ways to deal with conflict: fight or flight. With purity, the only way to persevere I found is to simply take flight, not fight. Fighting will certainly lead to failure (sin) (and many Catholic saints affirmed this). If you are Catholic, think of adoring the Eucharist, which is literally God. All the best, and don’t lose hope!

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