Coming Clean

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It’s easy for accountability relationships to fail. Learn how to get it right. Take your Accountability partnership to the next level. Read Coming Clean and introduce it to your Accountability Partner.

8 thoughts on “5 Reasons Why Christian Accountability Fails

  1. Luke,
    I just wanted to say how much I like this article. I’ll be getting a copy of this ebook, and sharing it liberally.
    Brian

  2. Thank you Luke for compiling this. God has blessed you with great thought articulation. I am a lay youth pastor, sending this article and putting into practice with my high school boys has been great. I’m sure fruit will be formed real soon.
    Thanks for sending this.

    -Will

  3. I appreciate the article and the work you’re doing with Covenant Eyes. This article will most certainly help people in accountability relationships. I read it looking for a mention of our relationship with Jesus but found none.

    Hebrews 2:18 summary: “Because Jesus suffered in temptation, he’s able to help those who are suffering in times of temptation.” This verse and it’s context tell us where we must look first for help. It has huge implications for those struggling with porn.

    Today’s trendy theology of “The Gospel” (which I understand and can appreciate) tends to turn our attention away from Jesus. A focus on “The Gospel” tends depersonalize “The Gospel” and the “relationship” we have with Jesus. People don’t “fall in love” with “The Gospel.”

    Follow me? I’m not trying to romanticize the relationship we have with Jesus, but I’m trying to say that people aren’t called to love “The Gospel,” they are called to love God (first great command in Matthew 22:37-38).

    “…Jesus Christ, whom having not seen you love…” (1 Peter 1:6-7). Amazing verse. I think too many younger Christians have fallen in love with the idea of “The Gospel.” It seems like many think it is to be our main focus. But it’s not.

    While the article will certainly be a help, it needs a good dose of Hebrews 2:18 and its surrounding context.

    As a counselor, I am often pointing people to these words of Jesus: “Without me you can do nothing” (John 15). (And I can’t tell you how many times I’ve pointed people to Hebrews, chapters 2-4.)

    Luke, I appreciate the work you’re doing. Keep it up. You’re making a difference.

    • Admittedly, this is an excerpt from a larger resource. In the fuller document, we ask accountability partners to focus not on the gospel as an abstract concept but asking people to rest completely in what Christ has done for them—not obsessing about their own failures nor putting stock in their own performance. I agree that we absolutely make clear what we mean by the gospel—not just a message, but a living person.

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