About the author, Jessica Harris

Jessica Harris is the founder of Beggar’s Daughter, a ministry dedicated to walking with women who have an addiction to pornography. Telling her own story of porn addiction and struggle with lust, Jessica seeks to help other women find hope, healing, and grace. Jessica shares resources and insights from her own journey on the Beggar’s Daughter blog and occasionally travels and speaks on the topic of female lust addiction and how churches can minister to women who struggle. She resides just outside of Washington DC where she works as a teacher and serves on the Biblical counseling team in her church. She is the author of Love Done Right: Devos - A Journey From Lust into the Love of God.

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12 thoughts on “5 Tips for Online Dating for Single Christians

  1. Do you realize your published blog here is actually creating alot of stereotype and fear for women? Maybe instead of suggesting there are so many bad apples try to be more positive in terms of giving hope that most men dont have the intentions you are suggesting. I have experienced first hand how hard it can be to break these stereotypes partly because of irrational comments you are writing about men, why dont you share the “horror” stories of crazy women? This article goes to show that you need to take everything you read online with a grain of salt. Please be more accountable with your public blogs, maybe even talk to a few guys before you write again.

    • Women absolutely need to understand the world as it really is today. As a counselor, I see far too many young Christian women who were naive and believed all the best of every guy met, and ended up in terrible, terrible situations.

      Young women need to know the truth about what’s out there so they can make good judgments when the time comes. All too often in Christian culture, young women are told to be sweet and submissive, when in today’s world, they actually need to be wise and discerning as never before, with strong, healthy boundaries and the capacity to say “no” to any and all relationships that they don’t want.

      Peace to you, Kay

    • I disagree and thank you for what you did say, because it’s needed and if we pray God will caution us to be patient. It didn’t seem like you were saying there more bad or good apples but just to be cautious, prayerful and honest and what you want. Thanks again

  2. I think the author is taking a pretty logical, reasonable view on the subject matter. She doesn’t sound extreme to me. She’s not saying, “lock yourself in a room and rely on superstitions to get married.” She is also pro-online dating (safely of course), if she were real extreme she wouldn’t even accept the internet as a place to meet men. She is simply stating that wisdom is necessary in a world full of evil and, precautions must be taken if one is to date safely. Plus, marriage is supposed to be taken VERY seriously and, it’s important then to know who you are getting involved with. So, I think she’s reasonable and logical. That’s all.

  3. Thank you so much for your thoughtful tips on how to use an online dating service responsibly. I really loved your thoughts about looking in the area you’re in before searching online for dating prospects. I would imagine that one way to help you have a good experience with an online dating service would be to find one that is tailored towards people who share your faith.

  4. Rightly said! Very much valuable tips on dating! The online dating path is not same for all. There are some daters who get their dream partner and get married within some months, and there are some who get betrayed by their dating partner and have bitter experiences with the dating sites. So the online daters must move with caution. There are people who open dating profiles only to cheat the desperate women and steal their money by making some emotional drama. So, it is always suggested to perform a background check on the person to know the person is genuine and telling truth.

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