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77 thoughts on “Ex-Porn Star Tells the Truth (Part 2)

  1. I have been in recovery from drugs and alc for 8 years but never was aware of the root of my drug and alc problem. These chemicles made it better….made the sex and porn addiction better, or so I believed. Never have I EXPERIENCED “CRAVING” like this. Not even when getting off the crack. The craving for sexual acting out has been constant. Over the 100 odd days of abstinance, it is subsiding. I am learning to talk myself down and out of the unhealthy thoughts that have haunted me since 12 years old.

    • Readimg your post hit home because that s my life right now. I was introduced to porn when I was about 14 and have been addicted ever since. I am just now calling it an addiction. It’s closely tied with my daily alchol intake. Thank u for posting i now except that I need to seek help with this

    • Shelly would u be so kind as to personally e mailing me,I would like to know more about what happend in the industry.thank you

    • This article is an eye-widener to me.

      As a Born Again Christian, I already despise Pornography as Adulterous and Deceptive.

      Sex with someone else’s sex partner is adultery- your personal consent does not matter. The importance of this is that you are spiritually linked to whosoever you have sex with. Your SINS become THEIR Sins, AND VICE-VERSA. This holds you back Spiritually and Mentally, when its just one or two people.

      When it is a PLATOON of Sinners, YOU HAVE NO IDEA the amount of DAMAGE that is being done.

      There are things that will seriously affect you, even after you have walked (or run) away.

      I would never have imagined that those on the industry suffer such ABUSE! I ASSUMED that the MEAL TICKET GOLDEN-GEESE were RESPECTED- based on my outdated research into CAL VISTA last Century (I read a few ADAM’S FILM WORLDs… just for the er, pictures!). The performers seemed to be well taken care of. Be that as it may, it appears that the current generation are not.

      I wonder how this could be, when some of the former performers have become producers? How could they stand by, and let that happen?

      The implications of this are disturbing.

      The Porn Industry makes astronomical amounts of money. The idea was that SATAN PAYS YOU VERY WELL, FOR THE LOSS OF YOUR SOUL.

      THAT was The DEAL! Everybody understood that! A girl, totally down on her luck, could always know, that if she were really THAT BAD, AND WORTHLESS, she could always do PORN- and make money, cunt over boob!

      She could always FEEL PROUD, that, as bad as things got, she NEVER sunk THAT low!

      However, it appears that even The Kingdom of Darkness is in Financial Recession now, and cannot afford to take care of Its victims.

      THAT MEANS that those in the Industry who are not Mega-Stars- and even those who are- are on a trap, which was always the case- but now, the fact is an 500kg Gorilla in the room, which they cannot pretend not to see any more.

      I cannot believe that someone like Jenna Jameson will not be having recurring nightmares about losing EVERYTHING- not because she did something wrong, but because someone just turned legal age, who was more HER than HER- and she becomes redundant overnight! That every day she comes to work, she doesn’t step in the office, wondering if THAT is the day she is introduced to her REPLACEMENT???

      I understand that there’s even a Drug Treatment for that!

      NOW WE GET TO THE REALLY FUN PART:

      EVERY person in the Porn Industry is part of a SODOM & GOMORRAH CITIZENRY, whereby ANGELS OF GOD are BUSY setting DEMOLITION CHARGES- and ranging their ARTILLERY and SNIPER NESTS- just waiting on the COMMAND-OF-GOD to just blow EVERY LAST MEMBER to Kingdom Gone.

      (“Heh, Heh, Heh! Well- that’s just TOO BAD! Good thing I never joined.”)

      EVERYBODY WHO HAS VIEWED PORNOGRAPHY IS PART OF THE PORNOGRAPHY INDUSTRY!

      (“WHAT???”)

      The Perceptual Data is a part of you now, FOR EVER. This is a BLEMISH on your SOUL.

      It does not matter whether or not you viewed it for PERSONAL ENTERTAINMENT. It is IN you.

      WHAT are you DOING about it?

      Imagine that it were some other crime- BURGLARY, MUGGING- even JAYWALKING?

      Are you the type that walks on by, and DOES NOTHING- doesn’t “GET INVOLVED”?

      If you don’t warn a jaywalker, that what they are doing is wrong, maybe they will make someone swerve to avoid THEM, and hit someone you DO care about- YOU, perhaps?

      If your ENEMY’S OX is going astray, THE COMMANDMENT OF GOD says that IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to bring it back to him.

      . EXODUS 23:4-5.

      4. “If thou meet thine enemy’s ox or his ass going astray, thou shalt surely bring it back to him again.
      5. “If thou see the ass of him that hateth thee lying under his burden, and wouldest forbear to help him, thou shalt surely help with him.”

      IT IS AMAZING HOW PEOPLE WHO WANT TO JUDGE, CONDEMN, and EXECUTE those who break Commandments like:

      . EXODUS 20:13-16.

      13. “Thou shalt not Kill.
      14. “Thou shalt not commit Adultery.
      15. “Thou shalt not Steal.
      16. “Thou shalt not Bear False Witness against thy Neighbour.”

      ARE MASSIVELY LAX AND MUTE ON THE TOPIC OF THE STRICT ENFORCEMENT OF THE 509 OTHER COMMANDMENTS, BY WHICH WE ARE JUDGED “SINNERS.”

      . 1st JOHN 3:4.

      4. Whosoever committeth Sin transgresseth also so The Law: for Sin is the transgression of The Law.

      IN WESTERN CIVILIZATION ON GENERAL, AND IN AMERICA IN PARTICULAR, CHRISTIANITY is the most important component of Satan’s Kingdom.

      THEREFORE, you are NEVER going to defeat EVIL with CHTISTIANITY, because Satan has already PWNED every Church, since ACTS 1:6.

      . ACTS 1:6.

      6. When they were therefore cone together, they asked of him, saying,
      “Lord, wilt thou at this time RESTORE AGAIN THE KINGDOM TO ISRAEL?”

      WHAT WOULD I HAVE SAID, if I had been there?

      Obviously, something just as foolish- because I would be just as big an idiot as the people of the era. I have been blessed with 35 years I did not deserve, to study this, and THEY only had 3 1/2.

      BUT- THE PERSON THEY WERE TALKING TO, has, with THEM as EYEWITNESSES, HEALED EVERY DISEASE they’d SEEN. He had Cast out Devils. He had RAISED THE DEAD.

      For his bother, HE HAD BEEN THOROUGHLY AND RELIABLY EXECUTED- pulled an “EDGE-OF-TOMORROW” RESURRECTION of his own, there.

      THEN HE HAD JUST SPENT 40 DAYS briefing them on The Secrets of The Universe- proving beyond all reasonable doubt that he was very much alive- despite UNBELIEVERS taking their best shot at killing him.

      THEN his own Disciples turn around, and say, to the effect, that:

      “If you don’t return POLITICAL AUTONOMY to the people who stood by and let you be MURDERED, then you haven’t done ANYTHING!”

      I FIND IT SIGNIFICANT, that JESUS DEPARTS FOR HEAVEN, immediately after this question is asked.

      The Christians of every Generation have always had a similar attitude. YOU HAVE IT.

      YOU HAVE ALWAYS THOUGHT that THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN ON EARTH would only cone about if a guy in a white robe and a halo came down from the sky, blasted The Minons of Evil with X-MEN Cyclops Eyebeams.

      NO WAY you believed that IT IS ALL ON “YOU:”

      IF you REALLY want THAT to happen- YOU DO IT.

      How can you END THE PORN INDUSTRY?

      By using ALL of your MIND.

      When you don’t worship God with ALL your MIND, how can you even FIND your whole mind?

      When you treat the PORNOGRAPHY Industry as something UNCONNECTED to YOU, and NOT-INSIDE-YOU, you cannot possibly DESTROY Pornography.

      The Teachers of Christianity are ASSETS/AGENTS of the OWNERS of The Porn Industry, and therefore GIVEN A CAREFULLY COMPOSED CURRICULUM to follow, that will GUIDE CHRISTIANS AWAY FROM THE ABILITY TO SOLVE THIS, AND SIMILAR PROBLEMS.

      People who boast of having ESCAPED from “THE MATRIX” are usually STILL IN THE MATRIX.

      Are you therefore ready to learn how to seriously destroy THE MATRIX, Sector-by-Sector?

  2. This is an excellent blog about this destructive industry. Thank you Shelly. May God bless you.

    I also read Mike’s response and it is very helpful. May God bless you as well.

    I am currently ensnared in pornography and masturbation. I have been a christian for almost 10 years and it wasn’t until I started having sex that porn became an issue for me. At 1st it was just masturbation and then that became boring and so I became interested in online porn. I really want to overcome this disease I have and I have taken some steps that are helping me battle. My wife knows about my problem and has taken steps with me to disable our internet from viewing porn. I also have an open line of communication with her and we talk when I am struggling and are weak.

    I am always looking for accountability in my life, even with believers I do not know.

    God bless.

  3. I think it’s great work you’re doing in helping people’s lives… probably even saving lives. It’s amazing and inspirational sister. I’ve always felt that porn was unhealthy for EVERYONE, but your clarification in how it supports terrible lifestyles and insensitive industries nails the coffin shut for me. Porn is clearly an addiction to all involved.

  4. I actually have a question. I’ve been searching all day, with little luck, for the perspective of pornography from a male ex-porn actor, but I can find little. I know the effects that pornography has on women in the industry, but what about the men? And what about men who are in the gay porn industry, I’m sure that effects them differently because many are not gay, but do it because they are paid more money?

    • @Norm – I believe the Pink Cross Foundation can help you out. One of their leaders is a guy named Ryan who is an ex-porn star. They would be able to tell you more about that side of the story.

  5. Porn will always be, thanks for shining a light on how much physical abuse the girls take while filming. Those who read this should think about switching to watching the free amateur stuff that is filmed (hopefully) with consent and comfort. Bleed the porn industry dry – like is happening a bit at least.

    BIGGER PROBLEM IN MY BOOK – The hordes of women all over the Net glamoring “high class” escorting! They are loud, brazen, in your face and often political. Ready to jump on a forum and defend their “right to save marriage, practice super safe disease free sex” and all the rest of the usual lies. I wish that more of the former escorts, especially the ones in the higher end, would speak up and stop the brainwashing of the next generation. The media is little help. These women LURE young girls in with their bragging, their loser johns back them up. Yes, it’s a wonderful, carefree way of life they boast! I’m getting tired of being the only one responding to them. Using basic math, logic, medical facts alone you can prove how unsafe being an escort – aka human toilet – is. I pity the wives, pregnant moms, grandmothers, and little girls growing up who will be the victims of these women and the men they partner with to destroy families and humiliate all women. Where will our society be in 10 years? How many little girls raised on the Internet will join the ranks of “I’m just paying for college” and “I cannot go back to a regular, lower paying job”. Will we ever know how much the legions of these self proclaimed “classy ladies” has grown? Will our pastors at churches ever AGRESSIVELY speak out against the sin and tempation of girls that can be ordered as easily as a pizza? What genius will ever suggest that children be imprinted against prostitution – in all forms – from a young enough age to protect them? Imagine the safeguard of raising a young man to be repulsed by sex for sale or a young woman knowing all the horrors of a profession that has zero high class in it. PARENTS NEED TO STEP UP NOW – We can put porn and prostitution out of business. Be you an atheist or a Christian, no good can come of these industries that ultimately survive on the backs of young children. We can no longer afford to let our children remain innocent and naive about these easy perils – teach them young, teach them often and give them yours and God’s protection. Your silence has deafening.

    • Anger isnt the way to go about this. The bible says turn the other cheek. Do not fall into the temptation to condemn those less virtuous that yourself. This in itself lowers us below them. Hypocrisy is almost as bad as their sins. Remember that these women are controlled by coersion and physical threats. Not to mention drug addiction. Remember that we are all equal under the eyes if the Lord. Gays straights prostitutes porn actors.. all are equals in His eyes. We are all his creation and children. Judging children of God is like admitting God isnt perfect. Furthermore Mary was a prostitute. She was saved and became a central figure in the life of Jesus!

  6. God bless you Shelley, thank you so much.

    How can I as a former user (and struggling to stay that way) of hardcore pornography ever apologise to the women, men (and children surely) I have indirectly abused? It’s horrific and I am so sorry for having been complicit in the abuse as a consumer.

    Thank you.

  7. thank you shelly for posting this heart touching story reaviling the truth about pornography. i am very happy bcos it has opened my eyes to the truth!!! but i need some information on how to stop masturbating….

  8. I truly feel very sorry for porn actors and actresses. What beats my imagination is the involvement of these ppl in scenes that can ruin and damage them forever. A normal and responsible person would never go into prostitution, no matter the challenge, not to talk of peoople who decide to act as sex slaves and take it up as a careeer…Hahahahahahahahhahahahhahahahah!!! It is really crazy…the diseases, the exposure, the nudity to the whole world is rather insane…A majority of them are sex addicts, possessed people, materialistic, greedy and do not have the fear of God in any form…Porn acting can never be celebrated…It is the worst and most demoralising job on the surface of the earth…Inhuman, they are, unthinking and infact causes of so many sexual addictions the world over…they must not be celebrated, because a porn star must know the dangers of the job…its a debasing and hopeless job…no
    matter the money you have got…I can never respect a porn star…Never…u mean nothing to me than a piece of moving object…God help us all and help us from this evil called “porn”.

    • Your claiming you feel sorry for these porn stars yet saying you have no respect for them is not only contradictory, it is also (part of) the reason why people can’t see them as anything more than a sexual object. If people stopped thinking of porn stars as less than human, perhaps they would have a better sense of self-worth and not enter such a self-degrading industry in the first place. Sure, those who enter the porn industry may be irresponsible and have less self-respect than others but that doesn’t make them less than human.
      They are human beings too, not just “a piece of moving object”.

    • People like you make christianity look ignorant and full of hate. Love they neighbor. I pray you will learn to love others despite of themselves. We are all children of God.

  9. thanks Shelley for the real truths you have shared about the porn industry. Thanks Luke for encouraging us commentors..if i could call us that. Personally I know the effects that pornography has especially on men.The images, and bondage, and addiction. The only reason it makes so much money is because of how addictive it is. I have been struggling with it for 8 years..and became introduced to it because i was curious after all the sex scenes in “normal” movies. I regret that and if i could advise anyone about it I would recommend that they never have to indulge their curiosity in the matter. Because of it I have to be accountable to a different standard than any other man who hasn’t dealt with the same addiction. Let us just continue praying that organizations like The Pink Foundation, websites like Setting Captives Free and other Christian movements can continue to be enriched with people willing to do God’s work because many people need healing from pornography, and other forms of sexual sin. People also need to know the truth about the porn industry: it is destructive period.

  10. This story is very enlightening. My fiancee and I allow each other to ‘look’ at other women ( both ) and men ( me ). He has a crush on Sasha Grey, but we both know we’d never ever really sleep with a porn star because of how many men they’ve slept with. This just illustrates more reasons not to sleep porn stars. ( No offense meant to you and others. ) It also should be more publicly shared, so that porn stars-to-be know the risks before they engage in the business. Porn is an adult industry, therefore the adults in the industry should start acting like adults, respecting the law, and enforcing it. I commend you for your work and hope that you gain more ground for your cause.

  11. I liked this story, but we need more pornstars. Regulate the industry to make the herpes and aids go away and you are good to go. As for the donkey punch,(Personal favorite of mine), we need more of them. Thank you Shelia for the post on porn.

    • I hope you are joking. What you are saying us both repugnant intellectually.. repulsive morally and reprehensible religiously. We must destroy this sick industry. Sex is a gift from God. He is most likely sickened by the exploitation of those involved and those who purchase transmit or use the industries products.

    • I’m sorry, this is in response to anonymous, August 8, 2013 @ 12:18 am:

      Anonymous, are you really up at midnight presuming to know what ‘God’ is thinking and feeling? It must be nice to take your supposed universal creator and fill his thoughts and desires with the fantasies conjured by your mere mortal frame.

      You people have no idea what God is.

      And the irony is ‘God’ is staring us all in the face, every single moment.

  12. Pornography, the internet and technology in general destroys many relationships. It’s so hard to be able to trust a man, in my point of view, when they are addicted to porn. It challenges me as a fiancee and a Christian in my own relationship. It does say in the Bible that the nearing of judgement day, love will grow cold and struggles will become harder to face. God bless you all who are struggling on either side of the bridge. Especially those who agree with pornography… I hope your eyes will be opened.

    • I fear , I too have struggled with the temptation. The problem is not trusting men. Its finding one who willing to live in a box with you rathet than live in a palace alone. I have found comfort in my significant others arms and in the Lord. I will pray that God watches over your endeavors and gives you strength to trust again.

  13. Let’s not judge so harshly Chioma Tai. You probably have no clue how many women are trafficked into the sex trade. They are threatened by their pimps to go out and make money for them. Some escorts might be forced to do things like this or they’re family’s life would be in jeopardy. Instead of just judging someone, try to do something to help. Whining and being upset isn’t going to help anyone.

  14. I am so relieved to finally see that someone is speaking out regarding this industry. It is about time us women speak out and unveil the truth regarding what we go through. We by all means are not victims in the industry for we have chosen to do these acts for money, drugs, and even to stop threats. I do believe that the men and women in the industry need help. I had to go away to rehab for 1.5 years in order to rid myself from the sexual, emotional, physical, and drug abuse I went through. It was a terrible thing that I never wish upon anyone. I was 18 and I experienced more than most 70 year old people have gone through. It makes me sad everyday to know I will never be who I used to be and I struggle with it daily. I do believe it can be stopped and it starts with me choosing healthier ways of living, loving, and learning in life. Thank you all. May god bless!

  15. Thank You for being there Pink Cross Foundation. As a child I endured constant beatings by my mother. It was parent tape. Her father did it to her. Eventually, I was with my father. But, my mother could not be stopped from sometimes seeing me. As a male child I was sexually abused. Not by my mother but by someone she knew. Because of it I had an addiction to porn. My mother knew it. In 1994, when I was suddenly eighteen, I was now old enough to view it. One night at my mother’s house I made the life destructing decision to do so. At her house I could watch it. I was soon back with my mother. Gasp, I most horriable decision I think I have made to this day. In 1997, the authories could suddenly charge her with her beatings. She was scared of being charged. She gave me really high doses of prescription drugs. I could no longer function well. I still can’t. As a child I did so well in school I was expected to have a Ph.D someday. I do not. I only have a high school dipmola. Because of what I did my decision to be with my mother when I was eighteen just so I watch porn I am now another burren on society. I can not function well enough to get anything other than low paying jobs. With so little I do not have a wife nor children. I never have. At thirty-six now I think living life is long over due. Because of a bad decision living lfe is no longer possible. Thank you for being there Pink Cross Foundation. Maybe, someday, you will prevent something and acually let people live.

  16. If there’s no demand for a product, there is no production for a product. The problem then should be more focused on targeting the consumer. Why do people want these crazy things? People need to learn to look at themselves and their wishes more honestly. If you ask me, pornography highlights the dark side of human sexuality and of humanity. Or perhaps if more people realized their reaching out to pornography for personal satisfaction might come at the cost of another’s well-being, they might think twice. That goes for anything really.

    I do think however the pornography industry needs to cover their employees REGULAR STI checks for ALL types of STIs, not just HIV. Every 30 days is not regular enough in this industry if you ask me. It’s really unfortunate women suffer in the making of porn. I don’t think all porn is like this but this messed up sh!t happens a lot more than I used to think.

    I’m not against pornography and I don’t think it’s the cause of there being more rapes and sexual violence (rather, more are probably being reported worldwide due to women having more independence than in previous years). I do think that it can help prevent those crimes actually, as I believe that it helps provide a channel for those crazier inner desires out in a way that doesn’t directly hurt another person (although someone does get hurt still in the making of these videos it seems in a lot of cases). It’s better they channel it out in a way where it can be viewed by many people, rather than people performing those inner desires on others out of frustration or whatever.

  17. Thanks So much for this forum and starting The Pink Cross Foundation . i feel like I can see clearly now for the first time in so long. i was a Stripper and escort for 13 years, from 16 to 29. I’ll never go back. I’ll quit torturingmyself. Big thank you!!!Glad there’s support out there. :)

  18. I am a 18 soon to be 19 year old young lady. I don’t know where to start at this point but I know I need help. I haven’t talked to my parents about my problem and don’t think I can. I am adopted an they know about my sexual abuse an rape incounters. But since I have turned 18 I have had sex with 15 different guys and yes I go on to porn site. I’ve also made account on many sites but have had enough courage an strength to delete those. But that’s all the stregth I have.
    My past history with sex is a horrible thing. My bio mother used me as what she called “her money maker”. I was forced to do things with males that a little 5 year ols shouldn’t be doing.
    I need help and know I do! But cant go to my family for support.
    Please, help.

    • Chrissylyn – Thanks for sharing some of your story with us. I cannot even begin to understand what you’ve been through.

      I am going to strongly encourage you to contact the Heart to Heart Counseling Center at 719-278-3708. I’ve already pointed out your comment to them and they would love to talk to you personally. They offer not only phone counseling but also a wide range of intensive counseling.

      I also recommend you find a good counselor in your area. I recommend going to the NANC directory and entering your zip code to find the closest one.

      Of course, the pornography and sexual activity are behaviors you want to change. But I also believe you need to work through the ways you were victimized in the past, first and foremost. Please, don’t hesitate to ask me any questions.

    • I also have been raped, but cannot imagine what you have experienced…It is so incredibly courageous of you to be aware if and understand you need help to ensure the trauma incurred doesn’t lead to further degradation, pain (working in the industry, etc.)… There are non-profit organizations almost everywhere that can help… Haven is one in Michigan, others in DC. You deserve to heal and lead an amazing life…. You deserve so much better… Please get help… You are in my prayers…

  19. Christ can free porn addicts and all addicts. Don’t look to live your best life now in this world full of sin and stench. Look towards the better world to come. The eternal joy and bliss of heaven

    • Wilbur,
      surprising the number of posts on this and other sites that start with “I am a devout christian but…” You only get one crack at this life so best not to spend it wanking or praying for salvation in the next. it’s both a form of self abuse!

  20. The saying goes: It takes a Village to raise a child.Everything and everyone had a path.Meaning, if we as people like to see change, we engage in that change.If we choose to ignore little things, in the future it becomes a bigger problem.Simple.The change starts in your own backyard.Live by influence and others will follow.We have MORE than enough human history behind us to correct and predict outcomes…Im not preaching.My religous views never get involved on a SERIOUS issue.Im a single mother w/2 sons.I practice what i believe is rite.Never putting anyone down.We all have diff mind sets,yes,but we all CAN put them to good use…One Lifetime.

  21. I have read this entire thread worth of comments. My anger grew exponentially after reading one stupid word after another from Luke. It is incredible humans have evolved at all with ignorant imbeciles like Luke and the religious reich pounding their beliefs into every available soundbite. Ever notice, when presented with a logical argument backed by facts that completely dismantle their fairytale belief system, they completely ignore the direct question or just spew more irrelevant jesus jargon? They also ignore the sin-laden documented history that defines their religion. That is exactly what stubborn children do when proven wrong.

    There is not a single certifiable fact in any religious argument. Weak mindedness and ignorance back all religious banter. Religion comforts those without the capacity to understand reality, which is most likely the main reason Shelley has taken to it. Watch a single interview with this woman and you can clearly see what a complete lunatic she is. Look at the damage done when the religious are given real power i.e. politicians lobbying against stem cell research, condemning human rights such as abortion, euthanasia rights removed for the terminally ill in agonizing pain, etc etc. Battling idiots seems to be a way of life in this country.

    And am I seeing this correctly?!… Luke has reproduced at least FOUR times. This human has bred ignorance, literally. What a surprise. Hopefully for society, one of this human’s offspring has an IQ above 70 and will have the ability to make their own judgements in life without flipping through their pocket bible for an “answer”. Maybe we will get even luckier and one of them will be homosexual and not reproduce, rather adopt some bible-grasping high school teenager’s unintentional offspring. You know because abortion is “an abomination”, but being too stupid to operate a prophylactic is just fine.

    As you can see, I have absolutely had it with those that empathize with ignorance and shear stupidity. While these people breed like jackrabbits, those of us who are inquisitive and still require logical answers to the question “why” spend more time deciding whether reproduction is ‘warranted at this juncture’ or a similar argument in our own personal lives. In America today, the brainless are tipping the population scales in their favor. Idiots are breeding this country into a permanent great depression, and I for one am sick of sitting idly by as it happens.

    • Hi Mike,

      My first son is my wife’s child from a previous marriage. Her husband died in a car accident when his son was 7 months old. My other three children were all planned pregnancies. You are simply factually incorrect about my family.

      Second, you calling my children ignorant is reprehensible. You don’t know my children. Your comments are mean-spirited and cruel. Have I, even once, tried to personally attack those who comment here?

      Third, in this entire thread I’ve only asked people to defend their statements, as I now ask you to defend yours. Where was a logical argument presented by the commenters? Can you quote one that I could reply to now? Can you give an example of even one time in these two posts that I’ve quoted by so-called pocket Bible?

    • Mike, you say Luke is terrible for being relgious? Our country was founded by religious people who sought a place where they could worship in peace, away from british rule. God is woven into every fiber of this country and I believe it is everyone’s right to believe in him. America is great because of our diverse views and cultures. Just as it is Luke’s right to be religious, it is your right to have your own beliefs. The instant we as people start questioning and mocking each others beliefs, THAT is when our country will start to fall. You speak of logic, but then persecute a good man because he speaks “Jesus jargon”? What logic do you find in putting down other people just because their beliefs differ from yours? I’d compare you to a child, but they at least know better.

  22. I am a male aged 24, I masterbated a lot at the age of 16 and went on almost on a daily basis, sometimes three times until i had my first sex at 22 with a girl who was my friend.in short iam addicted to masterbation, what can i do?

  23. Thank God for this; it is rely helpful. I thank God for you. I have been struggling with internet pornography for 3 years now. God is helping me but I still have some distance to cover. I have discovered that only God can take away that ungodly desire from me; the closer I am to Him, the farther away I am from pornography but when ever I give ‘little sins’ a chance in my life, I fall back into it. God has blessed me with people whom I am accountable to and who pray with me also. I am grateful to God for loving despite all of my evil deeds and lustful thoughts. I thank God for you covenant eyes; please continue to prat for many who are struggling with this.

  24. I have to say im worked in the industry for many years. And result of being a member in the porn industry, I think about it everyday. I started as a young 18 year old. (who they trigger for now) Of course everyone finds out about it in your community and your like a victim. I have had moments where I didn’t wanna live I couldn’t be myself and felt like I had nobody there. Being in the porn industry isn’t anything to be proud of it reins lifes of great individual usually despite of money.(which is sad). The pain, the life events, the true meaning behind the industry is out there to make the most money they can on a person. They don’t care what you have to deal with after the fact. No matter how much I would love to be myself again you cant. Its like living two life styles at once. Even if your a awesome person in reality your a “pornstar” yhat everyone doesn’t care about. And I love this article I think its absolutely true 100 percent. And I wanna give shelley a big THANK YOU for sharing with us.

  25. I want to help, Im highly intelligent, very good at problem solving and strategic planning, I know how deep this rabbit hole goes, right now my life is pretty chaotic and not good, but I really want to do something for the cause, regardless of what ever impact it might have on myself, Im going to do some extensive research and hopefully contact your organization to help and lead in any way I can. God Bless , and if I can get myself together financially & spiritually I think I could be an incredible force for change, I can do amazing things when i connect back to my higher connection to “God” or whatever you want to call it. Im gonna say some prayers and get things together, I have ideas that can transform everything, I have the potential within me to basically save the planet and our souls, methaphorically speaking somewhat. I want to help, I feel this is a very important battle that needs to be won for the sake of everything. I want to be a soldier and leader in this when its possible for me to do so. I want to talk to others that know whats going on too, because I have alot of information that needs to be disseminated already , and my research and fact finding abilities are the best of the best. Hopefully this is what I have been looking for to make a real positive change on humanity. Feel free to contact me to chat sometime, Thanks, Carl Jay, South Bend, Indiana

  26. Annotated Cherokee Proverb

    “my son, the battle is
    between two ‘wolves’ inside us all.
    one is evil. it is anger,
    envy, jealousy, sorrow,
    regret, greed, arrogance,
    self-pity, guilt, resentment,
    inferiority, lies, false pride,
    superiority, and ego.

    the other is good.
    it is joy, peace love, hope serenity,
    humility, kindness, benevolence,
    empathy, generosity,
    truth, compassion and faith.

    “which wolf wins?…”

    the old cherokee simply replied,
    “the one that you feed”

  27. The California pornography industry? So does that mean that the Florida, Las Vegas, and other locations with thriving pornography industries are okay?

    • I don’t follow you. Shelley lives in California, which is why she addresses the porn industry there. She obviously doesn’t endorse porn in other locations. If I start speaking out against sex trafficking in Cambodia, I’m not thereby endorsing sex trafficking in Mexico City.

  28. I guess if we wondered where all of the pictures and movies come from we now have a better idea. We could guess that the industry is fueled by drugs and money but one never knows the actual meeting and luring of those in the industry. Sometimes it is easy to forget that it is someones son or daughter. I guess the demand would be very different if we saw what was behind the scenes. Maybe in the future we could get the actual meeting and set up conversation tactics that traps these young victims. I would wager that those looking for the future stars are getting financial and personal information on them and using a canned approach that has worked on other young adults. The predators probably catch them alone.

  29. My heart goes out to victims of this industry. With a foundation of greed and lust, it is not hard to play out the conclusion of these actions. I am not judging as I am just as fallible to these traits as anyone else. I do know that we often don’t realize we’re in over our head until it is “too late.” I think it is awesome you are bringing awareness to a subject that most adults I know think is just a fun hobby (watching porn).

  30. I had no clue until today.. the abuse of these woman is insanely un-human… I watch (use to as of today) lots of porn.. to the degree that it could be classified as an addiction, I don’t normally like the rough rough stuff but i never got overly bothered by it i assumed these girls were alot better actors then given credit when they cried through a scene or what not….
    I had no clue the verbal and physical abuse they actually went through between shots and even while shooting.. i had no clue the hard hits were actually real i always though this industry was really staged.. between this article and another video article on you tube (extra disturbing) I am absolutely disgusted .. I’m disgusted most at my self for not thinking to look into the reality of it beyond the fantasy, I’m not surprised at the monster people involved ..as i’m never surprised at how bad people can be… i just never thought of the reality .. I listen to a between scene and ruined scene audio article put on you tube and almost got sick… really truly almost puked right where i was sitting.. all i can say is i’m disgusted to no end with my self and the people involved… I truly feel like im gonna get sick at the site or memory of any pornographic material im just gonna hear the reality of those poor girls i herd in the audio article and should i properly so… cause i can’t not begin to fathom the amount of support and hours i put into watching porn with no clue nor did i care to seek the knowledge of the truth and now that i know it i feel so tortured i cant stop thinking of the poor voices i herd the faces omg it’s almost eating at me i just wish i knew back then what i know now i would never have started down this dark road

  31. Porn is really bad. THe porn stars get an easy entry to mainstream cinema and dont have much of hard work. THat should not be promoted. ALso, porn creates a false illusion of being sexually depraved when the partner offers everything.
    THere is no love in this industry simply overblown sex.

  32. I want to give a big thank you to the author for publishing this. In the porn industry, it’s virtually IMPOSSIBLE to prevent the spread of disease, especially those that are easily transmitted (such as herpes) or take a long time to show up on a test (such as HIV).

    I wish more anti-porn advocates would focus on making the public aware of the disease transmission rates instead of trying to use “moral” arguments, which people view as subjective. Disease is completely objective.

    However…

    I think that no public outcry is really necessary because professional porn will probably go out of business on its own. Too much porn is available for free these days. Who’s going to pay for it anymore when millions of “high-quality” videos are completely free?

    According to Business Insider, the average salary of female porn actresses has dropped from $100,000 a year to $50,000 a year in the last decade. It’s inevitably going to keep dropping to the point where the allure of making “easy money” in porn will drop to nil because they will make nil.

    Then amateur/home-made porn will probably take over. I don’t know enough about the amateur “industry” to know if it’s as bad as the professional industry, but since they’re completely unregulated, disease transmission is probably much worse for amateurs.

    Due to the factors I pointed out above, porn is on a downward spiral from where it already is. It’s heading straight into being a no-pay, high-risk job. The only workers it will appeal to in the future are nymphomaniacs and exhibitionists.

    So, although I’m anti-porn, I’m actually very glad for all the free internet porn people are using. Because that free internet porn, is slowly killing porn itself.

    The porn business is uniquely affected by free internet distribution in ways that other businesses aren’t. The music and movie industries can make up for all the money they’re losing to people increasingly downloading or watching their material free on the internet through other streams (such as concerts and people paying to go to the movie theater). The porn industry has no additional revenue streams. I guess they could save themselves if they focused more on manufacturing and selling adult toys, but that isn’t porn, that’s another business, and one that very few people have a problem with.

    Unless our country becomes a police state, the pirating of porn will continue. The government hasn’t been able to stop it for the last 5 years. Some websites are full of nothing but pirated porn.

    • Interesting thoughts, John. I don’t disagree with you that free porn is killing pay-for-porn. Here’s my question: If “the industry” as we know it really did shut down and people continued to make free porn, would you deem it appropriate to oppose those who made amateur free porn?

      Another question: Since illegal commercial sex is the second largest criminal industry is the world (behind illegal drugs), should their be a public outcry against that? And if so, should the porn industry be considered a part of that sexual-industrial complex?

  33. BUT, on another note, although I am against porn because view it as a source (not THE source, but A source) of disease-spreading and cultural decay, I have a hard time feeling sorry for the actors and actresses themselves.

    Nobody is forcing them to participate in porn. The woman who agreed to do “Donkey Punch” could have gotten up and walked out at any moment. But she agreed to keep doing it. It may be horrible treatment, but she is voluntarily subjecting herself to it.

    If I sign a contract that says another person can punch me in the face for $100, you should not feel sorry for me when I get punched in the face.

    I view the actors who engage in this as people who would rather cheapen and expose themselves to harm for money than get an honest job. People with no high school education can work in plenty of labor and hospitality fields. They use their situation as a crutch to avoid taking responsibility for the fact that they agreed to do porn.

    In fact, one of my aunts was homeless for a short while. Did she resort to porn? No. She figured out a way to get herself out of that situation without involving herself in porn or prostitution. She offered a small business to let her work for free for a short time so she could prove that she could do the work. And she got hired later.

    Drugs are also a VOLUNTARY thing that porn stars expose themselves to. Is anyone forcing cocaine up their noses? No, they’re voluntarily snorting it. I understand that they may view it as a mental escape from the abuse they endure on the job, but again…they agreed to do the job in the first place. They didn’t think ahead when they took the job. “Am I going to hate myself later if I do this?” or “Am I putting myself at risk of catching a disease?”…it’s a simple question they neglected to ask themselves. Their misery is largely caused by their own actions. They failed to ask themselves “What else can I do to make a living? Do I have to resort to porn?”

    I also wouldn’t be surprised if greed and a love of “camera-whoring” are also common features of porn stars’ personalities. They might over-estimate themselves and think they’ll make it big or just enjoy the attention that they get. It’s hard for me to feel sorry for such people.

    I’d rather spend my sympathy and spare dollars on people who need it (the sick, the homeless, etc.) than people who honestly believe they can voluntarily take 200 penises in a few months, get punched in the head, snort coke all day, and then are surprised that there are – *gasp* – consequences!

    • I think the line between consent and coercion is a bit blurry, John. Of course, law-makers have to draw the line somewhere, but from a moral standpoint it is different. If I am paying a porn star to have sex on film, I am exploiting her image for the sake of the lust of others. Then to top it off, let’s say I use that position as a porn producer to manipulate those women into having sex with me or doing scenes to which they did not originally agree, even threatening to “blacklist” them if they don’t perform, then I’m only adding insult to injury. I’m not saying the women aren’t making a choice. Of course, many of them are. The question isn’t whether they are making a choice but whether men are exploiting that choice.

  34. Shelley, I commend you for writing this article about your experiences in the porn industry! a lot more women should read this before they begin in the porn industry. It seems like the pornstars and high end escorts are so glamorized, I feel that most people know the consequences but then the greed sets in and it makes people jaded.

    I am a former stripper and did end up escorting for only one wealthy man but never got into porn, although I thought about it a lot and wanted to but I just couldn’t do it.

    After being a stripper when I was 19-23 I made a ton of money, drove really expensive cars, had many expensive gifts from men, but I became so depressed and had a hatred towards men. I had so much money but spent it like I had an endless supply of money, in the end I had no money saved, and ended up using drugs and alcohol to cope with my depression, shame, and regret.

    I decided that I didn’t want to live my life like this anymore and got out of the strip club and noticed I was so much more happier! I stopped using drugs and alcohol as a coping remedy, got my shit together and went back to school. I am so proud to say that I have overcome this part of my life and truly am more happier. I don’t have so much hate towards myself or men.

    In the end it doesn’t matter how much money you have because it doesn’t bring you happiness. You have to search in yourself and find that happiness, I got the best gift of all- self respect. I can honestly say that I would never go back to that life again, because I am content with my life and within myself.

  35. Hi,
    I would love to try to defeat the “making hate to women” streak that pornography caters to. I am the victim not of porn but of somebody using this mindset on me to control me. trust me sex is not just sex. it matters the place mentally where it comes from. With a psychotic “i want to murder her because she represents something I don’t like attitude” often evidenced in porn scenes, this guy literally murdered my vagina (my favorite body part!). I tis hard to explain, but much different than the other times we did it, like he really had to focus hard on hurting me, rather on pleasure. All to intimidate me. It is Very easy for me to picture men in the porn industry who are after power doing this in the vagin a to really control a person. Many girls i think must choose the anal sex route just because the anus truthfully matters less to us if it is destroyed. to bad i could not sense the danger because of how inexperienced i was with men. Basically after he did this to my vagina, the cervix was so traumatized that it bleed profusely and i caught a fever. so using my science background looking back that is evidence of some sort of infection that could take hold in the tissues as i was losing blood. I went to the ER after the fever died down and could not even express how bad it really was. three years later i cannot feel half of my bag and clitoris because of the damage of this infection that was not treated. i took a year off of school trying to find out why i was losing sensation but since it was not an STD I they did not find what it was. i also always felt so much fatigue so I think that whatever took hold whent systemic. I finally realized that it was an infection and went to the er again with bruises on the pelvis. I think that either the wound itself or the infection must have damaged circulation, because sensation comes back briefly after doing very rigorous exercise. I know this problem can be fixed by modern technology because of all of the resources i see available to men. It is so hard to get a doctor to take this story seriously. it would be a shame for me not to exhaust every single resource to treat this. I was never a porn star and ironically was a science major (just two more classes) while this happened. My major also apparently gives preference to people who are healthy and projects an attitude of not accepting health complaints. i am european and from the city and get the feeling that the town where my college is in has a very negative attitude towards women and health notes in general. so there is the situation. Luskily i have finally found some leads in receiving proper treatment, but they may fall through if the doctor is too intimidated by my case (afraid of being sued and afraid of work). Please help me! i have a feeling that if we come together on issues like this we can all help the violent addiction come to light. It is much smarter to use your gut instinctual response and preform felatio or anal rather than ave your clitoral sensation destroyed by the animal who does this. At least this story is out there now.
    Ps: thank you so much for posting the many wise comments, they have helped me, especially those of Carl Jay.

  36. i personally think that porn industry is a way to create a feeling of closeness and love for the entire mankind because in this industry you come across doing sexual acts with people with whom you are neither related by marriage nor by any girlfriend or boyfriend relation and still these adult performers do such an act like sex therby increasing their emotional love and effection for the whole mankind…….this means this industry is good for everyone……!

  37. i simply cannot comprehend why a WOMAN would put herself through this. All i can think is that the women are perverted or drug users. i assume they all must have mental problems because no moneys that good 4 me. once your on camera it’s for life. sick souls

  38. Herpes is much more common than most folks realize. Nearly 1 in 4 women and 1 in 5 men in the US will get genital herpes. And over 1 in 2 US citizens will get oral herpes by age 20 and nearly 4 in 5 will get it in their lifetimes.

  39. This is an intelligent and well written piece on the subject. I cannot say I have never watched porn, but lately I wondered just how any human being could get through some of this stuff without major anaesthesia. The issue here is not sex per se, but rather degradation. And when it is out there, there are people who are going to think that this is mainstream. Back in the day, they used to show people making love. Not all of them were very young and not all of them were white. It was closer to the real world. Now it’s a matter of a standard formula, plus just how far you can push things. In it’s own quiet, sick little way, it’s quite boring. Sex, good sex, is getting shelved for performances by brutes.

  40. If you are actually worried about the well being of adult performers, you should really be more concerned about piracy and content cannibalization, since that is what is forcing performers into extreme scenes and escorting in order to make the money they used to be able to make shooting tamer material.

  41. Interresting web site and variety of responses. My question is what about lesbian porn with no violence? Is there abuse in this too? Maybe I’m naii’ve, but the girls in this type of porn seem happy.My assumption is they’re pretty turned on by the thought of men watching them.I could never get a girlfriend. I’m too ugly and old but thru porn I can see a lovely variety of women. And the sex trade is an old business-the Roman church sponsored prostitution before the Reformation. Perhaps there are women who thrive on the sense of femininity derived by being in porn. Sure, there’s always a damaging side to any industry. But outside of violent porn-which would never appeal to me-are things really that bad?

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