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How Respect Shrivels the Power of Porn
If you had tried to convince me 11 years ago that I needed…
If you had tried to convince me 11 years ago that I needed to respect my porn-addicted husband, I would have laughed in your face. Not the “funny ha-ha” kind of laugh. More like a sneer…
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When Fantasy Invades Your Marriage
Fantasy seems like an invincible foe. Close your eyes and you can…
Fantasy seems like an invincible foe. Close your eyes and you can picture anything you want, with no one to stop you. Unlimited helpings of dessert, without gaining any weight? Done. Scoring the winning touchdown…
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3 Ways Porn Shreds Marriages with a “Shame Bomb”
Some movies start with a serene setting, only to have the world…
Some movies start with a serene setting, only to have the world collapse around the main character in the first two minutes. A wife discovering porn is a lot like that. Life seems normal, almost…
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How Boundaries Helped Heal Our Marriage: Robin and Dave’s Story
Fifteen years ago, Dave called a dating line hoping to have a…
Fifteen years ago, Dave called a dating line hoping to have a sexual conversation with a woman. Even though he confessed it, he was unwilling to admit the seriousness of his offense. I asked him…
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Introducing a Resource for Betrayed Catholic Women
Have you ever felt alone? I mean, really alone? Like there’s no…
Have you ever felt alone? I mean, really alone? Like there’s no one in the world who can help you with the grief or trauma you’re facing? There are thousands of women who experience this…
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7 Conversation Starters to Discuss Your Porn Addiction With Your Spouse
Your journey to freedom from pornography most likely didn’t take only one…
Your journey to freedom from pornography most likely didn’t take only one conversation, one moment of healing, or one act of repentance. Instead, it’s been made up (or will be made up) of many rounds…
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Can a Therapeutic Separation Help Our Marriage after Betrayal?
This post has been updated as of September 2020. As a Betrayal…
This post has been updated as of September 2020. As a Betrayal Trauma Recovery coach, I see up close the personal devastation experienced by women who have been in long-term relationships with men struggling with…
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5 Common Myths About Setting Boundaries
Here’s an everyday occurance in my office: A woman who is betrayed,…
Here’s an everyday occurance in my office: A woman who is betrayed, wounded, confused and traumatized, seeking to feel safe and stable within her own marriage, tried to set a boundary about porn in her…