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How Boundaries Saved Our Marriage (Part 3)
In Part One and Part Two of this series on boundaries and…
In Part One and Part Two of this series on boundaries and marriage, we’ve told you about our messy journey to recovery. Although 15 years ago we almost lost our marriage to pornography addiction, this…
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Navigating the Holidays Alone
It seems the Hallmark-like images of holiday celebrations and Christmas romances are…
It seems the Hallmark-like images of holiday celebrations and Christmas romances are everywhere this time of year. For women married to active pornography users, these perfect Christmas card images can hijack our ability to regulate…
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4 Reasons Your Spouse May Keep Turning to Porn
My husband has been free from pornography for over four years, but…
My husband has been free from pornography for over four years, but I’m still discovering things about why he turned to porn all those decades ago. The truth? The reasons aren’t porn-specific. Porn, in many…
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4 Reasons Shame Cripples Spouses of Addicts (and How to Overcome It)
“My husband is the sex addict; why should I feel shame?” For…
“My husband is the sex addict; why should I feel shame?” For most healthy outsiders, the logical answer is, “You shouldn’t.” But for most spouses of sex addicts, the feeling of shame clings to us…
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Are You Attracted to Your Wife or Objectifying Her?
I Plan on Objectifying my Wife. You Can’t Stop Me! I recently…
I Plan on Objectifying my Wife. You Can’t Stop Me! I recently wrote a Covenant Eyes article “What Christian Culture Has Gotten Wrong About Sexual Purity.” In it, I wrote: Satan’s definition of sex is…
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Can Couples Therapy Fix Our Relationship?
I’ll never forget the day I walked out of therapy during early…
I’ll never forget the day I walked out of therapy during early recovery. I left our therapist’s office crying, screaming, and slamming the door, vowing never to return. It’s safe to assume I was not…
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3 Steps to Start Rebuilding Trust and Respect in Your Marriage
Marriages Need Trust and Respect Trust and respect are the concrete and…
Marriages Need Trust and Respect Trust and respect are the concrete and re-bar of a strong marital foundation. If one or the other is missing, the marriage structure is weakened and subject to damage. When…
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How Boundaries Helped Heal Our Marriage: Robin and Dave’s Story, Part 2
My wife Robin and I have been on a 15-year journey of…
My wife Robin and I have been on a 15-year journey of recovery from the damage caused by my addiction to pornography, strip clubs, and masturbation. The shame of my 20-year relationship with pornography during…
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Therapeutic Disclosure: How It Can Help Your Marriage Heal
What You Don’t Know Can Hurt You Imagine you go to the doctor…
What You Don’t Know Can Hurt You Imagine you go to the doctor and learn that you might have cancer. You are sent home and told to come back next week to find out. You don’t…
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How Respect Shrivels the Power of Porn
If you had tried to convince me 11 years ago that I needed…
If you had tried to convince me 11 years ago that I needed to respect my porn-addicted husband, I would have laughed in your face. Not the “funny ha-ha” kind of laugh. More like a sneer…