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Heath Lambert on the Power of Thanksgiving Over Porn
“Porn is only consumed by thankless people.” Dr. Heath Lambert isn’t coddling…
“Porn is only consumed by thankless people.” Dr. Heath Lambert isn’t coddling readers in his book Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace. While the quote from his book might sound like…
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Your First Seven Days of Porn Recovery
While traveling recently, I attended a 12-step group. I enjoyed the meeting…
While traveling recently, I attended a 12-step group. I enjoyed the meeting greatly, but was saddened by the lack of long-term sobriety in the room. Over half the guys admitted to acting out that week.…
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How Does Covenant Eyes Protect My Privacy?
Privacy is under attack. Recent stories about large technology organizations who have…
Privacy is under attack. Recent stories about large technology organizations who have compromised our personal, private information have made all of us more careful about what we share. Employees at Covenant Eyes see these stories…
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Shame’s Massive Role in Porn Use
Many of us tend to think we feel shame in response to…
Many of us tend to think we feel shame in response to using pornography. What might surprise you however is that the reverse is also true. The more we feel shame, the more we will…
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If You Love Her, Tell Her the Truth
Consistently, wives of sex addicts share with me how the lies and…
Consistently, wives of sex addicts share with me how the lies and secrets their husbands keep from them hurt more than the sexual acting out itself. I asked a few of these wives the question,…
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Marriage Is Not the Answer to Your Desire for Sex
It’s a line often heard in well-intentioned lessons on sexual purity: God…
It’s a line often heard in well-intentioned lessons on sexual purity: God created sex. It’s His. Pornography and premarital sex are just distortions of what God made that is good: sex within marriage. Those sexual…
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The Worst Advice for Breaking a Porn Addiction
“Is the love of pleasure and amusement growing on you—gaining the power…
“Is the love of pleasure and amusement growing on you—gaining the power and authority over you? Is it dulling the keenness of your zest for spiritual pleasures? Is it making Bible study, prayer, communion with…
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3 Essential Responses to Your Spouse’s Betrayal Trauma Triggers
“What are you looking at?!” Lisa shrieks while her eyes bulge and…
“What are you looking at?!” Lisa shrieks while her eyes bulge and her body pulses with adrenaline. Doug looks up from his phone like a deer caught in the headlights. Panicked, he tries to reassure…
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Getting Sober in Just 30 Years
Recovery materials are replete with books on how to find sexual sobriety.…
Recovery materials are replete with books on how to find sexual sobriety. The “how-to” resources are almost limitless. Google “kicking the porn habit” and you will find dozens of articles on ways to find sobriety…
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Accountability and the Habit of Lying
“There are those, too, who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders,…
“There are those, too, who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders, but many of them do recover if they have the capacity to be honest.” – The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous “We are a…