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Understanding the Teenage Brain: Different, Not Broken
When I was a teenager (back when dinosaurs roamed, according to my…
When I was a teenager (back when dinosaurs roamed, according to my children), adults seemed to think teenagers were temporarily broken. One famous comedian at the time had a bit about how all teenagers have…
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5 Common Myths About Setting Boundaries
Here’s an everyday occurance in my office: A woman who is betrayed,…
Here’s an everyday occurance in my office: A woman who is betrayed, wounded, confused and traumatized, seeking to feel safe and stable within her own marriage, tried to set a boundary about porn in her…
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Steam Reverses Decision to Remove Pornographic Games
The online gaming store Steam, owned by Valve, distributes thousands of video…
The online gaming store Steam, owned by Valve, distributes thousands of video games for Windows, Mac, and Linux. A combination of faster distribution to consumers, a versatile suite of tools for game development, and more…
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Understanding the Triggers of Betrayal Trauma
“Suddenly my heart is racing, I can feel the blood pumping in…
“Suddenly my heart is racing, I can feel the blood pumping in my head, my palms are sweaty and I feel like I want to run. I can literally feel my body start to tense…
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“Why Doesn’t God Help Me Overcome Porn for Good?”
You’ve tried everything to deal with your porn struggle. You’ve read all…
You’ve tried everything to deal with your porn struggle. You’ve read all the right books, listened to the podcasts, maybe even talked to a counselor. You studied passages in the Bible about freedom from sin…
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Partner or Porn Police? 6 Encouragements When You Feel Like a Babysitter
Preface: This article focuses on the experience lived by partners of sex…
Preface: This article focuses on the experience lived by partners of sex and pornography addicts. However, if you’re a porn user yourself, I warmly invite you to keep reading! If your partner is able and…
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How a Little “Harmless” Entertainment Can Affect Your Husband
Numerous Christian men I’ve counseled have shared how their Christian wives read…
Numerous Christian men I’ve counseled have shared how their Christian wives read romance novels and watch movies and shows that contain nudity in front of them, even asking them to watch with them. Ironically, these…
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From Isolation to Connection (Part 4)
In the previous posts in this series, we’ve looked at the epidemic…
In the previous posts in this series, we’ve looked at the epidemic of loneliness plaguing our culture, its causes, and its relation to pornography addiction. And truthfully, it hasn’t always been pleasant reading. Diagnosing a…
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How Long Will It Take My Spouse to Heal from My Betrayal?
In this article I will use the terms wife or she for…
In this article I will use the terms wife or she for the betrayed spouse because that is the focus of my work. However, the information applies regardless of whether the betrayer was the husband…
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How Loneliness Fuels the Cycle of Porn Use (Part 3)
In the previous two posts of this series, we discussed the epidemic…
In the previous two posts of this series, we discussed the epidemic of loneliness, and how social isolation affects millions in America. We looked at the mounting body of research demonstrating how our isolation can…
