Last month, Resurrection: Discovering the Beauty of Marriage in the Cross, by George and Ashley Weis, was released. George used to struggle greatly with pornography. After his wife Ashley found out, this was devastating to her and their marriage. This new workbook is their guide written for couples who are going through the same trial.
I asked Ashley a few questions about the book and why she wrote it.
1. Your new book, Resurrection, was something you and your husband George wrote together after his struggle with pornography. How did finding out about his struggle impact you?
How didn’t it is a better question. It shattered my entire world. I never realized how much I loved him, how much his opinion meant to me, how much of an idol he was in my life…until that day four years ago. When I found out, I was on our dining room floor in a puddle of tears. Our marriage blurred behind my tears and I never thought I’d see clearly again.
George’s struggle with porn and lust got so much easier for him after that day. My struggle with insecurities, trust, and forgiveness blew all over the place, from a gentle breeze on Monday to a hurricane on Tuesday. It was a roller coaster. And I often thought it would ruin me before the ride would end. But here we are! I can honestly say that our marriage is even better than it was before. We’ve gotten through a storm that made our marriage so much stronger!
2. How is the book organized? Is it primarily for husbands and wives to read through together?
Yes, sir. It’s organized into three sections. “Looking Inward” is the first: it dives into the past and present a little. The next section, “Looking Upward,” uses the Beatitudes of Jesus to look up, out of the mess, and try to learn how to model Jesus’ words and actions in our marriages. The last section is a few applications, articles, and questions and answers that help us look outward and apply these things to our marriages.
3. What is the book about? Is it written to help a man break free from addiction, or is it more about healing your marriage?
It’s not about the “addiction”; it’s an aid in healing a marriage affected by sexual sin and insecurity. Really, in essence, it’s a tool to rid pride from our marriages and humbly follow Jesus when it’s uncomfortable.
4. Why did you settle on the title, Resurrection?
Because of the beauty of the cross. Jesus endured so much pain and suffering before He was resurrected. When a sexual sin is discovered in a relationship it’s pretty much suffering central. There is a ton of pain to work through. But there can be a resurrection if we continue on the upward hill and die to ourselves. So, that’s why we chose the title. To signify the beauty after pain, the beauty of the resurrection.
5. I noticed you are donating 50% of the proceeds from the sale of the book to Covenant Eyes. (Thank you, by the way.) Is Covenant Eyes particularly helpful for married couples who are struggling with issues related to porn?
Yes. I have supported many ministries since I discovered George’s porn addiction. It’s tough to explain why I love Covenant Eyes without knocking the others…but let me just say that while there are tons of helpful resources out there, I don’t think all of them are truly helpful. Covenant Eyes is pure. It’s helpful. And they really care about the people they are helping. I think it goes beyond Internet filters and great blog posts…Covenant Eyes loves people. And that love is something I speak about so much on More than Desire. Because love is central to life, and central to our healing from sexual addictions and insecurities. Covenant Eyes loves the people they help. And I think that makes all the difference.