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Can you really be free from porn?

Last Updated: July 6, 2021

Michael Leahy

Michael Leahy is the Executive Director of BraveHearts, a ministry providing mentoring-centric solutions for men who struggle with habitual sexual sin. He’s the author of five books, including Porn Nation: Conquering America’s #1 Addiction, and is considered a subject matter expert on sexual addiction and recovery. A father of two grown boys and a grandfather, Michael and his wife, Christine, live in Gainesville, GA.

Updated July 2021. 

Each year, I find myself reflecting on a question I get asked often as a former sex addict and now sex addiction recovery mentor:

“Can you really be free from porn?”

It’s a valid question. After all, it seems that there are far more people these days who struggle with porn and habitual sexual sin than there are former addicts like myself who are living in freedom. That should be no surprise to anyone given the sex-saturated culture we live in today, right?

So what’s the answer? Is lasting freedom really possible, or is it just a pipe dream?

Absolutely! In fact, as Christ-followers, freedom is our destiny.

Scripture tells us that it’s for freedom that Christ has set us free (Galatians 5:1). But that same passage also goes on to warn us to stand firm and don’t submit yourself again to a yoke of slavery. After all, we are prone to wander.

So there are some things you need to know before starting out or continuing on your journey to freedom. To help illustrate these key points, I’d first like to share my story with you.

A False Sense of Freedom

For most of my life, I never thought of myself as a person living in bondage. From the time I was first exposed to porn at age 11, I spent more time pursuing porn and sex than I did avoiding it.

While it started off as a “shiny new object” that grabbed my attention, my relationship with pornography and all things sexual changed often over time. It reshaped my core beliefs and objectified my view of myself and others along the way.

As for my relationship with God, I decided not to involve Him in that part of my life. As far as I was concerned, I was already living in freedom–sexual freedom–and on my own terms.

Even as a husband and father living a double-life, I was convinced I was winning and didn’t need the services of a savior. After all, I reasoned, Jesus played His part in my life long ago, giving me eternal salvation when I trusted him with my life and invited Him into my heart.

Trouble in Paradise

The wheels started coming off of the cart for me in the early 90’s when the tech company I worked for introduced us to the internet. Not long after that, I discovered Internet Porn 1.0 and my carefully orchestrated life started to come undone.

This very adult version of a “shiny new object” was just too hard for me to resist. So I didn’t. I surrendered my life to it and let it take me wherever the wind blew. Voyeurism. Exhibitionism. Group sex. Every category imaginable, and many I couldn’t even imagine, right there at my fingertips.

That’s when the real problems started to surface. Withdrawal and isolation from my family and friends. Declining performance at work. Obsessive, compulsive pursuit of all things sexual. Before I knew it, I lost my freedom and became an addict.

Pretty soon, just looking at porn didn’t do it for me like it once did. The edge was gone. I needed more. So I started pursuing porn with skin on, and before I knew it, I got myself involved in an extramarital affair.

Hitting Rock Bottom

It wasn’t until two years after I lost my family and marriage of 15 years, most of my close friends, and even my job, that I finally hit rock bottom.

I felt hopeless and depressed and had been having suicidal thoughts when I took it one step further and started planning out the act that would end my pain forever, or so I thought.

As I started thinking about what to write on a suicide note to my boys, I collapsed in the middle of my apartment’s living room, overcome with grief and fear and shock and shame all at once.

That’s when I cried out “God, help me!” And much to my surprise, God answered me. Not in an audible voice per se, but with words He imprinted on my heart:

“Michael, I’m right here. I never left you. You left me.”

6 Steps I Took on the Way to Lasting Freedom

From that point forward, I started pursuing freedom from my unwanted sexual behaviors by surrendering my entire life to God. No more secrets, no more lies.

Some of the key steps I took at this point in my journey included:

  • Seeking help from a licensed Christian counselor who was trained as a sex addiction specialist and was also a recovering sex addict himself
  • Meeting weekly with a sexual addiction recovery group who used recovery curriculum
  • Attending a local church service every Sunday (I had stopped going years earlier)
  • Reading and studying the Bible regularly
  • Praying and pursuing a connection with God every day
  • Finally, I started using Covenant Eyes and recruited several people to be allies in my recovery

Ever since I started taking my recovery seriously (I spent two years “faking” my recovery and it cost me my marriage and family, and almost my life), my life and my relationships started to improve.

Over time, others close to me–including my ex-wife and two boys–began noticing and commenting on how much I’d changed for the better. Of course, I never took credit for that, and still don’t. The credit and all of the glory deservedly go to God.

He’s the one who led me to freedom, usually through the work of other leaders and mentors He brought into my life at different critical times. And He’s still at work sifting me and refining me into the likeness and character of Christ.

I married a wonderful woman named Christine. This December, we will be celebrating our 12th year of marriage. We serve together in BraveHearts, where I’m in my 18th year of full-time ministry leading people to freedom in Christ from habitual sexual sin. Together, we’re living a redemptive life and love teaching others how to use their redemption story for God’s glory.

7 Key Lessons I Learned on the Road from Recovery to Redemption

I’ve been on this journey from recovery to living a redemptive life for 22 years now. Here are some of the biggest lessons I’ve learned about living in freedom and leading others:

  • Only the Truth (found in the person of Jesus Christ) can make you free.
  • Most people don’t want to face the truth about themselves. It requires courage and humility. For that reason, don’t be surprised when you face opposition from some friends and family.
  • You can’t lead others to freedom if you’re not free yourself. This is why former sex addicts and partners who’ve experienced significant recovery and healing make great mentors. It’s also why most peer-based accountability and support groups remain stuck.
  • Freedom is never free, doesn’t come easily, and requires hard work to maintain.
  • The journey to freedom requires motivation, endurance, and self-discipline. It also requires patience and commitment. It’s a marathon, not a sprint.
  • The journey to freedom also requires resilience and a willingness to change and adjust course when necessary. The pathway is dynamic and can change at any time.
  • The journey to freedom is a team sport. It’s never wise to try to go it alone. At the very least, you will need an experienced guide to lead the way (mentor). Peer-level support helps, too.
  • Comments on: Can you really be free from porn?
    1. Teresa on

      How can I send a question to the author?

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      • Amanda Powell on

        Hi Teresa,

        You can ask a question right here in the blog comments. The author will see it. Please let us know if we can help with anything else.

      • JEFFREY TAN on

        Your experience is just like what I’m currently going through. I am hopelessly addicted to porn. And I constantly give myself justification to watch it!

        I also agree that if I try hard enough, engaging in other Healthier activities, It’ll gradually take away my bad habit.

        So I’m currently spending more time with Godly activities like reading The Bible & Praying.

        But it’s a long road to recovery & I need you Brothers to pray for me:)

      • JEFFREY TAN on

        I’m currently hopelessly addicted to porn. I often give myself excuses to watch it & it entertains me.

        I also acknowledge that God can change that for me & I’m currently trying to take my attention away from porn by occupying my time reading The Bible & praying.

        But The road to recovery is long & I definitely need The Prayers of all you Brothers :(

      • Michael on

        Thank you very much Michael for your inspiring story.
        All the best for Now

        God bless
        Michael

    2. Laurence on

      Thank you very much,this article was very helpful,am also undergoing recovery

      Reply
    3. Joshua D Ruopp on

      I signed up for Covenant Eyes last September. It is one of the best decisions of my life. I’ve struggled with addiction problems my entire life. I started lying in second grade and have been addicted to almost anything. I got sober by attending AA in 1995 and have been a member since. Sober of drugs and alcohol is great but living a life of the 12 steps requires a fearless moral inventory. Therefore money, work, anger, sex, and you name it, all must be part of the program. Although Sex has always been at the top of the addiction inventory for me, the internet created a very real challenge for me. I remember the day I destroyed our home computer with some virus and my wife had no idea why. I kept my problem a secret for sham. I am involved in our local church and help the Priest distribute communion to the people. All the while hypocritically binging on porn when given the chance. I remember the day my wife bought me a Kindle fire, I had no idea the trouble I was headed for. Now I could view porn in private and not destroy our home computer. This binging went on for about three years. Then my wife came home with an Ipad. When would this madness end??? I knew I needed Covenant eyes. I had an accountability partner already, but it was still too easy to lie. I took the plunge, and told my wife I needed this program. I still get tempted, but the accountability Covenant eyes offers helps me overcome this addiction. The longer I stay sober, the more confidence I gain. I started relearning, and playing guitar in church, thanks to the advice of the book Healthy Habits.

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      • Jon on

        @Joshua D Ruopp, who is the author of the book Healthy Habits you mentioned, please? Is that the full title name, can you please furnish an ISBN number? Where can one get a copy? (I searched Amazon, google, b-ok.org..)
        Thanks!
        Jon

    4. John Seitz on

      Everything you said in this article makes sense, and parallels my situation, although I am not suicidal, (I believe that is one of those unforgivable sins).
      I am hopelessly addicted to porn, and cannot stop no matter how hard I try.
      There are a lot of other factors in my life that feed the addiction. I am very poor financially, and can never afford to see counselors. I am forced to counsel with people who are not licensed counselors (usually church based counselors who do not have the psychology degree).

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      • Matthew J Good on

        John,
        I understand where you’re coming from. As a sex and porn addict for over half of my life, it’s been a very hard, long road. I’ve lost and/or broken/bruised more friendships and family relationships than I care to admit or even realize, but I found Hope in Jesus Christ! Because of my addictions and acting out on them, I was even locked up and did almost 6 years total for juvenile and adult crimes, getting out 3 1/2 yrs ago. Only by the Grace and Mercy of God have I been given chance after chance after chance!!! Even messing up and relapsing several times since getting out, 2x going back to jail because of relapsing with porn. Things started changing for the better when I hit bottom last year after my dad passed away in the hospital and I relapsed again, sending me back to jail again – my last trip there! Last Oct, I found a Sex Addicts Anonymous group near me, started reading and studying my Bible and praying more, and started becoming more aware of my surroundings, temptations, feelings, and thoughts. Life has been waaaaay better, along with still using Covenant Eyes. I’m still a work in progress I know, even though I relapsed again just this past Wed and Thur, but God is Not finished with me yet – Nor with you yet either, John!!! There is Hope, found Only in Jesus Christ, our One and Only True Higher Power!!! Also try to find a good, supportive Celebrate Recovery group near you in addition to the other things I mentioned above that have helped me. Recovery and Freedom take a Lot of hard work and dedication and focus, especially in this sex-crazed culture!! But you Can do it, Only with Christ’s Power, Wisdom, and Strength!!!

      • Moriah Dufrin on

        Matthew,

        Wow! What an incredible story and journey you have! I am so glad that you have found Covenant Eyes as a tool to remain accountable. God is most certainly not finished with you yet, and I am excited to read that he is working so strongly in your life.

        God bless!
        Moriah

      • Joshua Daniel House on

        You can always go to a catholic priest. Even if you’re not catholic many know how to assist people struggling with this. This is especially true with the younger priests. They have changed my life and helped me pursue chastity as a whole without holding back selfishly.

      • Anonymous on

        So I’m not the author, but I would like to weigh in on this real quickly.
        You used the terms “hopelessly” and “cannot stop”.

        Neither of these are true.

        Just because you haven’t quit before doesn’t mean it cannot be done. Before 1969, we had never landed humans on the Moon, and before the birth of Christ, we have no indication that God had ever made himself man.
        That’s not to say that you are wrong in feeling desperate and overwhelmed, nor that changing your attitude will solve the problem. I just wanted to remind you that you can do this!

        Also, I would encourage you to check out this 21-day online program called STRIVE. I am not far enough along to personally testify to its effectiveness, but from what I hear, it’s really helpful.
        It’s also free!
        https://www.cardinalstudios.org/strive

      • Jack Feehily on

        Look for Sexaholics Anonymous meetings in your area. Members are asked to toss in a couple of bucks each week if they are able to support themselves.

      • Majic404 on

        I have found listening to the “integrity restored” podcast to add another dimension of greater awareness to the underlying brain chemistry and deep emotional triggers and impact my audition has on me and others. This has been very helpful in addition to blocking access.

      • Robert Maxwell on

        Hi John, check out purityispossible.com. There are a lot of steps there that you would get in a standard (expensive) behavioral therapy process with a licensed therapist.

    5. James Seaux on

      Amen that is awesome testimony

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    6. Thomas Cocklereece on

      Covenant Eyes is the best internet porn filter available. I insist that my counseling clients install it on their devices as soon as possible.

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    7. Yessica on

      My husband says he’s only watching women in a .com website. I don’t believe it. He spends most of his free time at home in the bathroom watching those women and who knows what else. He’s destroying our marriage little by little. He spend more time watching that than being or talking to me. He says at his age, 60, he’s not going to stop doing that. I feel so hurt. I continue praying and waiting for a miracle.

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      • Jay Pyatt on

        Yessica,
        One way to get him to change is to set and hold boundaries. This will not be easy, so it is important for you to have a network of support. Many men feel like they should be able to have their cake and eat it too, so when you set a boundary he will probably resist.
        I know for my marriage the boundaries Lori set for me were a major way to change my thinking and actions. You might want to connect with her for more help (lori (at) pornpainhealed (dot) com).

        Jay

      • Glenn Hodge on

        At 60? I was 70 when I finally gave up porn. I was at a point where I could see nothing wrong with porn. It took me almost loosing everything I had in my life to realize there is nothing worth that. I have gone through intense counseling with my pastor and assistant pastor and feel I might someday be where I need to be. I have found GOD is the only way.

      • Glenn Hodge on

        Is there not supposed to be any porn on .com websites? That is where I found ALL of my porn.

    8. Musa Nkosi on

      I was blessed by your testimony Mr. Leahy. I also struggled with pornography and masturbation as a teenager and it took me 8 years to be completely free from porn. There were times when I fell into the temptation to watch porn and masturbate and I felt terrible after doing it. But I praise God for true freedom from the chains that porn had in my life and now I can help others walk in freedom from porn.

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      • Theresa on

        I am very happy for those who have overcome this addiction- but as a wife of a husband of nearly 25 years that has been into porn secretly – I am tired of it. He also got into some drug addiction when our daughter was 13 years old – he totally abandoned her emotionally and mentally at the time she needed him most . She suffered greatly and ended up with depression , anxiety – health problems and an abusive boyfriend later on – her dad was too caught up in his pleasure seeking of drugs and porn to know what was going on in her life or protect her. My husband curses and screams and threatens to leave when caught instead of owning it and repenting . Punished me for his sin. But he goes to church on Sunday and puts on a front .

        I am a sinner and need to change in many ways too – not trying to cast stones – but do these men think how they would feel if others were lusting over their daughter being on that porn image- that is someone’s daughter and most of those girls were sexually abused .

        Or that the girl on that image is a victim of sex trafficking – And the rate of drug use, depression and suicide is high for these porn actors . I makes me sick – I have more compassion for the girls on the films – they are the real victims –

        Paul Washer a we’ll known pastor preached on this topic about how he was so sick of men claiming this is so powerful over them – as he concluded – no it’s not that powerful if your have Christ in your life and you seek and love him. He says if you love God you obey his commandments .

        Yes we all sin but not a lifestyle of unrepentant sin- I John is a great book of self examination if you truly have a personal relationship with Christ

        I guess after my husband went to a Christian drug rehab twice – I fully supported him , never left him -I go to Celebrate Recovery with him – he is still unrepentant , no remorse even for what he puts our daughter through- to me the girls in the porn , children and wives of the porn addict are the real victims – but we are told to be so sensitive to the drug and porn addict . I have not seen any brokenness in my husband for his choices and how it has affected us – not every man deals with this issue as. they want you to think. Just a weary exhausted wife .

    9. Noble on

      That’s an inspiring story. God bless you for the good work.

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    10. Nicholus Mutuma Murungi on

      Thank you so much for sharing that life experience. It is possible to be free from porn. The true freedom is in Christ Jesus.

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      • Ethan Evans on

        Am only 17 years old and I have struggled with my porn addiction for about three years now… please help me over come porn…. I e tried to do all l can but porn always finds its well to tempt me to watch it… Even as I type this comment… I am from just watching porn and I have masterbated twice…

        I recently signed up for the 40 days challenge to get free from porn by convenant eyes..but it seems like nothing is happening…

        I lacked an ally to share my sexual habits with since am an introvert boy … I have little friends..

        By l need your help and prayers my brothers and sisters in Christ…

        Porn is a drug and it’s digging deep inside me…

        Please pray for me… I believe l can be set free by Christ love for me…

      • Moriah Bowman on

        Hi Ethan,

        I am encouraged to hear that you signed up for the 40 Day Challenge! It can be difficult to find an Ally to share your struggles with, but read this blog post for steps to finding an Ally. Even just having one person whom you trust—a counselor, church leader, or relative—can make a huge difference in your journey of recovery.

        Praying for you!
        Moriah

    11. Danny on

      Thanks I need hear this

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    12. Kerry on

      I could not agree or relate more with your story. Through God’s Grace I did not lose my wife and family, and even better , have a better relationship with them now than ever before.

      Your steps to recovery are spot on and covenant eyes is a huge part of that recovery process especially early on. The drug of porn gives such a false high that covenant eyes and the accountability partners are like the narcan used in narcotic addition. It keeps us safe and is the first line of defense as the “drug” overtakes our life.

      Accountability software, combine with the other keys to success that you mentioned, are critical to giving us our lives, and the true freedom that God planned for us, back.

      Thank you Covenant Eyes.

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    13. Shawn Bakken on

      Covenant Eyes is blocking the Bravehearts website, so I can’t access it to sign up for the workshop. (My wife can access the site on her unprotected phone.)

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      • Amanda Powell on

        Hi Shawn,

        It might be something as simple as changing your filter setting, but we suggest contacting Customer Support team by chat or phone (877.479.1119) for help with the issue.

    14. Vernon on

      I”m struggling with porn and it still has it power from time to time. It’s during my idle time that thoughts come to mind. My wife comes from a mindset that holding herself away from me gets her what she wants and it’s creates more of a willingness to indulge in porn. How do you navigate that?

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      • Laura Fox on

        Whether you are having sex with your spouse or not has NOTHING TO DO. with conquering your addiction. If you were SINGLE, you would still need to conquer YOUR problem. If you are willing and desiring of OTHER WOMEN in porn harems, YOU are being emotionally and sexually abusive to your wife. A woman’s deepest need is to sexually know she is your ONE AND ONLY, and to feel safe and secure in your love and desire for HER. As long as you are using YOUR infidelity as a threat to FORCE her into giving over her body, you are treating her like a THING or a TOY that you own for self gratification, rather than LOVING and fully KNOWING her. She feels used, hurt, and emotionally unsafe, I’d bet- And until you get real help and stop this, she has a right to draw boundaries to protect herself.

    15. Bob Hudgins on

      Thank you for that VERY candid testimonial.I,to,am ‘strugling’ with this “problem”. I’ve reached out to our Lord, & I believe he has heard my cries for help. The issue is obviously on my end. Still hoping,though… .

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    16. Filip on

      Hello,

      After many willing and coraegous steps to quitting with porn I must admit I’m still addicted (since I was 12 – currently 27) I hoped that the marriage(married for 9 months with christian girl) would make me free.I’m still stuck and despite of crying prayers I stumble regularly.

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      • Jay Pyatt on

        Filip,
        This is not unusual. My own story is similar, I thought marriage would be a cure. It was not. Not because of my wife, but because of my fear of connecting with her.
        Anyway, there is a lot you can do to find freedom from where you are. I know the author of the article and he has resources to help you connect with others for help.

    17. Adikwu Echobu on

      I nice hearing your massage. Thank you sir, God bless you

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    18. Felix on

      Thanks for this start to recovery.

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    19. Elizabeth on

      I had no idea! We had been married over 30 years. One day I was praying for my husband’s spirituality; I sensed he was just going through the motions of being a Christian; he had no interest in reading the Bible . . .It was during my worship; I pleaded with the Lord to save my husband, even if he had to make me get really sick, so my husband would turn to him. The words, “Go to his office.” came into my mind. I kept praying, and the words, “Go to his office.” came to my mind again. I got up out of the chair, got my purse and keys and drove the 35 miles to his office. It was 5 p.m. exactly when I arrived. Most people were gone from the office, but it was not locked. I walked in; the floor is carpeted, so I guess he didn’t hear anyone come in. I walked into his office and was standing behind him watching what he was watching before he realized I was there. The body parts were naked and disgusting. I have been able to cry silently for years because of childhood trauma, and tears started falling from my eyes. It only took seconds. He clicked out, stood up and turned around. The look on his face was not guilty, not repentant, no shame there. I didn’t say anything. I didn’t want to embarrass him–there were a few people in the office area still. I was keeping his secret instantly. He closed his office door and whispered, “It’s not what you think. That just popped up on my screen. I don’t know what that is.” My tears fell faster, and I turned away. He reached for me, and I turned to quietly leave–forever. This is a true story. What I want to know is do guys ever quit by themselves?

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      • Moriah Dufrin on

        Elizabeth,

        Thank you for sharing your story and heartbreak. I can only imagine the pain and betrayal you must have been feeling in that moment. In response to your question: yes, men can quit porn by themselves. However, accountability and repentance are far better tools in recovery than secrecy and shame. By stepping forward and admitting his addiction, a man is showing that he WANTS to heal and be free, and this opens the door to accountability.

        I pray that you find peace, hope, and healing in your own life!
        Blessings,
        Moriah

      • Glenn Hodge on

        No! Only with help, from the Lord. At 72, he is still working with me!

    20. Sandra on

      Hi I have a Q.
      I found things on my husbands phone and after so much hurt that I couldn’t bear anymore I confronted him with his phone. He claimed it had popped up on his phone after watching a video of Sanford and son. I didn’t believe him after 29 years of marriage not being intimate. This all made sense now.
      Since the heated discussion, he lays his phone hoping I would check it and sometimes I do but there shows nothing on it . Not even good searches of how to fix a wood working project. Is he telling the truth? Or is he just getting good at hiding it.

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      • Kay Bruner on

        Hi Sandra,

        “This all made sense now.” That is such a powerful statement. You were aware of things being out of place, you just needed the final piece of information to explain it all.

        So, as you look at the situation now: are things out of place? Has he changed in other ways? If the old patterns are still the same, then he is probably just getting good at hiding it.

        Here’s an article that talk about two kinds of trust: behavioral and emotional. When we are not sure about the behavioral trust, we can look at the emotional and relationship patterns to help us understand what’s going on.

        That’s why you were able to say “this all makes sense now:” the emotional and relationship patterns were unhealthy, and when the porn use was revealed, you saw the behavioral piece.

        Trust yourself and how you feel in the relationship. You will know what to do,

        Peace,
        Kay

      • Glenn Hodge on

        Believe me, I thought I was hiding it but it does not work. It took me 50 years of marriage and 72 years of age to finally find the way to get away from porn. Only God will help.

    21. Mark on

      Can you explain a little bit about what you mean by “faking recovery” for two years? I’ve been trying to recover but sometimes I feel like it may not be genuine because I keep falling back into sin

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      • Moriah Dufrin on

        Hi Mark,

        I believe that the author in this post is referring to “faking recovery,” as not being 100% committed to overcoming porn. If there is not the desire in one’s heart to truly change, recovery will be difficult.

        In regards to your own recovery, I would encourage you to find an individual friend or group who you can hold yourself accountable to. Many times, this can be found in a church setting! I would also encourage you to use Covenant Eyes as another form of holding yourself accountable to what you are viewing online. It is truly an incredible tool.

        Blessings!
        Moriah

    22. Michael Robinson on

      I’m considering even though I’m married a sex fast of one whole cycle. I don’t want to do this, but my wife feels objectified and I cannot think of any other way to combat that. Covenant Eyes keeps me out of trouble on my smart phone, but it doesn’t work on Linux. I am a computer scientist and have a Linux system at home that I use most of the time as my primary computer. I can put Covenant Eyes on the Mac or get rid of it, but lately my major trouble area is my Linux system. I use opendns, but that isn’t perfect. I use squidguard, but because not all legitimate sites work from behind a proxy I cannot do transparent proxying. My wife holds the key to my Debian based server, a Yubikey. When is Covenant Eyes going to work on Linux computers?

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      • Moriah Dufrin on

        Michael,

        Unfortunately, we don’t have a timeline set for Linux yet. But, you will most certainly know when we do! I am sorry that we cannot cover it at this time.

        Blessings,
        Moriah

    23. Michael Jami on

      Hi
      my name is Michael from Nairobi, Kenya,I just read this blog right after I fell into a porn viewing session and was so ashamed of myself. The article really spoke to me and I really don’t want to get the point that Michael got to.
      I’ve been married to a beautiful very supportive wife for 3 years now and I desperately love her so much and want to be faithful to her both physically and visually(what I willingly look at).
      Am a medical student and currently cant afford covenant eyes app. Is there a free online support group or app that I can use. In Kenya pornography problem is really still under the carpet despite many affected men so support groups are not available.

      I have done the 40 day covenant eyes challenge and I follow up the blogs too.
      Any kind of help will be appreciated

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      • Moriah Dufrin on

        Hi Michael!

        If you are struggling financially but would still like to use our Screen Accountability software, we may be able to help!
        Call our Customer Service Support team and they will be able to talk to you about your need.
        877.479.1119 within US
        989.720.8000 outside US

        Blessings!
        Moriah

    24. Terry A. Quadnau, Jr. on

      This is a great article. In looking at the six steps taken I can clearly see where I am missing it. I only have access to two of the steps. Bible study and prayer. I have no church home and none of the Christians I’ve reached out to will help. I have no funds for a Christian counselor or porn blockers. I have no access to group support. Honestly, I feel totally hopeless. I know that perhaps prayer and study alone should be enough. But they haven’t been. And if they were, the others wouldn’t be necessary.

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      • Moriah Dufrin on

        Hi Terry,

        If you are unable to afford porn blockers, please contact our Customer Service department and share your need with them! At Covenant Eyes, we want everyone to be free from porn, regardless of financial status.

        877.479.1119 within US
        989.720.8000 outside US

        Blessings,
        Moriah

    25. Michael McCarthy on

      terrific story! i just started on Strive this week. Good to see there is a real light at the end!

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    26. Emmanuel Otobo on

      I’m very inspired by your experience. I’ll love to know if I can connect with a network of former porn addicts who could be my mentors as I continue striving for a lasting freedom from this sinful act.
      Thanks for tiring this article!

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      • Samantha Groll on

        Hi Emmanuel,
        I think you’ll find the Covenant Eyes network is full of people ready and willing to share their experiences with you, and to cheer you on through your journey. We don’t currently host a group, but a lot of people find each other through just comments on the blog or our various social channels. If you’re looking for something more concrete, we do have some suggestions! If you’re looking for a non-secular group to talk to, both samsonsociety.com and bravehearts.org are great choices. If you prefer a secular option, nofap.com has a wonderful, supportive community as well.

        I hope these suggestions help you find what you are looking for!

        Blessings,
        Samantha

    27. Michael on

      Thanks a lot Michael for your inspiring story.
      All the best for Now

      God bless
      Michael

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    28. OS on

      Thanks a lot for your story.
      I’ve been down this road, falling and rising in repeated motion. I recently ran back to God as I lost my relationship, I was loosing myself and I know I can’t bear to have another partner until I’m delivered from this. To God be the glory, I’m on my way to recovery. Although it’s only been 10 days, but I’ve been experiencing God’s faithfulness, joy in my heart and peace.
      I’m on the 21 days STRIVE program and with the help of God and my new found Allies, coupled with daily time with God’s word and prayers, I will be free permanently. (AMEN)
      I’d really love to access the covenant eyes filter too but I can’t afford that yet..
      Anyways, thanks for the post.

      PS: Having an accountability partner seems to be working for me..

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