Porn and Your Husband

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Did you catch your husband watching porn? Learn the answers to common questions, tips to productive conversations, steps to setting boundaries, and how to determine the next steps for your marriage.

3 thoughts on “How Respect Shrivels the Power of Porn

  1. Wow! This was powerful, powerful powerful! I could feel my resistance throughout the article as I have not shown my husband the respect that he deeply needs. Although every situation is unique, I so appreciate your words of wisdom and I celebrate with you that God brought Victory to your marriage!

  2. I was showing my husband a great amount of respect, 20 years of respect, submission, encouragement, and obedience, before he hit rock bottom and realized he was a sex addict who could not stop looking at porn on his own. Wives, please do not believe that your respect is the solution to your husband’s porn/sex addiction. It is not. A trained Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and 12-Step program like Sex Addicts Anonymous are tools God has given addicts to finally be free.

    I appreciate the spirit of humility that this blog was written in, and the recovery that this couple has experienced. But betrayed wives are desperate to help their husbands be faithful, and are easily fooled into believing his problem is their fault. Please be more careful when writing to make it clear that your respect or lack of respect had NOTHING to do with his addiction. Thank you.

    • Thank you so much, Elizabeth, for pointing out the problem with “respect” turning into the wives’ responsibility for keeping their husbands sober. It is only when men take responsibility for themselves and women invest in healthy boundaries that any healing is possible. Your alternate suggestions are great. I would also add that women often need trauma-informed therapy for their own recovery, as many women will meet the criteria for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Bloom for Women is a wonderful site that helps women in betrayal recovery. Peace, Kay

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