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When Boredom Leads to Porn

Last Updated: July 15, 2021

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My dear Wormwood … I have always found that the trough [boring] periods of the human undulation provide excellent opportunity for all sensual temptations.”

The Screwtape Letters, by C.S. Lewis

Scripture goes a block out of its way to inform us that the most famous sex scandal in history (David with Bathsheba) might have been averted if David was otherwise occupied.

In the spring, at the time when kings go off to war […] David remained in Jerusalem. One evening David got up from his bed and walked around on the roof of the palace. From the roof he saw a woman bathing. (2 Samuel 11:1-4)

A king, home alone, with too much time on his hands and the power to go anywhere and do anything he wants: sounds like me on my computer.

The Riveting History of Boredom

Apparently, boredom was invented in 1864. Not really, but according to Patricia Spacks in Boredom: The Literary History of a State of Mind, this was the first known use of the word. It comes to us from the writings of French thinkers who began using the word “ennui” (translated as ‘boredom’) to mean “tedious, wearisome, or discontentment.” Pascal wrote, for example, “man’s condition is that of boredom [ennui] . . . no matter how happy a man may be, if he lacks distraction and has no absorbing passion or pastime to keep boredom away, he will soon get depressed and unhappy.”

Boredom has always been hanging around, but it only surfaced as a social epidemic in the last 300 years. As twentieth century author Reinhardt Kuhn observed, boredom “is not one theme among others; it is the dominant theme . . . a modern plague.”

There is a life-numbing boredom seemingly born of the modern age—a pathological boredom—a “So what,” “Who cares,” “Been-there-done-that,” “Nothing matters,” “Let’s make a pipe bomb” kind of boredom. It is a way of looking at life devoid of all wonder, contentment, and passion. We are jaded.

Why Am I Bored?

We could, I’m sure, list a hundred reasons, but we’ll focus our diminished attention spans on five:

Wealth: More money: more free time and more play toys.

Entertainment: Through contrast, the stimulus of entertainment intensifies the tedium of everyday life.

Godlessness: Audrey Fellows writes, “In a world where the reality of things no longer gives life, intense experience is all we have left. There is only intensity; some things feel better than others.”

Tolerance: So said Dorothy Sayers, “In the world, boredom is called tolerance, but in hell it is called despair…it is the sin that believes in nothing, cares for nothing, seeks to know nothing, interferes with nothing, enjoys nothing, hates nothing, lies for nothing, and remains alive because there is nothing for which it will die.”

Isolation: Most any activity becomes boring and tedious when it is done alone.

The modern plague of boredom is best summed up by this New York City teen in a Time magazine interview. Nineteen-year-old Harry Siegel surmises:

The ability to howl at the moon is lost. The counterculture has been absorbed by the culture…Nothing is outside the fold…there’s nothing to do but entertainment—make it or watch it.

The Sin of Sloth

Richard Winter in his book, Still Bored in a Culture of Entertainment, writes that up until the modern era, boredom was seen as a character flaw linked to one of the seven deadly sins known as sloth. “Sloth is the lack of spiritual resources that enable one to appreciate and engage with the common wonders of creation, culture, and people.”

When we come to Christ, our accumulated restlessness does not simply vanish. We have a dulled palette and an enlarged appetite for sensation, saturation, and experience that has been cultivated over years of sensate feasting. The way of purity has become doubly difficult: there is more sensual opportunity, and our fleshly appetites are two to three times normal size.

Pornography carries with it a buzz and an excitement both chemically and emotionally. The attraction of this buzz as a cure for boredom is what brought many of us to our involvement with the material in the first place, and it is what so easily drags us back. It only makes sense, then, that our struggle for purity will involve a battle with boredom.

So how do we learn to cultivate an internal capacity for boredom? How do we re-capture wonder, passion, and curiosity? Here are a few thoughts headed in the right direction.

Repent Thou Sluggard

Repentance is demonstrated by moving in a new direction. Wage war against sloth. When there is a choice between isolation and community, pursue community. When the reason you are not doing something is laziness, force yourself to do it. When you’ve spent copious amounts of time on leisure, confess it. Awareness of sin should not be confined to where we committed evil with our time, but where we’ve wasted it.

Embrace Boredom

Boredom is an impetus to action. It’s much like anger—without its fuel, we would never do certain things that need to be done. But here is what needs to change: rather than seeking to medicate or entertain our boredom, we need to cultivate active, creative alternatives. These include creative things, thoughtful things (things that stimulate your mind such as reading or writing), relational things (who you can interact with in order to stimulate social and emotional connections), natural things (what you can do that will put you out in nature), and athletic things (what you can do to stimulate your body, not relax it).

Unlike media, these things replace boredom but at the same time they expand our capacity for boredom and use it as an impetus for creative doing.

Praise, Thanksgiving, and other Triglycerides

Praise and thanksgiving are the spiritual equivalent of Lipitor, providing immunity to boredom, bitterness, frustration, apathy, laziness, cynicism and a host of other heart diseases. Giving thanks and praise throughout the day for the most mundane of things cultivates contentment and gratitude. Praise and thanksgiving are mood and mind altering drugs—overdose on them.

Scrimmage With the Flesh

Want to decrease your appetite? Try starving it. It is difficult to pursue purity with ravaging fleshly appetites. Fasting from eating food for a few days cultivates a habit of saying “no” to your flesh and your desire for gratification. But because eating isn’t a sin, if you fail, you haven’t morally compromised yourself. It’s like playing a scrimmage game with your flesh.

Summary

Remember the old saying, “Idle hands are the devil’s workshop”? It came from a period of time when people recognized the sin of sloth and the spiritual liability of boredom. If we seek to stop the passive late night web surfing, we must cultivate new, creative, active habits to replace the old. Christianity is never simply the negation of a bad habit, but the concurrent cultivation of Spirit and virtue—nature abhors a vacuum.

Here’s the takeaway from all this: See sloth and passivity as a moral weakness. Begin to confess it, and make choices to break its hold on you. Cultivate creative alternatives. Choose action over inactivity and people over isolation. You are a new creature in Christ, so pursue and cooperate with God’s transformation of your character in the realm of boredom, laziness, and passivity.


Rick JamesRick James is on staff with Campus Crusade for Christ serving as a national speaker and the Publisher of CruPress, responsible for the Campus Ministry’s resources and materials. His books include Jesus Without Religion (IVP, 2007), A Million Ways to Die (Cook, Fall 2010), and Flesh: An Unbreakable Habit of Purity in a Pornographic World (CruPress, 2006) from which this excerpt was taken. He has been a member of Covenant Eyes since 2006.

The book Flesh, as well as other materials written by Rick, are available at CruPress.com.

  • Comments on: When Boredom Leads to Porn
    1. Christopher on

      Thanks, I will put these things into practice.

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    2. Scott St. Onge on

      Such a terrific post. The mighty C.S. Lewis strikes again.

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    3. JeremiahP on

      This article is great. It touches on a number of pathways/triggers that I think many addicts allow to be their downfall. It also overlaps with the topic of entertainment, which can all too often be laziness in disguise. I am very concerned for the use of my own time, now being separated from my family and not having nearly as much activity around me as before. I need to learn to use this time for prayer, meditation, and reading God’s word. I also need to find my way to more exercise and other edifying activities, rather than sitting in isolation and depression. That leads to TV other other avenues that just spiral downward if left unchecked, and I cannot allow that. Time to turn boredom into constructive activities. No excuses.

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    4. Jason Bolster on

      Boredom is, as you rightly point out, a fairly modern phenomenon. If it wasn’t invented by marketers it was certainly boosted by marketers, trying to persuade us that along with food, shelter, clothes and water, we have one other intrinsic need: novelty. By getting us used to the idea that things can be sold purely for novelty value, they can start selling things made to fall apart or break down quickly. We don’t buy singing trouts, wear stripped leggings and listen to Justin Beiber because they are good; we consume them because we’ve never consumed them before. The shorter the trend lasts, the better, because if we were satisfied with this year’s products we wouldn’t buy next year’s and then we’d have no economic boom. So we are forced to suck more and more resources out of the rapidly-depleting biosphere because we get bored with what fascinated us last year.
      The news is becoming more and more entertainment, not just in that it covers the antics of Hollywood celebrities as much as it does the government, but in its presentation style. Even worse, some Christians seem to think that worship is an experience or an experience. Does the worship music where you are bear some of the same characteristics of a variety show? Retread the bit about coming to Christ with an enlarged appetite for sensation, saturation and experience. Could some churches be just trying to give you a Christianised form of what the entertainment industry sells?
      When I meditate, I train myself not just to be satisfied with the same repeated concept or word or phrase, but to grow increasingly delighted with it in its repetition. Satisfaction is an increasingly counter-cultural thing and minimal consumption is just ridiculous but it makes life worthwhile. Dietrich Boenhoffer would spend an entire week reading just one paragraph of the Bible over and over. What a boring life, but what a meaningful life!

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    5. Nick Stumbo on

      This article contains some very helpful information, and it is essential to see the role boredom can play in our struggles. However, I think this article misses the mark a bit. Regarding ‘sloth and passivity as moral weakness’ can be dangerous, as it reinforces our very western-ways of productivity. Particularly for men, the need to produce and have something to show for themselves is the trigger of boredom, leading them to believe they are worthless if they lack accomplishment. Add to this that addict, even sexual addicts, have trained their brains to operate at a heightened level of activity. So in this case, boredom may simply be the brain attempting to return to a state of normalicy. If we label this as ‘sloth’ or ‘moral weakness’, we may be reproducing the cycle that got us here in the first place. More encouragement should be given to ask the why question- why am I bored? Am I running from something? Avoiding something? It may be that ‘boredom’ needs to be embraced as a pathway into normal brain function, and times of relaxation and non-production. Just a counter thought.

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