About the author, Michael Johnson

Michael Johnson (MJ) is co-founder and Dean of Dating at Future Marriage University, where he has a blast sharing practical, passionate Biblical truth about sex, dating, and relationships with college students, youth, and young adults. He also video blogs with his wife, Julie (and sometimes his kids). If you like his writing, you’ll love him live. That’s what his mom says, anyway.

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More Than Single

Parenting the Internet Generation Ebook Cover

Many single people believe they have no recourse other than turning to porn to deal with their loneliness and their sexual desires. In More Than Single: Finding Purpose Beyond Porn, we help singles discover freedom from porn and joy in their circumstances.

7 thoughts on “Why Dump Porn Before You Date

  1. In a pornified culture, the younger generation is very aware of porn, and more often it is self-made porn through sexting. So I find that many seriously dating couples share their struggle with porn with each other. And yes, the girls have the problem too.
    When are we going to get serious about “each man should have his own wife; each woman her own husband,” and the root of the problem of lack of self-control in everyone? Lack of spiritual, relational, and sexual maturity in marriage is much bigger than the porn problem!

  2. Hello, thank you for sharing this article! I agree about the idea that you should have your porn problems under control and taken care of before dating. I’m comfortable in saying that as a 23 year old male with autism, I’ve struggled (and am currently still dealing) with porn on and off over the last 2 and a half years, this year the most dragged out. From my experiences with it, it can definitely kill intimacy in your mind, and a lot of that stuff usually didn’t have intimacy. It brainwashes you and corrupts your mind. I’m glad, given my social history and lack of consistent friends in my life, that I’ve never dated yet, since I’ve been back and forth with this addiction since early-mid 2015. Having felt lonely for a long time hasn’t helped much, either. I’ll admit that I’m a little confused at how you wouldn’t exactly be ready for relationships or marriage after you would conquer porn and deal with whatever other issues you have. Thank god for Covenant Eyes. I’ve had them for the past year now and I’m looking through their blog and e-books for extra help needed outside of my therapy.

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