About the author, Amanda Zurface

Amanda Zurface

Amanda Zurface is the Catholic Campaign Coordinator for Covenant Eyes. Amanda holds a License and MA in Canon Law and BAs in Catholic Theology and Social Justice. Amanda has served in various roles within the Catholic Church both in the United States and internationally. She is the co-author of Transformed by Beauty. She resides in Washington Court House, Ohio.

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The Porn Circuit

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Science shows us why porn is highly addictive. Learn how our neurochemistry is easily hijacked by porn to create compulsive behaviors, and discover how the brain can be rewired to escape porn's allure.

5 thoughts on “Are you over-spiritualizing your porn struggle?

  1. Is there any information from a non-Catholic view about the Novena for Purity? I hail from the Protestant/Anabaptist perspective, but I have fostered an appreciation for liturgy and rituals.

    (These comment forms need a “subscribe to comments” option)

    • Hi, Kenneth – I don’t think that even as a Protestant, there is much in the Novena that would be too distant from your own theology. I would give it a try.

  2. Amanda,
    When I help men in this area, we work both spiritual and recovery disciplines. I see men work one side or the other, they need both natural and spiritual help, like you recommend. Additionally, they need connection with other men. Recovery is best done in relationship, and I am glad you spoke about that as well.
    Thanks for taking the risk to encourage those who are struggling. Your message is very important.

  3. I never had a problem with porn. can go years without seeing it and then maybe comes back. but I honestly don’t think it has been a problem for me.

  4. Amanda,
    I appreciate the articles you have written for CE and how you link resources to each article to help people. You keep things simple and give good advice.

    I do have something to share about over-spiritualizing the porn struggle. You mention how people can try to pray enough, confess enough, serve enough to overcome porn and then get discouraged when they don’t see results. Is it possible that they are being too religious instead of too spiritual in their fight against porn? What you described here is typical of someone who has a lukewarm faith. They think they can somehow “earn” victory by doing enough religious activity as if it is some formulaic method. However, if they choose to become less “religious” and more spiritual, they will understand that God doesn’t work this way. God wants us to be close to Him- spending time in his Word, praying and confessing sin, authentically crying out to him for help. In my experience, these are important in coming to true repentance and victorious living.

    You gave 5 great steps in the battle against pornography, and a few are psychological in nature. These steps are actually all spiritual disciplines, some which have psychological components to them. Proverbs 2:2, Proverbs 27:17, Daniel 9:3, and Matthew 18:20 are a few verses that address all of these virtues. If a person becomes more spiritual they will find discover these truths and the importance of them, even the psychological ones. To balance the psychological and spiritual, I would fear that some may envision decreasing their spirituality to focus equal attention on the psychological. However, in doing this some may read the bible less, spend less time in prayer, cry out to God less, and perhaps even go back to becoming more religious in their thinking towards God. But instead if people continue to cry out to God, seek his word, walk by his Spirit, they would actually do all of these five steps more effectively. So increasing ones faith can increase their attention to these steps, even the psychological ones.

    Being persistent in one’s spiritual life is a key component to the battle. I like the following article by Steve Gallagher that points this out: http://www.purelifeministries.org/blog/never-stop-reaching-out-for-freedom. I especially like the quote from his book “At The Altar of Sexual Idolatry” at the end of the piece which describes his continuous attempts for victory.

    I am curious as to your thoughts, or anyone else’s thoughts at Covenant Eyes, on this subject.

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