About the author, Chris McKenna

Chris is the Covenant Eyes Educational Resource Manager. Chris has a BA in Accountancy and Spanish from Western Michigan University. After 12 years in business advising with Ernst & Young, God led Chris to a full-time student ministry role. He started protectyoungeyes.com in 2015  as a ministry to equip and educate parents and teens on the latest gadgets, apps, and how to use the Internet well, which led him to Covenant Eyes. God works in unexpected ways!

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The Porn Circuit

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Science shows us why porn is highly addictive. Learn how our neurochemistry is easily hijacked by porn to create compulsive behaviors, and discover how the brain can be rewired to escape porn's allure.

7 thoughts on “Am I a Sex Addict?

  1. Thank you for your articles !

    I read one article every day and it REALLY helps me. I’m on my 36 day of recovery now :-). I think another important practical step is to keep you informed every day with articles like the one you provide or with books like The Porn Circuit.

    Sorry for my English, I’m French.

    Glory to God.

  2. great read, I am trying to find an accountability partner and wanted some guidance on that. is it appropriate / can an online person work for something like that? And / or how could I find someone local to me if there are no men’s groups close by?

  3. Thank You for this article! God Bless you for all the work that you do.! We have been bless with all of your articles-Thank you for all the information you all have shared, and walking me through this epic devastation of my husband’s betrayal. All the doors have been closed!!! Now I observe! This article just came on time for me! We have Covenant eyes and a big burden has been lifted knowing that you guys care and educate women like ne that has been betrayed by my husband 33 years! My story will come latter- for now I thank you all and continue the goog work that you are doing because there are more wives out there that is in the dark on what is going on with their husbands! GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU- good and faithful servants of God! Judie

  4. Chris Mckenna thank you that was a very insightful post. I think the majority of what you said is probably spot on. Your points about mentally how a person actually harms himself more through excessively dwelling in shame and guilt and that being a trigger for running back to the emotion drug called porn or fantasy I too think is spot on. Please take a look at this article on a study of what actually weakens willpower: https://positivepsychologyprogram.com/psychology-of-willpower/#weakens-willpower

    It’s pretty interesting. One thing I would recommend for the practical side of it is to emphasize the 90 days more. What a person needs actually is a whole strategy. The strategy of Reminders/Blogs/, etc. which you guys are doing and a strategy to tackle the problem step by step daily with accountablity tracking sheets, 10 mins of daily meditation/conversation with God (this also builds the prefrontal cortex and strengthens willpower), a mentor which must be informed every 1-2 months of progress and also maybe a group of supportive friends like yourself has said.

    It should be practically given to people to do. A 30, 40, or 90 days sheet where they have to tick a sheet every night before going to sleep, until they are able to do it straight without fail. It might take some people years but that’s really what it takes to get cured. No one is perfect, they mess up over and over, but to increase the distance slowly, while being more and more grateful for the successes and distance between sins. People have to keep taking small steps and see that they are progressing more and more over the years, while at the same time building a better relationship with God and people… Take a look at this site http://www.prophetic-path.com and some of their videos. They have a good program. It is a Muslim site but everyone is welcomed to benefit from it’s program.

  5. I have just reconnected with my highschool love. I believe this was a gift from god. I didn’t take the breakv up very well. I was truly in love. I was ready to give up my own family to be with him and join his religion APOSTOLIC CHRISTIAN IF AMERICA. Since our reunion he told me that they are encouraged not to marry an OUTSIDER. I had no idea. Anyway he had been separated from his wife for eight years. There religion marries on FAITH. HIS STORY IS SHE WAS VERBALLY ABUSIVE. ANYWAY SOMETHING SEENS OFF. PORN HAS CAME UP A FEW TIMES IN CONVERSATION. HE SAYS HE HAS HAD A COUPLE OF MEN IN HIS CHURCH ASK HIM TO BE HIS ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNER. US THIS LIJE A SPONSOR IN AA . AND THEY ARE ASKING BECAUSE HE KNOWS THE STRUGGLE. HE ALSO SAYS THAT HE HAS ABSTAINED FROM SEX FOR Eight years no even masterbating. He says god will help you when you have sexual urges. We initially vowed to not have sex until he was divorced because that’s the Christian thing to do. I told him we were doing everything but the initial act and as far as I was concerned sex. So we are intimate. I would so much prefer to talk to someone

  6. Thanks. It is Jan 4th 2018 today and I have not looked at porn at all since July 19th 2017. I went from an addict using porn regularly in 2016 to a dabbler in 2017. In July I finally confessed my whole history to my wife! Incredibly hard!!! I’ve had 100 percent freedom since that day. Our marriage is in repair mode but at least the cancer has been removed and there is hope for healing.
    One huge step was in December 2016 I got involved in a small bible study of men that was crazy honest about porn and masturbating. That was healing beyond words!!!
    Victory is ACTUALLY possible! I didn’t believe that 18 months ago!

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