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9 thoughts on “Why Marrying a Supermodel Won’t Satisfy

  1. I don’t disagree with you, but you must remember that God designed men to be visual creatures. God designed a woman’s body for beauty in order to visually stimulate men’s interest in them and supermodels exemplify women’s beauty. I’m sure we can all agree on this.

    • Thanks so much for commenting on my post! However, I would not agree that supermodels exemplify women’s beauty. In fact, I feel that viewing them that way is insulting to the other 90% of women who do not, nor could ever look like a supermodel (partly because even supermodels don’t look like supermodels in real life). My wife for example does not look like a supermodel, but the less I have stared at supermodels (not to mention the less I have lusted after them), the MORE attractive my wife has become to me, so that SHE is my personal epitome of beauty. I would urge you, to talk to other guys who have been happily married for 20+ years and find out if they believe looking to supermodels to exemplify woman’s beauty has helped them enjoy their wife and their marriage and sex life, or hindered it. I’d also encourage you to read this other post I’ve written for Covenant Eyes: https://covenanteyes.com/affiliates/idevaffiliate.php?id=997&url=937

    • “Supermodels exemplify women’s beauty”. Only physical beauty…unless their heart is submitted to obeying the Lord. Then she can have the inner beauty that only comes by dying to self and living for the Lord. This is the kind of beauty that we men should initially focus on. Physical beauty is fleeting, but a heart that’s submitted to the Lord will last.

  2. “supermodels exemplify women’s beauty. I’m sure we can all agree on this.” Wow. Where to even begin.

    The myth that “God designed men to be visual creatures” is just an excuse to get your ‘peek’ on. James (1:14, ESV), “But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire.” By shifting the emphasis to externals–such as objectifying a women’s body, you are missing the true battle of the flesh and offering an excuse for unGodly behavior.

    Do not be fooled. My son married a “supermodel” and I truly like her. She is kind and a great wife and mom. But she has had LOTS of work done to “exemplify a woman’s beauty”. In her business, bodies are their ‘product’ and the end game is to make women feel inferior (unless they buy this outfit, shoes, or perfume) and attract men’s attention (so they buy this outfit, shoes, or perfume for their significant other). She has appeared on TV, film, and even Sports Illustrated swimsuit editions in less than modest clothing. When she enters a room, every man looks at her and as a result, every women feels less than adequate. When we are out together, men are constantly staring at her (and NOT with an appreciation of ‘God’s creation’) I have seen women shrink around her as their husbands, boyfriends and even dads gawk at her parts. My son has had to come to grips with the fact that men masturbate over her image. Rephrase: men are masturbating over his wife and his son’s mom. As a doctor, he has had to approach it from a worldly view point i.e.”Men are Visual Creatures” combined with an intellectual understanding of her anatomical makeup in order to deal with it.

    The consequences of her chosen profession are now having an impact since she has been growing in her faith and given birth to a beautiful son. How can she raise him to view women as daughters of the most high God and not as objects? What will happen when his friends see those old photos of her? Having a father-in-law who is a recovering sex addict has opened her heart to self examination.

    I suggest you read the following article for clarity:
    http://www.pastordavidrn.com/files/DangerousMaleMyth.html

    • @Annie, thank you for your honest and heartfelt sharing about your son and his wife.

      In this case, then – after having observed your son’s marriage as well as that of your own – if physical appearance is not *the* most important thing to look for in a spouse, what would say is?

      Also, what do you think about the mindset that says, well, if I cannot marry a ‘supermodel’, why not find the ‘best looking’ (whatever that means) amongst the group of Christian singles I know.

      Appreciate your thoughts and time.

    • @ Sam (et al)
      Sam you ask an almost impossible question to answer — a good question — but it’s one that depends upon the VERY subjective interpretation of beauty and womanhood.

      Let me start by saying my doctor son that I speak of (married to the supermodel) dated many beauties in the Hollywood sense of beauty. Most were arrogant, selfish, and intellectually lacking for his taste. My daughter-in-law is a graduate of the Pearson School of Design (intellect) was just accepted to law school, and came from southern breeding where good manners matter. They are both very strong Catholics so faith was important to him — but yet, I will admit he is shallow in the necessity of physical attraction.

      Another one of my sons is former military, 101st Airborne, hard core tough guy who is a mama’s boy. He loves girls with tattoos, like to run and work out, musicians and artists, and is at home in a motorcycle church. They could not be any different in their approach to women. His current girlfriend is kind, soft spoken and precious. Not a Hollywood classic beauty but deep understanding eyes that are the window to her loving soul.

      Then there is son #3. He works for the Navigators. He is a nerd. He shuns the above two ‘looks’ and is a guy who likes kind girls who share common interests with him, starting with Jesus Christ, then music, Pixar, Apple computers and good food. Nothing is as important as her heart and strength of convictions.

      My husband is not the handsome hunky guy. I married the Drummer in a progressive rock band who I shared the Gospel with and he came to the Lord. Being a Christian was #1. Sharing interests and callings was #2. We had chemistry — but the thing is, we were friends for 9 years before we married. I was in music and theater and he grew up in a theater family and majored in music. But the most important thing to remember is that we were best friends.

  3. I wish guys would remember these supermodels won’t stay super for too long. And from reading about the pressures of a woman, I can’t imagine what a supermodel would go through to attain this status and stay there for as long as possible.

    I believe most men are clueless in the relationship area and don’t realize a genuine, Christ based relationship is what matters most. Men want hotness and horny which is extremely shallow and shortsighted; Satisfy me woman!

    And this is where I was for years. It’s actually exhausting, waiting for my own wife to morph into Sexy Sex Chick.
    Thank God for His mercy and patience! Having a real wife in a real relationship for years to come is heaven on Earth!

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