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Dan Armstrong is the Corporate Communications Specialist at Covenant Eyes. Prior to joining the team, he led the marketing department of a public policy think tank and also anchored and reported television news for NBC stations in Michigan. Dan and his wife have four children.

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The Porn Circuit

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Science shows us why porn is highly addictive. Learn how our neurochemistry is easily hijacked by porn to create compulsive behaviors, and discover how the brain can be rewired to escape porn's allure.

8 thoughts on “The Four Stages of Temptation

    • I identify with all four stages. Pornography became my drug of choice. It ruined my life and I was unware that I was victimizing others and self. I lost everything that was dear to me. Currently I am in treatment to address the issues that lead me to this self destructive coping skill. I still hear the siren call of pornography at times but I’m learning to recognize when I’m vulnerable and my triggers. I think that this could be a lifelong battle and bringing it into the light takes away it’s power. God always provides a way out and when I’m struggling with my unhealthy wants, it helps to have a refuge in arms of the Lord as well as the power that removing secrecy provides to be accountable to others. ~T. Smith

  1. Nice writeup, God bless
    hoping that this lust saturated world will get to know this someday. the God of peace will crush Satan under our feet AMEN

  2. Brilliant analysis of the cycle of temptation. The Devil really does prowl around looking for victims. He knows your weak points and teh times you are weak. Knowledge is power. Power can counteract the wiles of the Devil. Great article. Thank you

  3. I disagree with this completely. Want to know how temptation works.

    1) Desire — males have 10 times the testosterone as women and our sexual desire region of the brain is 2.5 times larger.
    2) Desire — religions tells us that it is evil and taboo and this supercharges the desire phase.
    3) Desire — it sucks to be alone and life for the most part is boring. You eat, you sleep, you work, and you have sex. That is life.
    4) Temptation — women are the fairer sex and know this so they use their beauty to tempt man.
    5) Temptation — no one tells women not to tempt or be like holy women (good luck with that — feminists will crucify you).
    6) Reality — life is completely unfair. God will bless one person with everything and another person with nothing. This causes people to lose faith.
    7) Reality — again, life is boring. Very very very boring when you think of it. Most people slave away in a job they don’t really like to provide for a life they don’t really want. Most people would like to travel. See the world. Have time off. Have romances. But most people can’t do that. Life pretty much sucks for most of this world.
    8) Reality — we only deal with one side of this equation. That male side. None of this will get any better. You know why? At the end of the day, some hot girl with an amazing body will flaunt it in public and all the work people do to try to conform to some puritanical notion of life will go out the door.

    Now, this is reality of temptation. Desire plus boredom plus temptation plus hopelessness equals people having sex or watching porn or whatever. What? You really think people want to go against God? You really think people hate Jesus? Nope. Life just beats them into the ground and if you want to be honest, the least of anyone’s worries is some hot girl on TV getting nude.

    Then, no one really can give us a real reason why sex is so bad anyhow. I often think religion is just a form of control those in power use on the masses to make sure they don’t reproduce or rise up. After all, those in power have great lives. They can do what they want when they want but all us average people, must slave away and produce for the wealthy. They have to keep us in line somehow or one day we just might get smart and realize just how inequitable all this really is.

    But what do they say? Suffer in this life for the promise of a life in heaven!!! Suffer I tell you. You will be rewarded when you die they say!!! Sometimes I really wonder about all that.

    • I am so sorry for your perception of life. I’m just so sorry. I hope that You find your way to a church and let the real transformation to begin. Jesus is hope, he is the life, he is everything and wants you to live abundantly during your time on earth. He hates sin, he died for sin, and he wants you to have life on real relationship. I hope you find some counseling.

  4. Hello Reality. We have not met, but I wanted to leave a few thoughts. Life is often what we make it out to be, along with some blessing here and there if we are being obedient. A question – have you ever met a generous person who was a complete jerk? Who hated life? I never have! They just don’t exist. Generosity is a choice. And, I have found that those who figure this out experience an amazing (non-boring) life. Just a thought.

    Religion might say things about sex that make it seem evil, but my God has never said that. No where in His Word do I find that! In fact, the very first command he gave to humans was to have sex. Within the confines of a committed marriage, it is designed to be a beautiful thing. You can choose to have sex outside of marriage – that is everyone’s choice. God’s Word just let’s us know that sex, just like anything, there are consequences when we start to believe that our way is better than His. I think requires anyone to ask some tough questions – do you think your way is better than God’s way? If so, then behavior and life will always follow what we believe. This was a monumental realization for me recently. Adam and Eve took the apple because they believed God was holding out on them. It’s that simple. If we believe God is holding out on us, then our life and behaviors will reflect that. Behavior always follows belief.

    Reality, God is for you! He wants you to have a full, amazing life. There might be hard things in life that have happened to us, but what if in the midst of suffering or hard times, you made a commitment to thank God for life? That no matter what, you weren’t going to allow your circumstance dictate what you believe? I think you would experience a peace and satisfaction in life that defies all understanding, like the promise I read in Philippians 4:7.

    Be well! May you experience a full, exciting life.
    Chris

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