Your Brain on Porn

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Watching just 5 hours of porn has been proven to significantly change people's sexual beliefs and attitudes. Find out 5 distinct ways that porn warps your brain, as well as 5 biblical ways to renew your mind and find freedom.

18 thoughts on “License to Lust: How Porn Trains Objectification

  1. Great post! Something a lady shared goes along well with this (http://goodwomenproject.com/dating/10-lies-we-believe-about-interactin-with-the-opposite-sex):

    “I would wager that if men and women spent more time interacting in a low-pressure environment with the opposite sex, the desire to rely on pornography as a source of relief would decrease. Is it a scientific fact? I don’t know. Perhaps I’m oversimplifying. But from my perspective, it seems as though we’re getting more and more uncomfortable with each other while the percentage of pornography users in the church grows. This problem is an essay for another day, but essentially, porn is crippling men and women, stunting their relational abilities while placing incredible pressures on the opposite sex.”

    The way I see it, two things have essentially disappeared (or are rapidly disappearing) from our society:

    * Honest communication between men and women–the only thing that will dispel the lies, misconceptions, and truths we hide about ourselves and each other.

    * Opportunities to interact in safe, non-sexual settings.

    • Great insights Greg, thank you! I think you’re hitting on a good point that sex has basically become the only priority in male/female relationships, for many men at least. When guys objectify women, we are obviously doing it solely based on sexual appeal. It’s not like guys are objectifying a woman because she’s so funny they just have to be around her, right? When in reality, obviously relationships (both romantic and non-romantic) between men and women encompass sooo much more than sex–in most cases, 100% of the relationship has nothing to do with sex. Yet many men have been conditioned to only see women sexually…so yes, we are then unable to relate on any other level, greatly damaging our ability to have normal healthy relationships, friendships and community. All the while we are being morphed into these scary, selfish monsters that only look to consume women rather than selflessly seeing all women as image-bearers of God, full of the dignity and full humanity that he created them with.

    • This thought goes along with what I also believe to be a issue in church and groups, or even just in society in general. The focus of men only groups or women only groups, even youth groups meant for boys or the girls only. The problem also arises when we do not include everyone of age, gender etc., in social settings and group settings. They set us apart Instead of bringing unity together one in all, hand in hand, brothers and sisters helping and learning and sharing together the way we are all created to be, relationships and intimacy (non sexual) with one another.

  2. Great article Noah. It is funny, I am about to talk about lust at a christian high school, and I was going to use the title: “Lust: A Battle to Fight”…I guess great minds think alike :). I caught guys looking at my wife at Wal-Mart a couple of years ago…they didn’t know that her husband was looking at them while they were looking at her. As her husband I felt robbed and cheated that they would take the image of my wife and, as you put it, dehumanize her. I realize that this is how God must feel when we look at women that are not our wives…He says “Don’t look at her that way…that’s my daughter.”

    • Thanks a lot John. Yeah it definitely puts sexual sin into sobering reality when it’s happening to us, i.e. our wives or daughters. I will occasionally listen to the “Dan Patrick Show” on sports radio. The guy is in his 60s and speaks lustfully about Sports Illustrated swimsuit models who are 20 years old, and this is seen as normal in our culture. But then on the very same note, I know he is married and has several daughters. I guarantee he wouldn’t let people talk about his daughters the way he does these swimsuit models, and why? Because his daughters are actual humans to him, whereas the swimsuit models are only objects. Then you boil that down even further and it’s pretty scary the condition of our souls as men that that type of lusting does to us. I criticize Dan Patrick because he’s a national voice and is talking about this stuff publicly, but it’s no different for us. Just like those guys lusting over your wife and you can see right through that into the monster-like mentality of consuming a human as an object, rather than seeing them as the full human God created them to be. Meanwhile, just like you say, every woman is God’s daughter created in his image, but instead of us seeing them that way, we consume and consume and consume! Praise God the conviction of his Holy Spirit to us to stop this destructive sin (destructive to these women and to our own hearts), and praise Him for giving us healing and a path to wholeness where we are no longer conditioned to view women this way.

  3. Thank you for writing this article. I do agree wholeheartidly with all you say here. I’m so glad there are men that see us women as God’s daughters, and not as objects. I only hope more men will see us this way, more men will set examples, and mentor. I have two daughters and I don’t want them to objectified by some guy that is ignorant to the truth. I’m glad you are protective of your family. Stay that way. I love what Covenent Eye is doing for the men and even women. Keep up the good work! The comment left by John was so profound. In his last sentence he says he realized that’s how God must feel when men look at women other than their wives…”He says, “Don’t look at her that way, that’s my daughter.” I abosultly love that!! That speaks so loud!! Thank you for that insight.

    • Thanks a lot Ashley. I have a 3-year-old and a 1-year-old daughter and I think about this a lot as well, especially with how innocent my girls are at the ages they are. It shows what sin actually does to a man’s mind in comparison to how God designed us to view one another. Thank you for the encouragement. Keep praying for your daughters and pray for the men that they will date and potentially marry.

  4. I appreciate your comment on the Dan Patrick Show. As a wife of a husband who is an avid sports nut and fantasy team owner of practically every sport out there, he listens to and watches multiple sports shows every day. Those shows disgust me because of the way they talk about women. From the “bracketology of hot girls” during basketball season to the swimsuit issue to the football cheerleader calendars. When I wake up in the morning, it’s the first thing I hear! And the websites are even worse, they all have links to porn sites, erection pills, and chat rooms. Can’t a guy just listen to sports without being pulled into an affair? Unfortunatley, men just can’t avoid the visuals when trying to simply listen and read about sports. It’s a shame because I’m sure men are more than just hormones that crave women, but you are just as conditioned that this is what is “normal” because that is what is fed to you. I believe it desensitizes men and helps create that consumer mentality. I wish there was a Christian Sports Network! Or at least an honorable one.

    • I agree. What could be done about this? The national center of sexual exploration ncose.org might could help with laws regarding this issue. What major media is it flowing from?

    • Absolutely. I think it was David Powlison who asked the question this way: “Are we more fundamentally deprived or fundamentally depraved?” In the end, we have to understand that no matter how we have been wounded by the world (and many of us have been deeply wounded), our depravity is our gravest problem.

  5. Yes. I really don’t like how many claim that porn doesn’t cause objectification even though that’s literally the entire point of it.

  6. This is truly a great post. You explained it very well. Woman are not an object they also have feelings, anxieties, likes and dislike. after watching adult movies what we think about womens is an object,for use and thow. This is the cause of movies. Thanks for this post.
    Keep sharing this type of posts.

  7. How do you think women objectify men? I have found myself asking this over the past few weeks! What is a beautiful example of non objectification of the opposite sex? Do you know of any lovely articles, books, scriptures that would share truth on this matter for us ladies? May the Lord graciously change us and make us more like Jesus, for His glory!

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