Your Brain on Porn

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Watching just 5 hours of porn has been proven to significantly change people's sexual beliefs and attitudes. Find out 5 distinct ways that porn warps your brain, as well as 5 biblical ways to renew your mind and find freedom.

14 thoughts on “Girls Hooked on Porn: Battle Notes from a Weathered Fighter

  1. You are a hero. =) You are so brave to speak out about your problem; I’m positive that God is using you to help others (like me) overcome the bonds of sexual addiction. I have a very similar story to yours, being introduced to sexual images at an early age… images that I didn’t understand and didn’t know how to process what I was feeling. As a woman its not okay to talk about the fact that we have sexual addictions, that’s a “man’s problem,” and we are viewed as being extra “odd or dirty somehow,” for facing the very same problems that our male counterparts have. Its so nice to know that I’m not alone. You look empowered in that video; you shined a light on your sin and you’re not letting it control your life anymore. I hope to be like you someday!

    • Hope, thank you so much for your kind comment. I am only brave because God has granted me boldness. Without Him, I would still be held in bondage. I am so grateful that you are able to see His light in me and that in His freedom I am truly free. I am praying that you find many around you who can walk alongside you in your journey. You are surely not alone, there are so many out there that just need to hear a voice that says, “You are not alone”. You might still be struggling, but you can be that light and voice, too!

  2. Thank you so much for writing this. So many things in this article are exactly how I feel. You are an inspiration to me & your story gives me hope. Like you said, we aren’t cured, we’re set free and it will always be a daily battle to stay pure.

    • And you know, Lynn, we’re always loved with an everlasting love, even in the battle. I think so much about the verse in Romans that says “the kindness of God leads us to repentance.” No matter what it is, no matter what we’ve done, God’s love is always, always there. Blessings, Kay

    • Lynn,
      Yes, it is absolutely a daily battle. As much as I would love to say that I am cured from this, I am not. I fight against it everyday. Some days are easier than others. Continue seeking out God’s grace in each and every day. It’s never about the amount of days we stay away, but the strength and courage that we gain each time that we seek God amidst temptation and refuge to give in. I am so thankful that my story was able to shed some hope, I hope that you can be a hope-bringer as well!

  3. Thank you for being obedient in sharing your testimony with others. You have no idea how far-reaching your words have been and will continue to be. God has made you victorious and I’d love to be as open and vulnerable someday as you are. Thanks again!

  4. It’s really nice to know that it’s not just guys who have this problem. As a guy, I would rather talk to a woman about porn addiction than another dude friend. I feel like my dude friends wouldn’t understand my problem, or they would just say “how is that a problem”? And offer zero help or support.

    • You’re right – a lot of guys may not see porn as a problem, so picking an accountability partner can be very tough! If you’re having a hard time finding one, check out this blog post.

      We generally recommend finding an accountability partner of the same gender for a couple of reasons. First, and I’m going to be a little gender-stereotyping here, men and women often approach life differently. Men are better at speaking and hearing tough love, and women are better at speaking and hearing compassion. Men may be sucked in by porn’s visual effect; women may be sucked in for more emotional reasons.

      Second, male-female accountability may be asking for trouble. Ideally, a strong accountability relationship reaches a certain level of intimacy, and especially if both people are young and unmarried, this can lead to confusion about the status of the relationship, with one person misreading the attention as romantic interest. In fact, when a husband is struggling with porn, we don’t even recommend that the wife is the sole accountability partner; she may read slip-ups as personal insults, and lash out in anger and hurt as opposed to the tough love provided by another guy.

      There may be limited circumstances where male-female accountability relationships work, but think through it prayerfully and carefully before you proceed.

  5. Being married for 27 years..and a christian for. Basically my entire life. Apart from rebellious youth I find myself indulge in online affairs. Not yet able to trust any person in my church. But trusting God and with the help of covenant eyes to becoming pure once again.

    • Hey Heidi, Thanks for being open and vulnerable here. I think it’s pretty hard to work yourself out of stuff like this without support. And you’d know best if your church is a safe place or not–lots of churches just aren’t, unfortunately. Some are! But there are other places to turn for support, like the American Association of Christian Counselors, which has lots of different counselors in tons of places. Even when you have the very best of intentions, it’s hard to leave long-term habits behind. Usually there’s a fair number of setbacks on the road to recovery, and it’s just good to have support while you’re picking yourself back up every time. Blessings, Kay

  6. Thank you everyone for your kind words – it is women like you that gave me the motivation to be bold about my story. As women, our stories are so important to this generation as porn becomes more of a problem for both genders. Let your voice be heard and remember that there are so many of us who are just waiting to surround you with love and hope!

  7. The mental images that still pop up after trying to quit porn can be unexpected and invasive. Another way evil keeps it’s foot in the door. I prayed over those people and images. Particularly the women. I prayed for them that they would be set free from the bondage and slavery they are under. They are our sisters and brothers in Christ. I truly believe praying for them, their hurts and pain helped me to see this addiction in a different light. It helped me see the bigger spiritual battle in this new age slavery epidemic. It also helped me to not have as many images popping into my head.

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