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Hypofrontality: How Using Porn Destroys Your Willpower

Last Updated: March 29, 2023

Hypofrontality isn’t a word you see every day—but it might hold the secret to why you keep looking at porn.

Neuroscience now knows that willpower is a function of the prefrontal lobes of the brain. Scientific studies have also confirmed that using porn over and over actually reshapes these areas of the brain, literally eroding our willpower and our moral compass.

Neuroscientists call this hypofrontality. Hypofrontality is a state in which there is decreased blood flow to the prefrontal lobes of the brain. Hypofrontality is observed in schizophrenia patients and is also observed in all manner of addictions.

What Is Hypofrontality?

In his ebook, The Porn Circuit, Sam Black explains what hypofrontality is for the porn viewer.

“Compulsiveness is a good descriptor of hypofrontality. Many porn users feel focused on getting to porn and masturbating even when a big part of them is saying, ‘Don’t do this.’ Even when negative consequences seem imminent, impulse control is too weak to battle the cravings.”

The porn-addicted brain has trouble thinking logically. When impulses and desires come from the midbrain, instead of being moderated, the brain feels these desires as compelling needs. The prefrontal region is supposed to be able to weigh consequences and situations and judiciously shut down cravings, but hypofrontality means the addict’s ability to do this is impaired.

To the addict, when the craving for porn surfaces, their whole body gears up for action. As unhindered hormones are released and neurotransmitters fire, the craving consumes them. The heart begins to race, blood pressure rises, and the addict is consumed by a single thought: “Just one more time.”

What Causes Hypofrontality?

Compared to other creatures on earth, human beings have a very well developed prefrontal region. When our prefrontal lobes are working properly, we have “executive control” of the processes going on in our brains. It is where we do our abstract thinking, make goals, solve problems, regulate behavior, and where we suppress emotions, impulses, and urges.

But the more one masturbates to porn, the more dopamine is released in the brain. Eventually dopamine receptors and signals in the brain fatigue, leaving the viewer wanting more but unable to reach a level of satisfaction. The viewer becomes numb to things once considered pleasurable. “To escape this desensitization, people, and men especially, expand their pornographic tastes to more novel stimuli,” Black writes. This leads, again, to more fatigue.

Desensitization impacts the prefrontal cortex. As dopamine receptors decline in the brain, so do the amount of neural cells in the prefrontal lobes.

How Do You Cure Hypofrontality?

To bring the prefrontal lobes back into working order, a two-pronged attack is needed: (1) the old neural pathways must be starved, and (2) new neural pathways must be built and fed, increasing dopamine levels in a way that build up the prefrontal cortex.

1. Starve: Stop All Pornography and Fantasy

Don’t give into the urge to look at porn. As the prefrontal lobes are given plenty of time to rest, executive control will be strengthened over time.

This advice feels to many like a catch-22. “You tell me I’ve killed my willpower by looking at porn. So now the way to increase my willpower is by willing myself not to look at porn. How does that work?” Isn’t that like telling the alcoholic to “just stop it”?

The big difference between “just stop it” and a conscious effort to rewire your brain is this: The man being told to “just stop it” has no hope that the cravings will ever be different. When he hears “just stop it,” he hears, “Live with these intense cravings the rest of your life and never give into them.” To the addict, porn is life. Telling him to stop is like telling him to die.

However, informed by the process of how our brains can change, the addict can avoid porn and fantasy knowing that real change is possible. Hypofrontality can be cured. Change is built into the very fabric of our brains. Change is exactly what our brains are designed to do. When this person abstains from porn, he thinks, “Okay, this really stinks for now. I feel terrible. But I will not always feel this way. In fact, I aim to reclaim my brain so I can experience real, lasting pleasure again.”

Related: How to Quit Porn–6 Essential Steps

Here are some helpful tips for avoiding pornography:

  • Redirection – When you feel the urge, get into the habit of distracting yourself with another activity that you can start immediately. This can be as simple as a breathing exercise or journaling your thoughts. It can be as involved as making a meal or going for a jog. It will be difficult to do, but each time you choose to redirect, your brain will build new neural circuits.
  • Avoid All External Triggers – Remember, you’ve carved a grand-canyon-sized gorge of neural circuits in your mind. It is easy for everyday experiences to become triggers. If the trigger is a specific channel on TV, refuse to visit that channel. If the trigger is a type of person you see walking down the street, choose to bounce your eyes away from that person. Learn what your triggers are and for the first several weeks or months, completely avoid them—no exceptions.
  • Avoid Internal Triggers – External triggers are things you experience in the world. Internal triggers are emotions or states of mind. For some, when they feel lonely, this has become a trigger for porn. Porn has become their release valve to make themselves feel good. Identify what your internal triggers are (loneliness, boredom, exhaustion, anger, etc.), and create an escape plan when these emotions pop up. Call a friend. Journal your thoughts. Do something creative.
  • Avoid SUDs – “Seemingly Unimportant Decisions.” These are the rationalizations you say to yourself to get you one step closer to porn. “I’m just going to see what’s on TV.” “I’m just going to check my e-mail.” “I’m just going to get on Facebook.” Get honest with yourself and learn what your SUDs are. Be ruthless against these rationalizations.
  • Avoid Inactivity – Fill up your social calendar to the brim. Refuse to give yourself an open window.
  • Finish the Fantasy – When the thought of looking at porn enters your mind, immediately finish the fantasy: imagine yourself having just orgasmed and the feeling of shame, guilt, or disgust you feel. Vividly experience the emotions.
  • Destroy Fantasies – As a fantasy or thought enters your mind, picture the image being eliminated. Draw a red X over it. Smash it with a hammer. Put it through the shredder. Flush it down the nastiest looking toilet you’ve ever seen.

2. Feed: Build Up Your Brain

Much like a muscle, the more you exercise the prefrontal cortex, the stronger it becomes. The goal is to engage in new habits that will increase your dopamine and dopamine receptors.

Related: Hobbies and Habits

Change Is Gradual, But It Will Come

Summarizing these above two points, Sam Black writes in The Porn Circuit:

Whatever rewarding activity is pursued, it needs to be an activity that is reoccurring. Building new rewarding neural pathways requires time and ongoing repetition…

Neurons that fire together wire together. Repeating a pleasurable activity instead of the compulsive activity, such as porn use, forms a new circuit that is gradually reinforced instead of the compulsion.

Neurons that fire apart wire apart. When a person refuses to act on a compulsion, like porn and masturbation, it weakens the link between the activity and the idea that it will provide relief.

The prefrontal cortex is one of the things that makes us unique from other creatures on earth. By reclaiming it we are reclaiming more than our willpower. We are reclaiming our humanity.

Comments on: Hypofrontality: How Using Porn Destroys Your Willpower
  1. Great article! After 30 years of creating a “grand-canyon-sized gorge” in my brain, God helped me retrain my brain and smooth out those deep ruts I created. I now work with men to help them do the same and have seen great success. You have given some tremendous advice for men. I especially like your “SUDs” definition. Keep up the good work!

    • Todd Hurd

      Can anyone tell me if it is possible to rid my screen of the most annoying buttons for Facebook, Twitter, G+, P4, email and print. I can hardly read the article with this stuck in the way.

    • Lisa Eldred

      Hi Todd, sorry about that! I’ll pass your comment on to our web developers so we can fix the issue.

    • Excellent In the later part of my Fter my retirement left alone I became an addict.Your enlightening article saved me and what is said is 100%true.

    • kevin

      I am looking forward to reading this ebook. I started self gratification at age 8. Porn addiction started AFTER my conversion to jesus. When i was 19. Been a very long. Up and down road. I am now 48. To me it is like a heroin addiction. Pray for me.

    • Basit Ali

      Does not know where you are….who you are…..but thanks friend.ALLAH bless you

    • Jake

      Hey I was wondering how you help man with this and what programs you can direct me to. I am looking for a serious change in my life and need help from someone who has done it. Thanks

    • Jake

      Thank you for this article. What you have ascribed here represents the culmination of several signs the universe (inner and outer) has shown me over the past couple months or so, and your work was the powerful jolt of inspiration I needed to make a stand to cut out porn. Technology, the planet, and all of it’s wonderful creatures (including humans) are in all in the midst of a delicate dance right now, and I believe we will need all of the prefrontal cortex function we can muster to make this relationship work between Mother Earth, Lady Universe, and our human race. Certainly, reverting back to the ancestral survival impulses expressed by Neanderthals and beings past is not the answer. Thank you so much for your concise, informative, and moving work, and I look forward to reading more offerings of yours in the future.
      Danka Danka!

    • Matt

      Thank you for this article. This explains very much.

      Please let me share my story. I am 32 now, with two small boys and happily married.

      At the age of 17 I found online porn. Instantly hooked and addicted. I spent 15 years and a half years craving it, thinking about it all the time, and planning my porn time daily. Somehow I managed to still hold a job and get married. I had to do it daily, usually a few times a day, for hours at a time.

      Friends, this will destroy a marriage like no other. My wife knew of my former porn habits, but I was lying to her and she did not know I was still looking at it even after having our first son.

      I tried everything to quit under my own will-power. I sometimes could go a week here, a week there… but it just came roaring back and when that porn takes root in your mind, and you dwell on it, it infects your soul and you simply WILL do it again in the very near future.

      Friends, please listen. I have been SET FREE from porn completely now for over 6 months. One I truly turned it over to Jesus Christ, who died for the sins of everyone who ever lived, and confessed my sinfulness and desires to live HIS way, not mine, He delivered me.

      Listen, I do not have a desire for porn. I am set free, I do not desire it! Jesus took away my desire for porn and all lust in general.

      It’s very simple men. Confess your sin to Jesus. Say “Lord God I confess to you that my love for porn is sinful. It is adultery in the heart, and fornication. Please forgive me.”

      He WILL forgive you and give you the power of His spirit to overcome this addiction that dominates you.

      I’ve been there, I lived in it. There is no hope in nothing other than Jesus, friends. I tried it all. Open up the Bible and read for yourselves what Jesus says about it all.

      Start with the book of John and go from there.

      God bless! My heart goes out to all you who battle this garbage. Be set free in the name of Jesus. Your choice. Humble yourself and believe.

    • Mark Byars

      Thank you

    • Daniel

      Thanks for the ammunition.

  2. Rob

    Thanks for posting this article and for all the great stuff you guys regularly post! I direct anyone I counsel about porn addiction straight to this blog. This information about the neuroscience of addiction is a huge breakthrough, even though it’s nothing really new, having an understanding of the brain chemistry and the HOPE that there can be change is a powerful catalyst. I thank God for His work in my life and for YOU, Covenant Eyes!

    • You’re welcome, Rob. Hope these articles are helpful the readers you sent our way!

    • Johnnie

      Thanks for sharing, I am a former crack addict and I am currently addicted to porn. The symptoms are the same. I currently out of town for my job. It’s is 9:43 pm during this time I would usually would be watching porn. But I am so glad I found this site it have helped me a lot. I have made a commitment to start reading the Bible more and stay in fellowship with God more I appreciate your comments and the others. Please keep me in you prayers. Thanks.

    • NAUJ

      Mine is like Kevin’s… (allow me brother)

      “kevin February 21, 2016 at 5:09 pm

      I am looking forward to reading this ebook. I started self gratification at age 8. Porn addiction started AFTER my conversion to jesus. When i was 19. Been a very long. Up and down road. I am now 48. To me it is like a heroin addiction. Pray for me.”

      I believe that having Jesus as your Lord and saviour, we will be more subjected to greater temptations and testings….
      I thought it is as simple as that but the more you refuse the more the cravings are getting stronger.
      @ 4th grade i begun to experience masturbating, and by hearing from friends that it is a very normal thing to do , i begun to do it frequently, right after my first time i knew it was wrong but still did it because i know Jesus would forgive me from all my sins…… and i knew that that kind of thinking is horribly wrong. . And the thought is still haunting me untill now… the SIN gets worst after the first time i watched porn maybe at the age of 14 or 15 and i am 24 now… i begun searching for ways on stopping this addiction … these might be my third time… i thought i would be free the second time that i tried.. i havnt watched porn and masturbated for a month or weeks… but failed to be consistent on my battle …. deep down i know that satan is the master of deceiption but it seems to me that i am letting my self to be decieved…. this article opened my eyes from a lot of things… please pray for me as I pray for all of us…. that we might pray without ceasing and ask the lords guidance every second of our lives…

  3. David

    Awesome information. I am ready to start practicing these things. I am grateful that God is using you to help His people live in the freedom He bought for us.

  4. jim

    Thanks for the timely article. With the start of Lent tomorrow I hope it keeps me focused on overcoming this addiction. Thanks !

  5. Adam

    Great article, and good information. However the only thing you do not address(and I have never heard this addressed) is when you say that over time your brains desire for porn will end. I do not doubt this to be true. However the problem is for those of us who are single, and don’t believe in Sex till marriage. I myself am a 27 yo virgin. You say there is something better at the end of thes struggles, when a porn addiction is overcome. For those of us who have no other outlet, there really isn’t. I remember back in the day before I Used porn and masturbated, I was a very angry upset guy. When you have these “urges” and you have no way to deal with them, turning to “visual aids” really is the only other option. I have got off porn before(for 2 years) and to be honest, I hated it. Always wanting to do something you can not do(talking about sex). That is not cool. That is one area in which God has done men a major disservice. Make you want to do something every day, and provide basically no way to deal with it….anyway I didn’t mean to rant.
    the big question here is, yeah I could stop, I have done it before, but if that is the only way to make these “urges” go away, albeit only temporary, why should I stop?

    • Lisa Eldred

      Your position is understandable. However, even for virgins (and perhaps especially for virgins), something better awaits those who abstain. More specifically, just because you’re 27 and single doesn’t mean you’ll always be single. The real question is, do you care more about setting yourself up for a good marriage from the get-go, or do you care more about immediate gratification and personal happiness? Because if you care more about your immediate personal happiness and not the happiness of your marriage, by all means, keep using porn, and don’t bring a woman into your own life. But if you truly want to get married, then for your future wife’s sake, stop right now.

      Here’s just an off-the-cuff bullet list of what you’re bringing into your marriage by your continued use of porn:

      • Thousands of women who are airbrushed, dyed, and otherwise made up to be hotter than your wife.
      • A brain that’s hardwired to believe that variety is better than monogamy.
      • A high probability of erectile dysfunction.
      • A high probability of causing your wife extreme distress (read this post, and especially the comments from devastated wives…and I could find you hundreds of other examples).

      The first three points in that list especially all add up to the fact that marriage does not solve your sexual “needs,” thereby leading to the fourth point. In fact, your first experience of intercourse will most likely be awkward and possibly outright painful. Your wife will have her own needs and desires and emotional issues. So don’t believe for an instant that getting married will eliminate the desire to watch porn. (Read a blog post about that here.)

      I also want to address your comment that you feel that God has done a major disservice to men. From this aside, I am going to assume that you are a brother in Christ, and as your sister in Christ, I feel I must exhort you to go meditate for a while on 1 Corinthians, especially chapters 6 and 7 (on sexual temptation, singleness, and marriage), and on 1 Corinthians 10:13, where it says, “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” Porn is nothing if not “common to man.” The real problem is that you’ve come to the (understandable) conclusion that porn is the way of escape from your anger and bitterness, when in reality it is the sin. It’s adultery against a woman you haven’t met yet (Matthew 5:28).

      To wrap these thoughts up, I’m going to quote Donny Pauling, a former porn producer for Playboy. (Check back in June; you’ll be able to read a full interview with him in our upcoming e-book, The Hardcore Truth.) Here’s what he told a high school kid about porn:

      I said, “Let me ask you this: if you had a woman in your life right now, would you fight for her?” And he sticks his chest out and says, “Of course I would.” I say, “What if two years from now, you meet the woman of your dreams, and you can say, ‘I’ve been fighting the battle of my life for you, and I didn’t even know you yet.'” He asks, “What are you talking about?” I was like, “Say no to these women that are throwing themselves at you. Be willing to fight for her even when she is not willing to fight for herself. That’s what a man does. These women that are throwing themselves at you are putting themselves on a screen – in this case, with porn – they are not fighting for themselves. What is gentlemanly about giving in and just using them?”

  6. Adam

    Thanks for the reply Lisa! A lot of what you have said does make sense. I do realize that although I am single now, that may not always be the case. The main statement I still have though after reading your reply is in regards to your statement about temptation and God providing escape. That is very true. However I was not referring to temptation, but to the overall sex drive. I realize this a common issue, virtually every guy struggles with. God for some reason decided to instill such desires in us, then decided to make it almost impossible to deal with it(without sinning of course, the way women are today, there is no lack of it for the single guy, if you really wanted to go down that road) I mean instill such an urge that begins around 14(earlier or later, depending on the guy) but say nope, cant help yourself through this, you have to wait till a wife comes around(if you ever get to that point). I mean really?? How is that good? I have often prayed to God to take away the sex drive, but it seems that prayer falls on deaf ears(I mean no disrespect). I don’t know, it really has shaken my faith in the whole church thing(don’t get me wrong, I still believe in Jesus, and he is my personal Saviour) I am at the point now where I am really reconsidering the Idea of waiting till marriage, its out there, why not take some before you are too old to really enjoy it??

    • Lisa Eldred

      I’ll certainly grant you that it’s rough, especially as we’ve made a cultural shift towards delayed marriage. Given our culture’s general tendency to glorify the act of sex, it must be especially difficult to be a single guy who’s patiently waiting.

      So why hold out? The short answer is that God commanded it. Marriage, and therefore sexual intimacy, is meant to be a picture of how Christ loved the church (Eph. 5:25-27). It’s supposed to be faithful and sacrificial, as Christ himself is faithful and sacrificial.

      We are also called members of Christ, and “shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them to a prostitute” (1 Cor. 6:15)? (Even if you’re not paying for sex, out of wedlock it’s effectively the same thing in God’s eyes.) Remember, in marriage through intercourse, “the two shall become one flesh” (vs. 16). This is backed up by science, for the record; neurochemicals like Oxytocin are triggered through physical intimacy, causing sexual partners to bond through each other. If a husband and wife only ever bond with each other sexually, their bond should only increase over time. If you walk into marriage already bonded to another, it won’t be doing your marriage any favors. (Check out The Porn Circuit for more information about the chemical side of things; it’s porn-specific, but it contrasts it to what intimacy should be.)

      So that’s at least part of the reason why God gave you a sex drive and is still telling you “wait.” The next question is “How?” I’m going to list just a ton of (mostly stream-of-consciousness) ideas, both about singleness in general and to help you rule over your sex drive instead of letting it rule over you. I apologize in advance; I know some of them will come across as trite or cliche. Please know that I’m listing even the trite-sounding ones out of a genuine concern for you as my brother in Christ.

      1. Remember that Jesus and (probably) Paul both died as single virgins. God’s not asking you to do something he himself didn’t do. (As for Paul, some scholars speculate that he may have actually been a widower, but regardless, he lived for the latter half of his wife without sexual intimacy.)

      2. Meditate on the fact that Paul describes singleness as an enviable state. Are there things you can do as a single that you wouldn’t be able to do as easily if you were married? Think both service and pleasure: you can volunteer more in churches or at soup kitchens, but you can also spontaneously decide to go out of town for the weekend, or pick up a more time-consuming hobby, or buy, gut, and rebuild a house, or whatever you like to do.

      3. Consider online dating, if you haven’t already. Paul tells people who can’t control their sex drives to get married, so start actively pursuing marriage, if you haven’t already. There’s no guarantee you’ll find “the one” even then, but online dating will at least broaden the pool. (Oh, and by the way, many Christian girls are taught to wait for the guy to make the first move, so don’t assume that if a young woman finds you attractive, she’ll approach you.)

      4. Find someone to be a mentor or accountability partner. I recommend an older single male from your church – someone who has been in your shoes for a longer time, and who can help you deal with various issues.

      5. Differentiate between sinful lust and the godly desire for intimacy with a wife. When you are interested in a single young woman, are you just thinking about how attractive she is, or are you more interested in getting to know her as a human being who you may want to be with “in sickness and in health”? The latter is a godly desire. The former may need repentance.

      6. Retrain yourself in how you think about women. This is especially true if your first thought about women is how they look. It may be as simple as forcing yourself to follow up the thought of “Man, she’s hot! I wonder if she’s single” with “I wonder what kind of person God made her to be. What are her interests and hobbies? Is there anything going on in her life that I should pray for?” (By the way, you should do this any time you evaluate a woman by her looks first, whether beautiful or ugly.) Whatever you do, the idea is to make sure you’re thinking of her not as a sexual being, but as a human being with her own life, created in the image of God.

      7. Remember that sex and marriage doesn’t solve anything. TV and movies are preoccupied with telling us that all we need is to get laid and all our emotional issues will go away. In reality, marriage is two sinners bringing their own problems into one family unit. Additionally, sex can actually be very painful! Some dear friends of mine were unable to have sex for the first year or two of their marriage because whenever they tried, the wife was caused extreme pain. They built intimacy in other ways and eventually found a medical solution, but it distinctly put a strain on their brand new marriage. So don’t buy into the lie that sex will fix all your problems.

      8. Following that, remember that even once you have a wife, marriage (and the sex therein) may be temporary. Many people become single again for many reasons (widowhood, divorce, physical injury, illness).

      9. Consider going on a media fast, or being more selective about the media you consume. I’m not even talking about just porn here. Shows like the recently-ended “How I Met Your Mother” reinforce the lie that sex solves everything. Ask yourself whenever you go to watch a movie or TV show or play a video game or read a book, “What is this telling me about sex and relationships? Is that lie at the forefront?” If it is, maybe you shouldn’t watch/play/read it. (I’m not saying that you should only watch/play/read Christian stuff. Just be selective. For example, The Avengers is comparatively clean; even the sexualized Black Widow is portrayed as a well-rounded human being.)

      10. Re-tool your prayers. Sexuality is a biological function, as you yourself mention; praying to remove your sex drive is sort of like praying that your hair will never turn gray. Rather than praying for that, pray for some of the struggles that may be leading to you having more overwhelming sexual urges. Is loneliness a contributing factor? Or maybe it’s your general anger or bitterness? Ask God for help controlling the sin, not the result. (On a personal note, about four years ago I started praying for God to deal with bitterness in my own life. While I can’t say it’s completely gone, through various situations over the years and especially an accountability relationship with a good friend who kept singing and quoting scripture at me, my bitterness has been reduced.)

      11. Consider seeking counseling. You mentioned being an angry, upset man. I don’t know anything about your life to truly make this judgement call, so take it with a grain of salt, but is there some overwhelming cause to this anger that might require professional assistance, like a childhood trauma?

      Like I said, that was a whole lot of train-of-thought. Hopefully at least something in there provided you with help and encouragement.

    • Lisa Eldred

      As a side note, about five minutes after posting my response, I happened to stumble across this open letter to male virgins. You might want to give it a read.

    • Paul

      Lisa is telling you like it is, I just want to add something to think about. Listen Adam, God loves YOU, and He gave his one and only son, Jesus Christ, to die for YOU on a cross AND He rose to life again! Understand, Jesus is ALIVE today, this is not a fairy tale, He loves you and is today setting at the right hand of the Father ever interceding for us. I am old enough to be your grandpa but hear me, I was molested at age 12 which introduced me to masturbation, I was completely clueless about sex and thankfully, there were only 4 incidents. The first incident happened inside the Church I attended. I kept this a secret which is what sin does to us, fear raises its ugly head and we live in secrecy, porn will do the same. My wife of over 30 years is who I told first. She is an angel and if I have ever experienced the love and grace of Jesus, it has been through her. I have struggled with masturbation which alone will lead to viewing porn. I loved the lesson today, it reminded me of a story I once heard. There is two dogs living within you, a wicked dog and a good dog, which one is going to LIVE? The one you FEED the most! Your 27, do not give in to urges that are selfish and will grow into an animal you cannot control. Stay in God’s word, meditate on it and study His word, and please stay in a Bible believing Church and allow the Holy Spirit to reveal God’s love and His Grace which is sufficient for you. Grace is unmerited favor, you cannot earn it, you cannot do your list of Christian things to get God’s favor. Always remember (even memorize) his word that says in 2 Corinthians 12:9 “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in YOUR weakness.” God bless you Adam, don’t give in, don’t give out, and don’t give up!! Make Jesus your priority and ask Him for help, trust His leading and prompting. Last, I have Covenant Eyes on my PC, if you don’t, get it.

  7. Derek

    Great article. I am beginning my journey from abstaining, and the early going is pretty rough. I am having a hard time concentrating and keeping myself on task. I’ve had addictive behavioral problems my whole life, and I am finally attacking it head on. It’s scary to live on without your coping mechanism, but it is possible. One day at a time…

    • Hi Derek,

      Yes, any time we are quitting a deeply engrained habit it will be difficult—especially one as “rewarding” as this is. You’ve really hit the nail on the head when you call it your “coping mechanism.” You recognize that porn is your drug of choice. The underlying problem is what you need to address more than anything. Find the sources of your stress and pain, and then find out how you can rush to new wholesome sources to cope. You will be better for it.

  8. Celeste

    I came across this through someone else’s Facebook. I chose to read this because for years I just haven’t been able to shake the urge to watch porn. Something I really liked is to channel when the urge comes up to think of the guilt you feel afterwards. Wow did that hit home. I have felt such guilt and I have prayed and tried to understand what’s going on. I am really going to use the tools you have given. I have since I can remember (around kindergarden) had the urge just to masturbate and I believe that’s because of something that happened as a child. This has lead me to start looking at porn around grade school. I have lead a seemingly normal life I didn’t drink until 21 did go to clubs but for the most part always have been the one to keep others out of trouble. But that doesn’t mean I haven’t made bad choices either. So I wouldn’t say my moral compass is way off but I want to get my mind healthy again. Thank you and wish me luck.

    • Thanks. I hope this helps!

    • Kay Bruner

      Hey Celeste, thanks for being so real. It sounds to me like you could use some support as you work through this–that’s even better than luck! I like to recommend the American Association of Christian Counselors website as a place to check for counselors in your area. Blessings on your journey–Kay

  9. Switch

    Thank you for this article. I was looking for help, trying to find a way to overcome this pathetic habit and juvenile existence, and your words have helped. Thank you.

  10. Paul

    thank God for this article, I really appreciate these steps. hv tried some of this steps it really help. hope to continue in trying because God has helped me too.

  11. stephen

    mine is worse than i ever thought it has reached to a point whereby i do it every morning it has even affected my rship with my girlfriend and worse than all i have injured my penis inner parts such that a yellowish fluid is oozing from it i dont know what to do coz am feeling weak and useless

    • Lisa Eldred

      Hi Stephen, two major suggestions for you. First, install accountability and filtering software on any computer, smartphone, or tablet that you use, and talk to a mentor about holding you accountable for your online porn use. Second, I suggest taking part in some sort of “no porn” challenge like those run by the NoFap group on Reddit. These men have found that quitting porn and masturbation has actually fixed various sexual dysfunctions.

      Be patient, and be strong! It may take a while, but you can find healing and freedom from this.

  12. agus sudrajat

    Thanks god I found this article, now I now why my porn addict destroy my social live, keep up the good work bro, thank you so much.

  13. Paul Peter

    All I can say is thank you, your articles have helped me once again to get closer to God, I came here during my first days of battling porn and masturbation now after 112 days through this and still going I am proud to say that each point of hardship you will face in this journey is worthwhile.
    My life dramatically changed compared to the life of despair and self guilt 112 days back, now after a very long time of struggling I can finally see a light out of this, God is merciful people if you stop and give him space into your life, I know that “The heart is willing but flesh is weak” but if you have the will and believe then it’s possible.
    Never give up a chance to change your life for the better because the fruits are worth your pain, be patient and pray. All is possible

    • So good to hear, Paul. God is good!

  14. Brandon Becker

    God or no god it’s addiction same like smoking drinking etc …. and masturbating from time to time is normal if you want to keep healthy life sex is not that safe too though if you rely on watching porn and getting off same stuff like drug addict lol

  15. Rodrigo

    Simply an astounding article!! Everything is true and it recalls me the story: You have two wolves inside yourself. One is a good one and the another a bad, they are fighting against each other. which shall win the battle? THE ONE YOU FEED!! :)

  16. Struggle

    Excellent Article. These are all great tools & strategies. I wish something like this article was around earlier in my fight in this struggle. I feel impressed to share strategies I had come up with on my own before I really understood how porn effects the mind. This whole mess of wanting to resist happened just as I was trying to connect with God & change my life so these starting strategies may seem ridiculous but they were effective for me in the early days of the fight before discovering helpful resources, or rather before God lead me to more substantial relationship with him.

    Im 26 & Ive been dealing with this addiction since the 2nd grade. I didnt even start fighting it until 2011, when the wake up call hit me, when something finally made me admit that I have a problem & I need help.

    I read these analogies of 2 dogs or 2 wolves fighting, but Ive come to think of it more like God awakening the man he wants me to be, & that man starting a war with the beast that sin has placed in my heart.

    Now in the beginning I noticed I pretty much gave in to the impulse immediately, so step 1 was to resist the impulse as long as possible before giving in. Sometimes it was 5 min. sometimes an hour or longer. Eventually I got to the point I could resist for a few days at a time or even a whole week before breaking down & watching porn. I adopted the idea that every minute counts in resistance. But I soon discovered that sometimes, hell many times a week or 2 of victory would be followed by what ive come to call the Binge. During the binge I would give in to my impulse at least 2-3 times a day for a week or more before I could get a hold of my self again. At first I was tempted to accept this as how my life would be, 2-3 weeks of freedom, then Binge, repeat until death. But God kept prompting me to go further & keep fighting. So during a Binge I would do anything I could to prevent or reduce the number of times I would give in. So setting goals like only giving in 1-2 times a day, limiting the hours of the day in give in, limiting how many days the binge lasted, limiting the categories of porn I watched, limiting myself to only pictures. Sometimes I would even watch war movies like Terminator & others imagining that the man that God wants me to be as the resistance & porn as the ultimate enemy. I know this is ridiculous but as in any war sometimes you have to do what ever you have to. Also during this time I would go workout for 2+ hours so I would be too sore or tired to give in more then once or hopefully not at all. Other things I tried were, over eating just a little to cause discomfort, eating things that cause me to have gas, going some where out in public to avoid being alone, playing video games, & reading the bible. I did mention that some of these maybe ridiculous right.

    So yes the beginning is rough, & there are times when its still rough as a single man. But as God has become more involved in my life I am able to experience more periods of freedom through him, & while im still struggling & still fall down sometimes I can now say that I have hope to truly become the man that God wants me to be.

    • Thanks for sharing, Struggle.

      The lie that holds us in the binge is the belief that we might as well sin big if we’re going to sin at all; if we’re going to be racked with guilt and shame, we might as well plunge headlong into sin and get the most pleasure out of it.

      We need to reject this lie when we notice it. Paul speaks squarely against this in Romans 6.

  17. Kevin

    Hi, Luke

    Thank you for the must-read article. Very helpful ! As for the mentioned porn-avoiding approach -Destroy Fantasies, in Buddhism, it is termed 白骨觀(Bone View) viewing human bodies as Bone-structured like through X-ray and 不淨觀(Not clean view) viewing human bodies as the combinations of blood, organs and bones. The pictured image is quite disgusting so the erotic fantasy in mind can be abruptly ended. That’s how Buddhist monks eliminate their lust when the desire is way too strong. If interested in this approach, you can Google Image with those two Chinese phrases.

    BTW, if you don’t mind, I would like to translate and share this article with a Chinese Porn-Quitting community where there are over one million registered members struggling to quit it. Of course, your name and the source will be mentioned. Thanks again !!

    • Share away! Very interesting information, for sure.

  18. Danny

    Question: Does the bible condemn pologomy as sin? Abraham had more than many others. NT only says those in leadership in the church shouldn’t but no one else. Reason for the question is that if a man desires to be with more than one woman his he allowed to without his conscience bitten down by religious bible badgers.

    • Great question.

      While there’s some disagreement about this among Christians, here’s my take…

      I would call polygamy a “wisdom” issue, not a “sin” issue. Nowhere does the Bible condemn polygamy outright, but it does show, again and again, how those who engaged in polygamy were caught in unwise traps as a result—even most of the examples of polygamy from various patriarchs and kings are actually negative examples.

      The Law of Moses allowed for polygamy provided certain regulations were met (Exodus 21:10; Deuteronomy 21:15–17; 25:5–10), and in most cases, and compared to some of the risks of widowhood, infertility, or famine, polygamy had (and has) some advantages in specific circumstances. For this reason, when Christian missionaries enter into an area where polygamy is practiced, the proper response is not to tell men to start kicking their 2nd and 3rd and 19th wives to the curb. These are legitimate marriages that ought to be honored.

      That said, the Law of Moses also spoke about the trouble associated with multiple wives (Deuteronomy 17:17)—again, not as a sin issue but a wisdom issue. Accruing multiple wives is often associated with a covetous spirit, and sure enough, those who gathered more and more wives were often men of power who were controlled by all kinds of lusts. Polygamy was often a power-play or a sign of serious discontentment.

      This is one of the reasons why elders and deacons should be “one woman” men (1 Timothy 3)—they set an example for the rest of the church about wise and holy living—an example set for us by our first parents, Adam and Eve (who were a monogamous couple), and Christ and his bride the church (also a monogamous couple).

      I would never counsel a person to take more than one wife because Scripture speaks of lack of wisdom in it. In all of this, also, is one’s culture. If you grow up in a culture that practices monogamy, it would be terribly unloving for a husband to take more than one wife against all his wife’s wishes—that’s a heart issue that definitely touches on the matter of sin.

  19. ChillieWillie

    Not only does porn destroys your willpower it also destroys your personality? Where can I find information to research this subject. It would be nice to know how porn does affect your personality.

  20. Stephen

    thank you for this post. i have been struggling with this for about six years now, i love God, yet its like i just still find myself in thesame circle of sining and repenting. i recently promised God again not to give in to the urge eventually the urge came again…in my struggle, i prayed to God about how i was feeling and then i started googling about a way out of this urge then i saw your is an answer to my prayer because i gained strenght from it to say no. i trust God to help me apply the truth i just got. Thank you and God bless you richly

  21. Shamer

    I like the approach. Thanks for help and I really appreciate ur efforts in this area.

  22. Shamer

    Thanks very helpful. I appreciate ur efforts.

  23. It is good news to know that science gives us an understanding of the decietful heart because previously sexual sinners had to struggled without that information. And that we have an effective method that will overcome sexual sin without true conviction and true repentance. Really?

    • I’m not sure that’s the point of this article, Dr. Schaumburg. As I write in another article on this topic:

      More often than not, when Christians respond negatively to recent developments in neuroscience, the fear is that by dissecting the organ of all our feelings, thoughts, and decisions, we will somehow lose our belief in moral responsibility. If I come to believe that porn has warped my brain, I can eventually say, “I’m not responsible for this problem. My brain made me do it.”

      The field of neuroscience is actually bringing a much older conversation to the foreground, a conversation that has been present in addiction recovery circles for the better part of 80 years: Is addiction a disease?

      Bill Wilson, the founder of Alcoholics Anonymous, was among the first who likened alcoholism to a disease. He didn’t actually believe alcoholism was a disease, but that it was like a disease. It was a pragmatic description: he felt the disease metaphor helped men and women open up about their problems. Once you were in the doors of many AA meetings, however, it was clear that while the problem could be described as a sickness, moral responsibility was never lost. The men and women at AA still felt the moral weight of their decisions.

      Christian counselor Ed Welch points out that the Bible itself uses the disease metaphor when talking about sin. Citing passages like Isaiah 1:5-7 and 53:6, he states that Scripture emphasizes that sin has many things in common with a disease. Like a disease, sin affects our entire being, it is painful, it leads to death, and it is absolutely tragic (Addictions: A Banquet in the Grave, 61).

      However, the Bible never loses sight of moral responsibility. Alcoholism and porn addiction are a lot like diseases—they feel as if we have been taken over by a virus, making us spiral out of control—but it is a voluntary slavery. Dr. Welch calls this the dual nature of sin: “This enlarged perspective indicates that in sin, we are both hopelessly out of control and shrewdly calculating; victimized yet responsible. All sin is simultaneously pitiable slavery and overt rebelliousness or selfishness. This is a paradox, to be sure, but one that is the very essence of all sinful habits.” (Addictions, p.34)

      Just like the Bible, as Christians we can and should speak of slavery to porn as a sickness, but a sickness we have chosen. Disease is a good metaphor for sin, but it is not the only metaphor…

      Sin, at its root, is idolatry in the heart. But just because desires in the heart are at the root of pornography doesn’t mean there aren’t physical consequences. Disease is not just a metaphor for sin. In a very real sense, porn actually makes our brains sick.

      In 1 Corinthians 6:18, Paul writes, “Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.” There is a sense in which sexual sin is unique in the damage it does to the body. Perhaps modern neuroscience is unearthing a significant way in which sexual sin hurts us.

      I’d love to get your thoughts on this!

  24. Waleed Malik

    I can’t even begin to tell you that how much this article has influenced me. The use if neuroscientific explanation is admirable. Finally, after years of struggle,doubt,guilt,shame and regret, I am finally beginning to understand the negative impacts this disgusting habit has on my mentality and also my faith. I can’t repay the favour that you have done to me. I always could feel my heart being blackened by the abundance of my sins. The sexual lust was always eating me up. I didn’t feel pleasure I little joys. I used porn as an escape from the realities of life. But I was never satisfied. Instead, the urge always intensitied after each relapse. The article exactly highlights this aspect.
    I request all of you to pray for my forgiveness. And that may the God gives me the required strength of character to defeat this evil. And all my brothers and sisters abstain from this habit.
    But I am very eager to ask that how long will it take for my brain to return to its former state. I have relapsed so many times and I now am feeling kind if hopeless. If I had a target in my mind , may be it could serve as a motivation that after controlling my urge for a particular peridc of time, the potency of this addiction will decrease ?
    (Pardon my English , it’s not my mother language)

  25. Samuel

    This article is really making an impact on me as I read through it… I became a masturbator at the age of 12 and now am abt 26 years of age, a chronic masturbator.. All these befell me due to my parents divorce, it causes me pain.. On getting into secondary school where I lived in the hostel… My family worries overwhelm me living me wif sleepless night and depression… I got into porn, I thought I had found review, reading porn magazines and images set a path of self, body, mind and soul depression for me… I feel really bad each time I masturbate cos of the emptiness I feel in me.. Now I am determined to stop this addiction and habbit cos Its eating me up.. PLS DIVORCE SOLD NOT ALWAYS BE AN OPTION FOR PROBLEMS IN MARRAIGE.. It ONLY CAUSES PAIN AND RETROGRESSIVENESS FOR THE CHILDREN… I PRAY GOD HELP ME AND ALSO I NEED PRAYERS.. I V FOUND THE ARTICLE ON THIS SITE OF BENEFIT AND AM HAPPY COMING ACROSS THIS SITE

  26. tom

    Thank you , really.

  27. i wish to remain anonymous

    Dear Luke,

    Thank you for giving us hope that our neural systems can improve over time if we make conscious steps to re-direct ourselves.

  28. i wish to remain anonymous


    Our neural systems can improve over time, can’t they? Is there an age or a stage where there is no getting better, and where sin has made such a bruising of the heart that the heart is totally sinful?

    • Chris McKenna

      Hello, I have to believe that there is no neural pit too deep for God. Sin does not give up ground in this area easily. You can research as I could to know more about the issue from a scientific perspective. Regardless of the age, neurons that fire together start to wire together. The brain is plastic throughout our lives (formable). So, no, I do not believe there is an age or stage where there is no getting better.

  29. Anonymous

    It seems as though my comment was either deleted or not approved?

    • Chris McKenna

      Hello, I don’t see any deleted comments on the post. I’m sorry if that happened.

  30. Anonymous

    Dear Luke and Chris,

    Where can we find out more details about how our cells and neurons and frontal lobes can improve over time? How long does it usually take for cells to regenerate?


    • Chris McKenna

      Hi, Anonymous – the brain is complex and unique in each individual. My personal experience with rewiring my brain through training and new habits is going to be different from the next person. Have you read anything by Dr. William Struthers? He also has some talks on YouTube. If YouTube isn’t a trigger for any temptations, then I would suggest watching some of his talks because he’s brilliant with explaining the brain science.

      Peace, Chris

  31. Anonymous

    Thank you Chris. I would like to share the following website warning for those who have seriously and dangerously fallen. It doesn’t talk about brain science, but it talks about repentance and what men must do to repent, and what might happen to men as a result of their behavior.

    • Chris McKenna

      Hi, was there a link that you wanted to include?

  32. Xaverius Vic

    Thankyou so much!! this really helps me. :D

  33. Douglas Naylor

    Why does following a link to CCEF mentioned here :
    2. Feed: Build Up Your Brain
    Much like a muscle, the more you exercise the prefrontal cortex, the stronger it becomes. The goal is to engage in new habits that will increase your dopamine and dopamine receptors.

    Meditation – Making a habit of meditation has been shown to increase dopamine release up to 65%. Even after only 11 hours of meditation spread over a month, changes are observable. (For a Christian approach to meditation, visit or

    Cause a blocked site to appear? Please help

    • Chris McKenna

      Hello, Douglas – I’m not sure without specifically looking through the sites you’re referring to. Can you contact our Customer Service Team at 1-877-479-1119 for assistance? They are excellent and can help.

      Peace, Chris

  34. Maytane Winner

    I completely agree with everything written here! Willpower is a finite resource and all of that fapping really does damage on your frontal cortex! That’s where the money is. There’s an animated video on the matter:

  35. Matty

    Thank you for this wonderful reading. I have been exposed to masturbating at a very young age around 5-6 yrs old and was exposed to porn at age 12. Ever since then it seemed that masterbating was accepted as ‘ok’ basing from how my family and friends reacted to this. It seemed to me that this issue was taken lightly and accepted as a normal thing to do (Except in Church). I am now 21 and still an undergraduate. Masterbating had huge bad effects in my life and I will tell you the story.

    I grew up in a Christian family and I have ‘claimed’ to know Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior at age 9. I can say that in my first years of being a saved young man, I still had the fire in me but as I started to be influenced again by my school friends and media, it gradually left me. I had my ups and downs regarding this bad habit. I can say that the guilt never left me everytime i did it. In fact, I was ready to accept the consequences of my bad action as long as the sin won’t get exposed. For example, I was willing to fail an exam or don’t pass a paper just because I did the bad habit. But I never learned because I still end up passing the course for some strange reason or most likely because of a bad school system. This further led me to do the bad habit even more because I know I can get away with it. After everytime I did it, I go on thoughts of low self-esteem and sadness- even crying to my own. But after I have rested, the next day, if something triggered me, I do it again. This became a cycle and I hope this will not lead into losing my mind.

    I have even decided to stop masterbating before – doing all the necessary actions like telling a friend about this bad habit, searching for similar articles like this, and having regular exercises but as time pass by, I still did it.

    What triggers me were the times I procrastinate, particularly for school. Because of the stress(anxiety?) I feel, I tend to spend my time searching for ‘good’ porn which suits my taste thus, wasting a huge chunk of my time and not being able to work on my duties regreting afterwards.

    I am living a double-standard life acting as if everything is okay when Im around Church, school and my family. Sometimes when I read the Bible in the morning, I still end up at night doing it. I’m a disgrace. I’m getting tired of this lifestyle. and I want change that is why I am planning to open up with my parents about this problem later when I get home.

    My salvation at age 9 was not true. I’m needing of your prayers. This article is really of great help to me. I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

  36. Chirag

    Nice article…tremendously helpful… Keep up the good work… May Nature bless you!!

  37. lucifer

    what a load of crap

  38. Pained Wife

    I keep finding the most perverted, immoral stuff on his computer and phone. I told him it hurts me so he promised me he won’t look at it anymore and tried to justify things saying if I didn’t go so long not having sex with him, he wouldn’t have looked at it. Then says he doesn’t consider it cheating.

    This absolutely is cheating…he is devoting an obsessive amount of time to pursue it, trying to hide it but doesn’t really succeed, lies to me, makes promises in words and repeats his destructive behaviors and I’m almost ready to leave him, even when I told him I wasn’t going anywhere. That’s because the pain I feel from this is unbearable. He can’t achieve erections with me, blames it on weight gain, I know he fantasizes about the crap from porn and because we’ve had this talk before so many times, he always yells at me, blames me, threatens divorce, yet I wonder where is my best friend from years ago. He has become more bitter, swears alot, yells, rarely patient. Not like the loving and supportive husband he used to be. He knows I abhor porn and this is destroying our bond. Why doesn’t he see that?

    I’m sick and tired of him obsessing about porn where he’s always with his phone in the bathroom, on his computer looking it up and can’t wait to look more up the moment he has the chance, even if I’m in the same room. He hates being scrutinized but yet he deserves to. He should be because he blew the trust. I’m afraid to bring it up again.

    Help me please, pray for us because it’s hurting so incredibly much.

    • Kay Bruner

      Hey there.

      I am so, so sorry for the pain you’re going through. It sounds to me like your husband says a few things to keep you engaged in the relationship, like promising not to look any more, then goes on to verbally and emotionally abuse you in blaming you for his choices, and his behaviors do not change over time. In fact, it sounds like he’s becoming more abusive as time goes on.

      Given the reality of the situation, what would healthy boundaries look like for you? I think that is the way forward: how can you make healthy choices for yourself? Here, here, and here are some articles on boundaries to help you think that through.

      You might want to find a counselor, join a group, and check out the online resources at Bloom for Women to provide support as you make these changes.

      You know already that you can’t make your husband make healthy choices. But whatever he chooses, YOU can choose to be healthy.

      Peace to you,

  39. Peter Machado

    I’m 63; I’ve had a life-long addiction that started maybe when I was 4 or 5. It started as images, controlling my imagination, and later on to porn on the pc. I’m still fighting this!
    I’ve had some success with Christian Meditation (mantra style), learning to avoid the porn images with distraction, much like we do with the mantra by learning to avoid thoughts. I’ve confessed – many time, and will continue to do so. I’ve offered my life to Jesus.
    I think I’m on the right track, but I will probably have to spend the rest of my life fighting this – and that’s not all bad, because it means I can never let my guard down, so the good fight must go on.
    Many times I’ve said “I’m now over this for good” – but have come to the realisation that thinking that only serves to make me more vulnerable to another onslaught of porn images.
    I think that by extension, we can learn to battle many other negativities in our lives, i.e. 1)porn addiction, 2)food addiction, 3)addiction to leisure (which to me means just laziness) 4)any other types of addictions.
    Each day I say to myself, not today, and am taking it one day at a time now. I just said that today, it’s 9:24 am, and got the urge to porn a few minutes ago – and after fighting that I googled this site.
    Thank you so much for this site – may God bless you!

  40. Nikki

    My decisions to watch porn within a few months of getting married has cost me my relationship. Not only that, but caused her a great deal of sadness and depression, and has in turn sent me on this journey to be free of porn, and honestly there are so many great reasons to stop. One of the things I’ve started doing, is every time I think about porn, I will watch a video or read an article about how bad porn is. That is how I ended up here. I hope to continue my journey through the path of faith in God, but also knowledge and educating myself of why it’s bad.

  41. Dean

    Porn, social media e.c.t, no wonder it does harm to peoples self esteem . It gives a misconception and an illusion of sorts. Have been going through the same disturbance at times on my journey. relationships have been strained and some loss due to porn. it always leaves you wanting more and more it plays with your satiation mechanisms. i Have come to the conclusion that “enough is never enough syndrome” is partly down to you subconsciously believing YOU arent enough, as we are conditioned by our behavior and experiences we have had throughout our lifetime.
    Porn wrecked havoc with me at early 20s through a break-up, it led me to believing sum thing was wrong with me, it took away my wings for a time, and it has been affecting me to lesser degree here and there ever since. What i have come to the conclusion is, is that all we are is experiences. There is no good or bad its all neutral, only our false self -ego gets in our way. its depends how you respond to the situation will determine the quaility of your life experiences, that is always under your controll. And even though its cloudy and dark at times the light is still there behind that.
    Darkness can only survive in our absents not in our presents, keep fighting the good fight, we are all worth it.

  42. Pornography is directed at children in order to legitimize everything that is produced for viewing in society so that the people who are in authority over what is allowed to exist within the ability of people to shelter their existence with their own skulls is possible and the determination of what is good for you will come from the ability of your own lifes understanding of its ability to survive on the earth with the presence of the knowledge and use of whatever remains at the forefront of events perceived in the attention span of awareness of ourselves and our senses and the experience that our senses allow our understanding of what we experience to teach the people who are learning how we value their existence and how we value what we have received our world from our teachers who hopefully are somewhere in mind still caring about children who are learning to overcome their own weaknesses and inadequacies and accept the fact that we are all individual beings with minds of our own who also must understand that we aren’t alone and we are responsible for everything we are because everyone is part of humanity which we all should think about because we didn’t create ourselves but we have been given life and we should honor it in all living beings who are more valuable than media portrayals of them which pornography is

  43. Morhad

    Thanks for this article I was looking for proof that my lack of focus and my terrible life was related to my addiction as I didn’t see it as an addiction… Porn is the most horrible addiction on earth…Saying that it’s ok once sometimes is wrong…hope a day we won’t have anymore this on the internet.

    I will read this article always when I feel that urge coming back.

    God please do not let me get back into it.

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