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So, you’re a teenager and you’re battling lust. You know that lustful thoughts don’t honor God, and you also don’t like the out-of-control feeling of your sexual desires. It feels dirty—and scary. But it seems like other Christians don’t have the same struggles, and the world around you thinks you’re…
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The sad reality for nearly every adult who struggles with porn is that their compulsive porn use started in childhood. In the more than two decades I that have been working with hundreds of men and women trying to overcome pornography addiction, I have met only one who did not…
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The search for answers in the fight against childhood exposure to pornography has grown more challenging. A 2009 study shows that the number of kids seeking it online is growing higher, while their age is lowering. According to a new study, children as young as seven and under are searching…
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Of course porn is literally a four-letter word. But the expression “four-letter word” has been used in the last century to refer to words that are vulgar, obscene, and sexually explicit. For many years “porn” has been a four-letter word in certain Christian circles. It was simply too taboo to…
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Attachment theory posits that the way we interact with our primary caregivers as children shapes how we form relationships later in life. Dr. Gregory Popcak has explored attachment theory and looked at its connection to pornography addiction. He argues that the root cause of unwanted porn use and addiction can…
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Your web browser does not support iframes, which means that the video Porn Activation Sequence cannot play. One of the most helpful explanations I’ve heard about pornography addiction is Dr. Kevin Skinner’s “activation sequence.” In this video I explain what the sequence is and why it is important…
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If there ever was a time in our culture when porn was an exclusively male habit, that time is long gone. About half of young adult women today believe viewing pornography is acceptable behavior. About one third of young women today use porn from time to time, and one in five do…
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I’m not supposed to be typing this. I’m supposed to tell you about all the red-letter dangers of the Big Bad Internet. I’m supposed to make you tremble at the thought of turning on your computer in fear that some ferocious porn girl will flash you, or some predator will…
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I was 36, married for 15 years, serving in our Church, attending life group and sending our girls to a Christian school to help raise them in the ways of the Lord. I thought pornography was something non-believers looked at. I didn’t really know what it entailed. I never imagined…
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“My husband is the sex addict; why should I feel shame?” For most healthy outsiders, the logical answer is, “You shouldn’t.” But for most spouses of sex addicts, the feeling of shame clings to us like a body suit. Shame can result from an overwhelming assault on our self-worth. It…