Rebuild Your Marriage man being interviewed in living room
Rebuild Your Marriage 1 minute read

How You and Your Spouse Can Figure Out Accountability

Last Updated: February 18, 2014

What role does your spouse play in your accountability? It’s important for you to work it out.

In this video, I suggests four questions you and your spouse need to consider and one wise suggestion on how to start.

Here are the four questions:

  1. How involved does your spouse want to be?
  2. How damaged is your spouse by your sexual behaviors, cover-up and lying?
  3. How much detail can your spouse handle and still be safe?
  4. How will you and your spouse handle slips?

Accountability Jumpstarts Can Help!

My wife and I offer a service on our PurityCoaching.com website called Accountability Jumpstarts. We are willing to be your accountability partner for one, two, or three months. It could be a great help to you, especially when your spouse needs to be able to trust your accountability partners.

For Covenant Eyes readers only, use the code COVEYES25 for a 25% discount on your Accountability Jumpstarts service.

  1. Candace

    I am defeated, my husband of 22 years has suffered from a porn addiction, but blames my being controlling of everything as a cause, i have hurt and tried to understand and not take charge of things, but then he’s angry because i expect him to make some decisions about home projects or the kids, it is exhausting. he has been visiting with our pastor that married us but he doesn’t have much faith, or just doesn’t feel that it will help, now he wants me to go to marriage counciling for my controling attitude, i would drink gasoline at this point if it would end this problem and my trust issues.

    • Your husband is wrong. He needs to be a man and own his sins. Blaming you is both cruel to you and enslaving to him. The more he justifies his sin because of what you do or don’t do, the longer he stays trapped.

      Here’s the reality: you may or may not have problem with “controlling” your husband. If that is your sin, fine. You can admit to that if it is true. But let him also account for his sins. No matter how odious he thinks you have been to him, he should never blame you for his unfaithfulness. You are not guilty for his sins at all.

      Are you talking to anyone about this? Do you have a support system? It is so important that you have people around you who can give you clear advice, listen to you, and support you.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Related in Rebuild Your Marriage

Editor's Picks

Happy couple at the beach.

Rebuild Your Marriage

Rebuilding Trust in Marriage Through Boundaries

In situations where a marriage has been affected by pornography use, it’s…

5 minute read

Read Post

Editor's Picks

Happy family of six.

Rebuild Your Marriage

From Secret Addiction to Full Transparency

After being married for eight years, I came home unexpectedly one afternoon…

4 minute read

Read Post

Editor's Picks

Phil Robertson discussing The Blind with Covenant Eyes.

Rebuild Your Marriage

4 Reasons You Should Watch “The Blind”

The Covenant Eyes Podcast team recently made the trip DEEP into the…

4 minute read

Read Post

Editor's Picks

A mother with her teenage daughters.

Rebuild Your Marriage

How Porn Shattered My Life: A Betrayed Partner’s Perspective

I was 36, married for 15 years, serving in our Church, attending…

5 minute read

Read Post

Editor's Picks

A picture of Dave and Ashley Willis.

Rebuild Your Marriage

Porn Counterfeits Naked Marriage: With Dave and Ashley Willis

What is “naked marriage” all about? We sat down with popular podcasters…

3 minute read

Read Post

Editor's Picks

Rebuild Your Marriage

4 Words of Wisdom From Al and Lisa Robertson

What does the famous Duck Dynasty Clan have to say to Covenant…

3 minute read

Read Post

Related in Rebuild Your Marriage

Happy couple at the beach.

Rebuild Your Marriage

Rebuilding Trust in Marriage Through Boundaries

In situations where a marriage has been affected by pornography use, it’s…

In situations where a marriage has been affected by pornography use, it’s common for one person to feel responsible for the healing process, while the other doesn’t take enough responsibility. This dynamic can lead to…

5 minute read

0 comments

Happy family of six.

Rebuild Your Marriage

From Secret Addiction to Full Transparency

After being married for eight years, I came home unexpectedly one afternoon…

After being married for eight years, I came home unexpectedly one afternoon to find out that my husband had a pornography addiction. I was defeated, brokenhearted, and overwhelmed. I was a young, stay-at-home mom with…

4 minute read

0 comments

Phil Robertson discussing The Blind with Covenant Eyes.

Rebuild Your Marriage

4 Reasons You Should Watch “The Blind”

The Covenant Eyes Podcast team recently made the trip DEEP into the…

The Covenant Eyes Podcast team recently made the trip DEEP into the heart of Louisiana to meet with Phil and Kay Robertson of Duck Dynasty fame, and to talk about their new movie, The Blind.…

4 minute read

0 comments

A mother with her teenage daughters.

Rebuild Your Marriage

How Porn Shattered My Life: A Betrayed Partner’s Perspective

I was 36, married for 15 years, serving in our Church, attending…

I was 36, married for 15 years, serving in our Church, attending life group and sending our girls to a Christian school to help raise them in the ways of the Lord. I thought pornography…

5 minute read

4 comments

A picture of Dave and Ashley Willis.

Rebuild Your Marriage

Porn Counterfeits Naked Marriage: With Dave and Ashley Willis

What is “naked marriage” all about? We sat down with popular podcasters…

What is “naked marriage” all about? We sat down with popular podcasters Dave and Ashley Willis to find out, and we learned an important message about God’s design for sex and how porn counterfeits it.…

3 minute read

0 comments

Rebuild Your Marriage

4 Words of Wisdom From Al and Lisa Robertson

What does the famous Duck Dynasty Clan have to say to Covenant…

What does the famous Duck Dynasty Clan have to say to Covenant Eyes? We wanted to know, so our podcast team sat down with Al and Lisa Robertson to talk about their shows and other…

3 minute read

0 comments